People who are mentally exhausted always exhaust themselves.
It seems to be very hard, but there is no good effect; doing the same thing with the people around you, others are very relaxed, but they are very tired.
In fact, on the surface, he looks no different from the people around him, but in fact, his heart and spirit are turning the river upside down.
A person's mental internal friction comes from many aspects, not only the pressure brought by the outside world, but also the inner troubles and complex emotions.
The most direct manifestation of mental internal friction is: procrastination.
Procrastination is actually another form of mental attrition.
The more you procrastinate, the more intense the anxiety becomes; then, your spirit will be exhausted by your own procrastination.
While wanting to change, while continuing to procrastinate, this contradictory and struggling state makes your spirit more and more anxious.
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Procrastination will only exacerbate your mental attrition
Do you know?
The relationship between procrastination and mental internal friction is mutually influential.
The more severe the procrastination, the deeper a person's mental attrition will deepen; conversely, if a person is always in a state of mental attrition, then everything he does will become procrastinating.
What are the manifestations of a person's procrastination?
At work:
With 8 hours a day, he had to put all his tasks into the last two hours.
If no one urges him, he can delay until he leaves work to hand over his results.
In life:
I had planned to wash clothes, mop the floor, and clean; I could open the short video and brush it for several hours.
I thought to myself, "It's okay, I'll watch it for 10 minutes and I'll do the housework."
But after several tens of minutes, he was still lying on the couch brushing his mobile phone, and he did not get up to get busy until the mobile phone ran out of power.
Procrastination is one of the biggest problems that hinder a person's development and life.
Because procrastination and self-discipline are opposites, procrastination will make you unplanned and break your original rhythm again and again.
You could have done a task in half an hour, but you delayed it for hours.
Time is wasted, and your tasks are hurriedly completed by you, in no efficiency.
Delaying in a short period of time will make you feel chagrin, and you will have the idea of "anger and indisputability" in your heart.
But a long delay will make a mess of your life little by little.
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What effect does procrastination have on a person?
First: I often feel physically and mentally exhausted
It is precisely because procrastination makes a person very anxious and upset inside, so he is prone to exhaustion.
Constantly engaged in mental attrition with himself, there were two voices in his head fighting.
One is the executor, the other is the procrastinator, and the two are vying for the final victory.
How can you not feel tired after being in such a state of procrastination and internal friction for a long time?
Second: Over time, you will become inferior
Yes, people with severe procrastination will become more and more disgusted with themselves over time.
The reason why he hates himself is that he resents his poor execution and poor action.
Thinking that you have no better grades and no good life is caused by your own procrastination.
But realizing this, he still didn't change anything.
In the midst of this internal friction and struggle, he became angry, anxious, looked down on himself, and eventually went to inferiority.
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How can we change procrastination?
What is a person's greatest charm?
I think it's: no procrastination, high execution, say one thing and two things.
In the book Elephants and The Elephant Rider, there is one point of particular interest.
"Man's emotions are like an elephant, and his intellect is like an elephant rider. The elephant rider sat on the elephant's back, holding the reins in his hand, and it seemed that he was directing the elephant; in fact, his strength was insignificant compared to that of the elephant. Once in conflict with an elephant, he wants to go left, and the elephant tends to be to the right. ”
What does this mean?
People always struggle between emotion and reason, but the funny thing is that emotions always easily overcome their own reason.
And if you are in a state of procrastination, you are more emotional than rational, so you lack execution.
How do you change this state and reject mental attrition?
First: subdivide work, incentives and actions coexist
The easiest way to do this is to take the "5-minute rule".
It can be understood like this:
Divide a job according to the 5-minute pattern; of course, this is just an example, it can also be divided into 10 minutes, half an hour a phase.
A complex and difficult task, to complete one of the links, reward yourself with 5 minutes of rest; then, 5 minutes of time to pass immediately proceed to the next stage of the task.
When you are able to complete a loop, you will find that your execution is indeed changing.
Doing housework, cleaning up, work, etc., can use this method to improve our execution.
Want to rest, relax, play games, these are your rewards.
To receive these rewards, you must complete a phase of work.
Second: Correct the mentality and strengthen the faith
People who procrastinate hard are often not in a good enough state of mind.
They think too much and act too little, and every day their minds are filled with all kinds of information, but they are unwilling to execute.
Over time, the mentality will only get worse and worse.
Therefore, if you want to overcome your own internal friction and procrastination, the mentality is very important.
Zeng Guofan said:
"Things come to conform, the future is not welcome, the present is not complicated, the past is not thought."
The meaning of this sentence is to do the things in the present and not think about what tomorrow will become; when doing the things in hand, you must ensure concentration; no matter what happened in the past or just happened, don't pursue it.
Don't get caught up in the past, and don't let what didn't happen affect your thinking.
Just do the present and grasp the present moment.
Today's Topic:
Do you have "procrastination"?
Is your mental attrition serious?
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