CCTV host Zhang Hongmin, decided to play a lifetime of single sticks, the reason is what do you know?
Is it necessarily happy to be married?
Wouldn't it be happy not to get married?
CCTV host Zhang Hongmin explained these two statements very well.
Many netizens who questioned him have said: "It is impossible not to fall in love and not get married, right?" There must be a problem".
Netizen: "When you are young, you don't get married or fall in love until you are old, you know how uncomfortable it is to be alone."
Friends around me also advised Zhang Hongmin: "When the lights of the Ten Thousand Families are reunited, don't you have a sense of loss?" ”。
There is no way to measure a person's happiness and unhappiness when married or not to marry, isn't that the case?
Zhang Hongmin at that time was the most popular among the audience's CCTV hosts, and he emphasized in a round manner that his upright facial features left a very good impression on people.
Do you know the reason for deciding to play a single stick for the rest of your life?
Come and find out with me!
1. Admitted to Beijing Broadcasting Institute to enter CCTV
Zhang Hongmin was born in Beijing in 1961, and it is not easy to talk about his family.
He was born into a family with a strong cultural background, his mother was the president of Tsinghua University, and his father was also a high-ranking intellectual.
At that time, such a family was already very good, under the influence of such a family environment, Zhang Hongmin's academic performance was very good from an early age, and the relatives and neighbors around him hated why their children could not be like Zhang Hongmin.
Zhang Hongmin has been more stable and mature than his peers since he was a child, he knows what to do and what not to do, and he has his own clear goals since he was a child.
Learning this kind of thing never requires parental supervision and inspection, and the first thing to do when I come home from school every day is to write my homework, until I finish my homework and prepare for the next day's homework.
On the eve of the college entrance examination, Zhang Hongmin already had a university that he wanted to take, and he filled in the Beijing Broadcasting Institute on the volunteer column of the college entrance examination, and for Zhang Hongmin, who has excellent academic performance since childhood, it is also reasonable to be admitted to the Beijing Broadcasting College.
Zhang Hongmin's mother knows how to educate her children very well, she never asks more about what her children want to do, and on the confused road, Zhang Hongmin's mother has given Zhang Hongmin a lot of help.
In 1982, Zhang Hongmin had graduated from the Beijing Broadcasting Institute, and his family had already found a very good job for Zhang Hongmin, but Zhang Hongmin himself wanted to work at CCTV, and he preferred to start from the bottom rather than go to the family to arrange the work.
For Zhang Hongmin's thoughts, Zhang Mother and Zhang Father also chose to let him make his own decisions.
After graduation, Zhang Hongmin entered CCTV through his own efforts, which is 32 years, he started from the lowest level, just like learning as a child, each stage has its own goals.
For his work, he has done it very seriously every time, worked hard and complained, and never felt that he would suffer losses if he did a little more than others.
During the work, Zhang Hongmin's mother also cared about Zhang Hongmin, whether it was wrapped dumplings or stewed soup, she sent it to her son for the first time, and every time she would let Zhang Hongmin eat hot.
Because the broadcast is very tired, Zhang's mother will buy fresh Sydney pear stew every time to send to Zhang Hongmin, and every time her colleagues see it, she will say: "Xiao Zhang, your mother has come to send you something again, it is really good and envious."
In the unit, he is the most envied person of all colleagues.
Mother Zhang and Father Zhang like to listen to the radio very much, but every time their son comes back from work, they turn it off to create a good rest environment for their son.
It is indeed very rare for parents to know in this way.
2. Insist on living alone for a lifetime
Zhang Hongmin is a very talkative person, whether it is a small trader or colleague selling vegetables, or a passerby, he can talk to others for two sentences, he has not become looking down on people because of his work, and he has no attitude of hanging high.
People around him commented on Zhang Hongmin like this: "Zhang Hongmin is a very approachable person, he is very kind to the people around him, and it is a very happy thing to be friends with him."
Even though he has many friends from all over the world, his emotional problems have become a major problem.
Looking at Zhang Hongmin, who has a successful career, how can his parents not worry about his marriage?
Mother Zhang would say every time: "Son, have you had a girlfriend?" Whatever you like, we support you, while I and your dad are still young and can show you the children, or we will be in a bad position before we get older."
In fact, Zhang Hongmin very much hopes that Zhang Hongmin can quickly find a marriage partner to marry, as long as the son is married and gives birth to a child, the old couple can enjoy the happiest life.
But every time Zhang Hongmin told his mother: "Mom, we are too busy in the station, I don't have so much time to make a girlfriend, if there is a suitable one, I will immediately take it home to show you, you don't have to worry about me."
Zhang's mother knew that her son had been a person with a very good idea since he was a child, so she didn't say anything more, but every time Zhang Hongmin returned home from vacation, his parents always had a look of wanting to talk and stopping, how could Zhang Hongmin not notice it.
But during that time, he single-mindedly wanted to climb his career to the peak, and during that time, Zhang Hongmin was indeed very tired, and her parents did not urge her again.
Indeed, if a person is concentrated on his career, he really does not have time to make a girlfriend, while busy with his career and making a girlfriend, he is tired, sometimes he can't give his girlfriend what he wants, and he doesn't have so much time to accompany her.
After working hard for so many years, Zhang Hongmin did have a lot of achievements in his career, but his age was also very large at this time, and his good friends also advised him: "How can I do it if I don't become a family?" You have already achieved a little success at work, you should find a good partner now, and let your parents hold your grandchildren as soon as possible."
In fact, not only his friends advised him, the leaders of the unit, the relatives around him, every New Year's Holiday will ask Zhang Hongmin, why haven't you made a girlfriend yet? Is it too high a vision.
His parents were also very anxious and began to arrange blind dates for him, Zhang Mu: "A friend of mine told you a blind date, you will go to see it this weekend, the first sight of the success is saying."
Influenced by the people around him, how could Zhang Hongmin, who was almost middle-aged, not have ripples in his heart? Since then, he has been listening to the family's arrangements to go on a blind date.
After many blind dates, Zhang's mother was eager to go with her son, and finally after many times, Zhang Hongmin met a suitable object, and the two people slowly talked first.
But Zhang Hongmin has not had any experience in love for so many years, in our current words, it is more "steel straight man", talking more like to go straight, what to say, it didn't take long for people to break up with him.
Even if the family arranged a blind date for him later, he never went again, and each time he used various excuses to prevaricate the past, and the feeling that repeated failures brought him was: "Too tired."
Zhang Hongmin's good friend Luo Jing is the opposite of him, Luo Jing was married very early, the two of them also lived very lovingly, although Luo Jing's work is very busy, his virtuous wife will always take care of everything in the family.
Luo Jing said Zhang Hongmin more than once: "You look at me, my wife will make a meal every time and wait for me to go back to eat, there are children in the family who are also very lively, isn't this the way the day is?" Aren't you sad whenever you are reunited with your family in the New Year? You have your parents with you now, but how long can they stay with you? ”。
Zhang Hongmin, who is not married, is accustomed to the joys and sorrows of the people around him, and some of his colleagues have been divorced after less than a year of marriage, and there are more than ten years of love that divorce will be divorced.
Luo Jing also said to him before he died: "I have lived a very good life in my life, the only thing that makes me feel the most uncomfortable is that I have not been able to accompany my family well at work, if I leave, if there is anything in my family, you must try your best to help."
In 2008, Luo Jing was diagnosed with lymphoma, but he still chose to continue working because he loved his work very much, and it was because of this that he would say those words to Zhang Hongmin.
From the detection of lymphoma to his death, in just over a year, Luo Jing's illness and death Zhang Hongmin were in his eyes, and this incident had a great impact on him.
In addition to the death of his sad friend, Zhang Hongmin had some more thoughts in his heart.
After the death of his good friend Luo Jing, Zhang Hongmin told his parents solemnly after returning home: "You should be filial piety, I really want to live alone for a lifetime, even if I am married, what will happen?"
Two people get together less and more, we can't see each other when I'm busy at work, and the big and small things in the family have to be handed over to others to do, so I don't want to go in my heart, and the rest of the time I want to accompany you and take you around to play."
Zhang's mother, Zhang Father, is an intellectual who has seen the world, and they just sighed a long sigh at their son's thoughts and said: "You don't have to worry about your family since you were a child, and only your life's events have broken our hearts, since you have said so, we will not say anything more, you just do what you want."
No matter how old the son is, the mother is always the one who is most worried, Mother Zhang: "When I leave with your father, you don't have a companion or a son and a half-daughter around you, who will take care of you?" ”。
Zhang Hongmin said: "There must be a road before the car to the mountain, and the current nursing home conditions are so good."
3. No wife and no children, accompany their parents for a lifetime of happiness
After working for several decades from CCTV, Zhang Hongmin left a very deep impression on everyone, emphasizing a healthy atmosphere in a round manner, and in 2014, the 53-year-old Zhang Hongmin completed his last broadcast from the studio.
He went from the lowest level to the CCTV host and experienced countless heartaches behind it.
After retirement, Zhang Hongmin's figure has gradually become plump, from a righteous young man to a retired middle-aged man in an instant, and the most important thing he does now is to accompany his parents.
The age of his parents is already very unfavorable, and Zhang Hongmin, who is now 60 years old, will accompany them every day, chat with his father, and wash his mother's hair.
When I'm fine, I'll go out and exercise.
What do you think about this?