On October 10, 2017, 50-year-old Hou Yong put on the groom's dress for the third time, held his wife in his 20s at the Bulgari Hotel in Beijing, and greeted his relatives and friends with a smile.
Hou Yong, who went in and out of the besieged city three times, still exuded the determination and self-confidence of pursuing happiness.
It's just that he had promised to love her ex-wife for the rest of his life, and how would he feel when he mentioned that his black-faced ex-wife would feel when he saw him married?
01
In 1967, it was in this turbulent era that Hou Yong was born in Lianyungang City, Jiangsu Province, and he was mischievous since he was a child, often playing with children of the same age.
He is the eldest in the family, his younger brothers and sisters are bullied outside, and he, the eldest brother, always goes out without hesitation, so he often "injures" home.
At that time, knowledge was not advocated, and his parents did not manage strictly, and it just so happened that Hou Yong did not like to read, so skipping classes and not writing homework became the norm.
In this way, he mixed into the third year of junior high school. His parents were running for the family's livelihood and had no time to plan Hou Yong's future, so the 16-year-old Hou Yong embarked on the road of beating workers.
16 years old, no technology and no culture, no one wants to use him, only a brute force has no place to use.
So he went into the local fertilizer factory as a carbon siever, he went out to work clean every day, went home in the dark, and sifted through almost dozens of tons of carbon a day.
Even if he can share the financial difficulties for his family and not have to go to class, he is still very happy, and sometimes he is very happy to do it, and he will sing a song when he comes.
But his mother was very distressed about him and did not want him to do such a heavy physical job, so she asked him to find him a job baking bread in a bakery, which was easy, and occasionally stole seven or eight loaves of bread to fill his stomach in his free time.
This time, Hou Yong's turn was not satisfied, the sieving carbon workers were too tired to think about the future, and once they had free time, they began to think wildly.
He felt that toast was not technical and the work was too boring, so he went to the meat factory to sell pork.
Originally, I thought that the butcher was also selling the strength of the handle, but I did not expect to let him do the flowers.
After selling pork for more than half a year, he knows a few pounds of meat without weighing it, and he will also look at the texture of the pork, and he will know whether it is the tip of the pig's hips or the front legs of the pig.
He has achieved excellent results in many local pork competitions, and he can completely separate pork and pig bones in just 13 seconds. Therefore, he was given the nickname "Hou Yi Dao" by the employees in the factory.
Soon, he was promoted to deputy director of the workshop of the pork factory, a job that was hard but earned a lot, and he lived happily and peacefully every day, thinking that this was the end of his life.
But when the turning point of fate comes, I won't even say hello to you.
02
In 1987, Hou Yong's good friend Zhou Shunli was going to take the exam of the Jiangsu Provincial Academy of Drama, and he had little self-confidence, so he pulled Hou Yong to join him to strengthen his courage.
Dramatically, Zhou smoothly fell, and Hou Yong was successfully admitted.
In fact, at that time, he even spoke Mandarin, and when he performed, he directly performed the "twelve-way bouncing legs" he learned when fighting with children, and he was admitted.
But instead of rejoicing, he was a little embarrassed. Do you continue to sell pork for money or do you go to a decent job as an actor? He couldn't make up his mind.
So he consulted with his father, thinking that the actual father would let him continue to sell meat, but he did not expect that his father suggested that he go outside while he was young.
After graduating from secondary school, he was assigned to the Nanjing Frontline Repertory Theatre, where he met his ex-wife Shen Rong.
Shen Rong had a delicate face and a good physical fitness, and she soon became a pillar in the regiment. She has starred in "Married Girl" and won two consecutive Feitian Awards for "The Story of the Township" and "The Story of the Double Bridge".
After Hou Yong arrived at the troupe, he could only run away from the dragon set, playing the role of a passerby, and occasionally performing a two-hour sculpture.
In such a situation where women are strong and men are weak, the two are still in love. Because Shen Rong always felt that Hou Yong would get ahead with the woman's sixth sense, but her feelings did not foreshadow the end of the two of them.
The two married in 1992.
At this time, Pan Yuchen was only in junior high school and went to Shenyang to study alone, and Wang Rui estimated that he did not have to wear diapers.
When they first got married, both of them were busy with their own careers, Shen Rong was still the shining heroine on the stage, and Hou Yong was still the obscure dragon set actor.
Once, Shen Rong was pregnant, I don't know if she didn't know or was too confident, she had a stomachache when filming, and after being rushed to the hospital, the child could not be saved.
Shen Rong and Hou Yong were full of remorse, but to no avail.
After that, Shen Rong's body took a sharp turn. So she went home to concentrate on raising her body and preparing for pregnancy, and unexpectedly, she had another serious illness and went away at the ghost gate.
In order to take care of her, Hou Yong put his work aside for the time being, went home to cook and bathe her, and fully resembled the image of a good man.
Soon, Shen Rong recovered her health. When the conditions are met, the two are once again caught in the cycle of pregnancy preparation. Unfortunately, it has not been successful.
In 1999, China sent two soldiers to Venezuela for training, and in 2001, the Bayi Film Studio wanted to bring the story to the big screen, so the studio went to the Frontline Repertory Theater to cast, and the crew immediately fell in love with Hou Yong.
In order to support him to star, Shen Rong took over all the big and small things in the family, and also took out years of acting experience to face him.
With the support of his wife and the desire to make a career quickly, Hou Yong is fighting for his life in the crew.
During the filming, there was a shot of jumping from the plane to the sea, which could only be done by professional Marines soldiers, and Hou Yong could not do it at all.
But in order to be more realistic, Hou Yong wanted to try it, so the crew gave him a temporary jumping platform on the ship, and when he jumped, he was almost swept into the turbine of the ship, or he grabbed a rope in his hand, and he almost died.
There is also a shot of fighting with crocodiles, Hou Yong is in the same water as several real crocodiles, and if he is not careful, it will become a crocodile's dinner.
Desperately filmed scenes are bound to pay off.
"Rushing Out of the Amazon" is China's first film about the theme of special forces, after the release of the film, Hou Yong was known as the "godfather of special forces", and he also won the Huabiao Award for Outstanding Actor and the Phoenix Award for Acting Society.
At the award ceremony, Hou Yong was excited and thanked his wife Shen Rong and promised to love her for a lifetime.
It's just that the success of his career didn't weaken his desire for a child, and their marriage began to come to an end.
Divorce is normal, but a scandal has caused his good man to collapse.
03
When Hou Yong's career was booming, Shen Rong had become the woman behind him, and Pan Yuchen's career had slowly improved.
In 2002, Pan Yuchen graduated from the Beijing Film Academy and stayed on as an acting teacher. During her teaching, she also goes to the running crew to act.
In 2005, Hou Yong and Pan Yuchen walked into the same crew "Can't Live Without You", in which the two played a couple, intimate in the play, and often discussed the script outside the play.
Both hearts were stirring, but Pan Yuchen was not Hou Yong's one.
In 2006, Pan Yuchen starred in He Zizhen in "Jinggang Mountain", and in 2010, he cooperated with Zhang Yi in "Snowflake That Drifts".
Pan Yuchen has always played a positive image, which is very consistent with her temperament, and she has always been a bright and shining existence in the show business circle.
On the other hand, Hou Yong's marriage with Shen Rong finally came to an end, and he walked hand in hand with more than ten years of feelings, thinking that Hou Yong would digest it for a while, but he did not expect that his scandal with Xing Yufei could not be covered.
The two met when filming the TV series "Highland", and the two had a good personal relationship outside of filming, and Hou Yongcheng's outlier and stable temperament can always attract the favor of women younger than him.
Rumors came out of the crew one after another, Hou Yong never admitted it, but Xing Yufei generously admitted it, and said that the two had been well for three years.
If according to Xing Yufei, then when she and Hou Yong were together, the man was not divorced, then Hou Yong was cheating in marriage.
Shen Rong did not respond to this matter, Hou Yong did not admit it, and there was no way to verify it.
The profession of an actor is easy to make people feel emotional, especially when filming emotional scenes, facing a woman for three or four months, but also in the play there are emotional entanglements, and the plot must be discussed outside the play, and over time, the shining points on the other party will always be found.
The heart will move.
"I think when I am twenty or thirty years old, I will still have an affair with an actress because of drama, and after forty years old, I must separate my career from my life," Hou Yong said, but it seems that he did not do so.
In 2011, Hou Yong suddenly held a wedding with Pan Yuchen, and his scandal with Xing Yufei had not yet settled, but it was another stove.
And Shen Rong, whom he had promised to love for a lifetime, had completely disappeared in his world.
Hou Yong's second marriage did not get the blessing of the audience, everyone questioned Pan Yuchen is a third party, and Hou Yong will shoot three or four film and television dramas every year, according to the calculation of 50,000 yuan per episode, his annual income is as high as tens of millions.
At this time, Shen Rong was "abandoned", and everyone thought that he was "rich and noble, forgetting the chaff".
Even Pan Yuchen's parents objected, believing that Hou Yong was 11 years older than Pan Yuchen or a second marriage, and from which condition, Hou Yong was not worthy of his daughter.
But the matter of feelings is not only the match of external conditions, but the fit of the soul. At that time, Pan Yuchen thought that he had found a soul mate.
Therefore, Pan Yuchen withstood the pressure of everyone's opposition and entered into marriage with Hou Yong.
However, three years later, she left the Hou Yong family with her daughter rolled up in a blanket.
04
After marriage, the two had a very sweet life, in addition to filming the two were glued together, soon, Pan Yuchen gave birth to a daughter, 44-year-old Hou Yong finally had a child.
I thought that the first marriage was because I had no children, but the second marriage was more or less due to having children.
After giving birth to a child, Pan Yuchen's life revolves around her daughter, and Hou Yong will discuss with Pan Yuchen which drama is good to play and which role is not good to play, and the common cause makes their common topic continue.
But after having a daughter, Pan Yuchen is more willing to discuss her children with Hou Yong, and Hou Yong's problems and achievements in work are not shared.
The two have fewer and fewer topics in common, and they have more and more quarrels when they meet.
Hou Yong became very grumpy, and at every turn he lost his temper and accused Pan Yuchen, Pan Yuchen put all her energy on the child, her suffering had no place to pour out, and she had to endure Hou Yong's groundless accusations.
The two quarreled bitterly, and in the end, the marriage that lasted only three years finally came to an end.
After the divorce, Pan Yuchen took the child back to her hometown and asked her parents to help take care of it. Hou Yong just wanted his daughter to call her.
After returning to singlehood, Hou Yong had more time to focus on acting.
In 2017, he played the petty official giant Zhao Dehan who only lived for two episodes in "The Name of the People", and he played the self-interested and timid Director Zhao to the fullest, making people hate and pity this huge greed.
Because of this drama, Hou Yong's career set off a small climax.
The more attention you receive, the more you will judge your every move.
In 2017, Hou Yong, who was at the age of knowing the destiny, and his post-90s girlfriend Wang Rui entered the palace of marriage for the third time, and this time the wedding was still low-key, only inviting relatives and friends from both sides.
Although Wang Rui is an elite in the financial world, his appearance is very bearish, and he does not lose his ex-wife in Hou Yong's previous two circles.
However, as soon as the news of the marriage came out, the discussion of Hou Yong's emotional experience also reached the extreme, and speculation was about the reason for his second divorce.
Pan Yuchen was not willing to mention the past at all, mentioning that Hou Yong was black-faced, and seemed to be hurt a lot in this relationship. And Hou Yongyin remarried his wife, and talking about the past was like telling his story.
In an interview, he finally revealed the reasons for the second divorce, saying:
"My family was very traditional, my parents always wanted a grandchild to pass on the bloodline", and he was very irritable during that time, and later went to the hospital to learn that he had reached menopause.
After knowing the reason, he was very emotional, thinking that if he knew that this was the case, early treatment and early intervention, maybe his daughter would have a complete family.
However, he lives very transparently, for the replacement of love, some people only guard one person in their lives, and some people pursue love that is only as they first saw all their lives, and he admires the former but understands the latter.
Hou Yong is more than half a hundred years old, married to a wife spanning the 70s, 80s, 90s three years, but also beautiful as a flower, if you filter out the sadness and sadness of the moment when the feelings are broken, then his life is also worth enviing?
Now he lives comfortably with his wife, who is in his 20s, and occasionally meets three or five friends for drinks and chats.
Occasionally taking his little wife on vacation, under the infection of his wife, he dressed up fashionably and young.
epilogue
For feelings, Hou Yong rarely responds, as an actor, he hopes that everyone will pay more attention to his works, and private feelings will let him solve it privately.
Do not know the suffering of others, do not persuade others to be good, the bankruptcy of a marriage, neither man nor woman is innocent.
Just feel happy, what do you think?