In "Happiness Like a Flower", Bai Yang went to great lengths to pursue Du Juan. He is handsome, romantic, and knows how to capture the hearts of girls. After Du Juan and Lin Bin broke up, they were depressed all day, and Bai Yang rose to the challenge, step by step, breaking through Du Juan's atrium, squeezing Lin Bin out of Du Juan's heart, and successfully hugging the beauty.
Du Juan can marry Bai Yang, the son of a high-ranking cadre, and many people can't envy it. Even the good girlfriend Damei said that Bai Yang's appearance and family situation were one of the best, and if he missed him, it would be difficult to meet someone with better conditions than him. However, Du Juan knew in her heart how painful it was for her to live after marrying Bai Yang, and Bai Yang seemed to have a deep-rooted love, but in fact, he had never "truly" loved her.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3" >1. The appearance of Lin Bin aroused poplar's desire to win or lose. </h1>
Bai Yang and Lin Bin did not deal with each other from the first time they met. Lin Bin is handsome and talented, except that his family is not as good as him, and he has some inferiority in his heart, and everything else is stronger than him. In particular, Bai Yang's father praised Lin Bin, but he never praised Bai Yang half a sentence, and Bai Yang was even more dissatisfied.
Du Juan is the pillar of the literary troupe, and Bai Yang likes her simple and beautiful, but this kind of liking is not love. For him, Du Juan was just a sense of freshness. After tasting it, I got tired of it. He never wanted to marry Du Juan until he heard that Lin Bin also liked Du Juan.
In the original work, it is written: Bai Yang found Lin Bin and said word by word: You will stay away from Du Juan in the future, I like him.
Lin Bin stared at Bai Yang, Bai Yang did not want to show weakness and looked at Lin Bin, Lin Bin was shy, and smiled: There is no such reason in the world, if you like it, you are not allowed to like it?
Bai Yang stared at Lin Bin roguely: I Bai Yang is this rule.
Lin Bin was a little speechless: Du Juan promised you? As long as she doesn't agree, who of us will catch up with whom, so fair?
Poplar nodded his head with his neck, and the corners of his mouth raised a triumphant smile. He was full of confidence in pursuing girls, and since junior high school he had been known as the love breed, and he had such confidence.
Da Mei has had a crush on Poplar for a long time, but she knows in her heart that Poplar has a very high vision, and even she is one of the best beauties in the literary troupe, most of the time, it is those girls who love him to death and live, he is like a person who has nothing to do, leaving only a dashing back.
Du Juan's thoughts were simple, and Bai Yang had full certainty in his heart, as long as he took the shot, it was sooner or later to take down Du Juan. Since the open competition with Lin Bin, Bai Yang is full of Du Juan, and when he sees Du Juan taking care of Lin Bin, he will be angry and crazy.
Bai Yang thinks that he is really in love with Du Juan, and he is entangled in this emotion and can't sleep at night, but Bai Yang's friend breaks the truth in one word: You can't stand your self-esteem, and you are not willing to lose to Lin Bin, right?
Poplar grew up looking like a clumsy boy, and in terms of betting, he never lost. Now seeing that the relationship between Lin Bin and Du Juan was getting closer and closer, he was anxious, but he understood this anger and corruption as love.
After Lin Bin left the army for personal reasons, in order not to delay Du Juan's future and not let her live a hard life with herself, he took the initiative to break off contact with Du Juan. Bai Yang took advantage of the void and greeted Du Juan every day, and expressed his love with a thick skin.
Bai Yang went to the grassroots to work for a month, every three to five to write love letters to Du Juan, those love letters are full of affection, Bai Yang thought that Du Juan would be moved to tears, took the initiative to run to his arms, did not expect Du Juan but said: Don't think I don't know, those love letters are copied from somewhere else.
At that moment, for the first time, I had doubts about Poplar's sincerity. A man, if he really loves a woman, is most likely to impress the other party with sincerity. Bai Yang's pursuit of Du Juan is full of routines. If he really loves Du Juan, with his understanding of his feelings, he can create a love letter that belongs only to him and Du Juan. But he even wrote love letters so perfunctorily, copying a few sentences from the book, even if he paid the sincerity, such a sincere heart, too cheap.
Lin Bin also wrote letters to Du Juan, which rarely mentioned Du Juan's name and his own life, but each letter was full of love. He loved her so much that he loved her deeply. And Bai Yang's love for Du Juan is perfunctory, and his desire to win or lose, possessiveness, and conquest are more than his liking for her. For Poplar, Du Juan is like a non-sale product in the window boutique, because she can't ask for it, so she is more and more mindful.
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When Bai Yang and Du Juan got married, lin Bin was specially invited, and he showed off his feelings with Du Juan in front of everyone. Bai Yang made the wedding a big show, not to show how deep his love for Du Juan was, he just wanted to show off his achievements to Lin Bin by marrying Du Juan, how strong Lin Bin was, in the end, it was not he who married Du Juan.
When Bai Yang pursues Du Juan, he responds to Du Juan's requests. Du Juan thought that he would love her more than Lin Bin, but not long after getting married, Du Juan found that Bai Yang yang was in violation of yin and said that one set was done.
Du Juan loves to dance, and when she was with Lin Bin, Lin Bin repeatedly expressed respect for her wishes, waiting until she was thirty years old to have children, so that she had enough energy and time to do what she liked to do. She thought that Bai Yang loved her so much that he would understand her better than Lin Bin, but she was wrong. Soon after Du Juan and Bai Yang got married, their mother-in-law urged them to have children as soon as possible.
The original work reads: Every time Du Juan put the rice into the bowl of poplar, she will be hit by the mother-in-law's face is not the face, the nose is not the nose of the number of falls, the poplar does not stand on her position, in the mother's counting down Du Juan's kung fu, she finished eating a few mouthfuls, clipped the Go box and said: Mom, I went to play chess.
Du Juan learned since she got married that Bai Yang was a Go fan and studied chess at home. What is nagging in the mouth is not this kind of flow, it is that kind of flow, as long as there is a suitable opportunity, ask those single men to play chess, sometimes in the middle of the night to push open the door.
The poplar in love is gone, and the enthusiasm and romance dissipate as married life is on track. It was Precisely Du Juan who was resurrected by the romance and enthusiasm of poplar, and now all this has disappeared.
Du Juan's dream is to dance like her teacher for a lifetime. But since getting married, her time has been filled with trivial chores. She had to cook, wash dishes, clean up, wash clothes, and clean up her room. Before getting married, she ate in the cafeteria every day, and in addition to washing clothes, she had a lot of time to practice her homework.
After getting married, she was like a bird who had lost her freedom and was kept in a cage all day. She took advantage of the kung fu of cutting vegetables to press her legs, and was sarcastically said by her mother-in-law: You who dance, leaving your parents since you were a child, lack of tutoring, and you don't do anything like it.
Du Juan did not understand, how can there be no tutor when pressing legs when cutting vegetables? She is so busy every day, where does she have time to concentrate on practicing dance moves? What makes Du Juan even more angry is that she keeps her body in order to dance and cannot eat too much when eating. The mother-in-law always complained that she ate cat food, and she could only swallow a large bowl of rice silently, and then run to the toilet to cut out the food.
Du Juan does not like to cook, but her mother-in-law asked her to be a live-in nanny, learn to cook and cook every day, teach her how to be a full-time housewife, and take care of her husband's life.
The original book wrote: How much she hopes that Poplar can be by her side at this time, even if she does not stand on her side, even if she comforts herself with a few words, she will feel better in her heart, but Poplar is playing chess with people at this time. Du Juan did not understand how the poplar in love and the poplar after marriage were like a changed person.
The tone of his speech, the tone of his voice, and his concern for her were completely two people, and Du Juan would sometimes think on a whim, whether the previous poplar had been dropped by someone, and which poplar was this poplar in reality? She began to regret getting married, knowing that after marriage was like this, she would definitely not get married.
Poplar's mother has a strong personality and speaks unforgivingly. Before Du Juan married Bai Yang, Bai Yang repeatedly promised to take good care of her, not to let her be caught between him and his mother-in-law, he would concentrate on supporting her dream of dancing, and did not want children until the age of thirty.
But these words are just lies for Bai Yang in order to perfunctory Du Juan marry him, after the two married, Bai Yang achieved his goal of marrying her, and did not even bother to say her words. Not only did he not protect her, but he also chose to escape when his mother-in-law harassed her.
A man's appearance is not important, what matters is whether there is wisdom in the brain and whether there is responsibility in the heart; the man's sweet words are not important, what is important is whether he can fulfill the promise; how much money a man has is not important, what is important is that it is not spent on you, and the heart is not in you.
Before marriage, Poplar's enthusiasm and madness for Du Juan made Du Juan mistakenly think that she had met a man who loved herself as if she loved life, and only after marriage did she understand Poplar's love for her, but it was just a sense of conquest and freshness, and she did not know how to cherish it when she got it.
She never took the initiative to coordinate the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and never really cared about what she wanted. Or maybe he never wanted to cherish her, all he needed was to prove to Lin Bin and others that he was attractive enough to take down the indispensable Du Juan who did not have him in his eyes.
How happy Du Juan and Poplar are when they are in love, how sad the days after marriage are. As Lin Bin said, he never smiled happily after discovering that Du Juan was married to Bai Yang. Marriage is to let the people who love each other rely on each other and find happiness, while Du Juan only sees despair and helplessness in marriage.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="69" >3. In the name of love, break Du Juan's love for dance. </h1>
Du Juan's teacher has never been married or pregnant all her life, and in the eyes of others, she has lived a lifetime, and there is not even a person around who knows cold and heat, how sad. But Du Juan knew that the teacher was very happy and happy. Her love of dance and spiritual affluence are incomprehensible to others.
Du Juan married Bai Yang, not to want to be like her for a lifetime without children, she only hopes to pursue her dreams before the age of thirty. She had been dancing since she was a teenager, and she didn't know what else to do but dance, and the dance was like it was embedded in her bones, and she couldn't shake it off.
Bai Yang likes Du Juan, who is shining on the stage, but after Du Juan marries him, he wants to transform her into a woman who surrounds her husband and stove like his mother.
After Du Juan became pregnant, her heart was extremely broken. She didn't want this child, it was her golden age to dance, and missing it would be a lifetime of regret. And the child is gone, there can be more, so she beat the child without anyone's consent.
When Poplar and her mother-in-law found out, they were even more indifferent to her. They used silent language to express their dissatisfaction with Du Juan. Bai Yang didn't understand what dance meant to Du Juan, and he said he liked her, but he never understood what she was thinking.
When Du Juan and Lin Bin were in love, there was such a conversation: Lin Bin asked her, what if one day, you can't jump?
Du Juan said: How can there be that day? Do you know the Soviet Ulanova? She is in her sixties, and she still dances the white swan dance, which is beautiful. Although people are old, but the soul is never old, this is the charm of dance, I want to be such a dancer.
Lin Bin looked at Du Juan and said in a pitiful tone: Du Juan, I am really worried that with me, the wings of your white swan will be injured. Speaking from the heart, watching you dance on stage, I feel that the whole world is bright. You will definitely become a real dancer and I will definitely support you. I can wait for you, wait until you're thirty and then get married, and it's okay to be a little later.
Lin Bin understands Du Juan's love for the stage, he has never hit Du Juan's confidence in dance, and even supports her dream more than everyone else, such trust and encouragement is what Du Juan needs most. But with Bai Yang, Du Juan had never experienced this feeling. This is also the real reason why Du Juan and Lin Bin married Bai Yang after breaking up, and they could not let go of him.
Life is rare to know a confidant, even a good girlfriend Damei is secular and realistic, can not understand her love for dance, Lin Bin can understand her, but also willing to care for her dance dreams, such affection, it is difficult to buy.
After Du Juan and Bai Yang married, Bai Yang always told her that she could not dance for a lifetime, and a woman's life should be dedicated to her children and family. He didn't know what Du Juan really thought, nor did he bother to understand. Du Juan and Bai Yang were married, but the two never had a common topic. Now that the children are gone, the distance between them is even greater.
Zheng Lihan said: The three views of good character are the lower limit of good marriage protection, and the upper limit of a good marriage depends on whether he has the ability to love. Many people have the emotional experience of love, but lack the ability to love.
Poplar has been a gentleman since he was a child, and he does not lack the experience of love, what he lacks is the ability to love others. From childhood to adulthood, it was the girls who were obsessed with him and centered on him. Bai Yang enjoys this self-centered feeling, so he thinks that Du Juan should love him so much and sacrifice everything for him.
But he underestimated Du Juan's love of dance, love and marriage are not all about her life, she still has dreams and pursuits. In Bai Yang's view, Du Juan's dream is unrealistic, but Du Juan enjoys the process of chasing dreams, even if its results are cruel, she also wants to break through.
Bai Yang likes a leisurely life, Du Juan likes to pursue and dream days, although they walk together because of marriage, they have never appreciated each other, supported each other, and never encouraged each other to become better.
For Du Juan, having lost her spiritual life, marriage is nothing more than a vulgar contract, rusty chains, and mutual torture. So she decided to divorce Poplar, and Poplar loved her? Maybe he had loved, but his love was too superficial, and the love he gave was not what she wanted. Even his kindness to Du Juan would only make her more miserable.
I once read a saying: there is always an encounter, it is mutual liking, mutual appreciation, growing together, it is across the vast sea of people, with gentleness to come.
The person who truly loves you will hold up your backbone and take care of your dreams. If Bai Yang really loves Du Juan, she should be prepared to take care of Du Juan's dancers, Du Juan is simple in her heart, but she is very persistent about her dreams.
If he loved her, how could he be willing to shatter her dreams and make her as ordinary as other women? To see if a person truly loves you, it depends on whether he is reforming you and suppressing you, and if he loves himself more than he loves you, such love is just his wishful thinking.