During the Kangxi Dynasty of the Qing Dynasty, there was a scholar named Zhang Chao who wrote a book in the form of "micro-headlines", entitled "Shadow of Dreams". This old book is old and old, but it does not emit a stale smell, and the aphorisms that flow from everywhere in the book are still so fresh. Just like the cool dissipation in Chinese medicine, in the hot summer, every time you turn a few pages, the feeling of annoyance dissipates. When I read this book, I casually excerpted a few aphorisms and left a little impression.
<h1 class = "pgc-h-center-line" > beauty, rhyme and high person</h1>
Mr. Zhang Chao said: It is advisable to enjoy flowers for beautiful people; drunken moons should be for rhymers; and Yingxue should be suitable for tall people.
Beauty, generally refers to women, any talented or beautiful woman, can be called beautiful. Than the flower explanation, than yu shengxiang is a beauty; good piano chess calligraphy and painting, textile embroidery is a beauty; into the kitchen, on the hall, is also a beauty. If you have both of the above three, it is a perfect beauty, but such a beauty is relatively rare, and if you pursue it for a lifetime, it may not be available in your lifetime.
Beauty and talent don't necessarily go hand in hand. Everyone's evaluation of the beauty is not consistent, and the ideal beauty is less practical and operable. However, kindness of heart must be the prerequisite criterion for a good person. You meet a "beautiful person" who looks like a peach and a scorpion, and the tragedy is staged from then on; you meet a beautiful person who knows how to be elegant and generous, and happiness slowly opens.
Zhang Chao said that only beautiful people are suitable for flower viewing. In the same way, people with profound interests such as Li Baicai are suitable for drunken moon; people with lofty ambitions such as Sun Kangcai are worthy of screening snow. Flowers are appreciated by beautiful people, the moon is drunk by rhymes, and snow is reflected by high people, all of which are in a good state.
Zhang Chao did not say that in addition to the above three types of people, others would go to enjoy the flowers, drunken moon, and reflect the snow. The beauty, rhyme and high man he spoke of were not just his ideal characters. Therefore, it does not prevent ordinary people from appreciating drunkenness and reflection, and many years later, they accidentally become one of them. Zhang Chao, the small official who managed the library and archives, later wrote and became a celebrity, which is estimated to be related to the fact that he also often went to enjoy the flowers and the moon and the snow.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-center-line" > there is a confidant in the world who can not hate</h1>
Mr. Zhang Chao said: There is a person in the world who knows himself and can not hate.
The meaning of this sentence is very clear, if there is a person in the world who can become his confidant, life can not be regretted. This sentence is also very sad, how difficult it is to have a confidant.
Because it is difficult to find a confidant between people, Zhang Chao does not take the example of knowing oneself with people, but as an example of knowing oneself with people and things.
Probably the ancients Tao Yuanming, Lin Hejing, Wang Ziyi, Zhou Lianxi, etc., none of them are confidants in the world, so they can only take chrysanthemums and plums and bamboo and lotuses as confidants.
Tao Yuanming had no confidant, hiding in the South Mountain pastoral garden, picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence, "far away from my legacy". He is lonely and self-righteous, and he has difficulty in running, so he has to drink alcohol to Ju, which seems leisurely and really sentimental. The official could not do it, but inadvertently made an idyllic poem to help the grandfather.
Lin Kui has no confidant and hides in the lonely mountains of the West Lake, taking Mei as his wife and crane as his son. During the day, he watched "cranes idle in the water for a long time", and at night, he appreciated "last night's plum blossoms". Mr. Hejing's good book and happy poems, just one sentence, "The shadow is shallow and shallow, and the dark incense floats in the moon at dusk", it has become a song of Yongmei in the ages, and no one can compare with him. He was Mei's confidant, worthy of the name.
Prince You had no confidant, but he did not shy away from the world. He was born into a famous family, the son of the great calligrapher Wang Xizhi, who loved bamboo by nature and acted spontaneously. He truly loves bamboo, and he can't live without bamboo for a day. He borrowed a courtyard, and the courtyard had no bamboo, so he asked people to move bamboo here. Bamboo regards it as a confidant, and it is not in vain.
Zhou Dunyi had no confidants, nor was he a hermit, very talented, and held official positions that were not big or small. It is estimated that this is related to his quality of not seeking fame and fortune and being clean and self-righteous. An article "Eileen Says" gives him the status of a "gentleman", and he is very proud: "Who is the one who gives the love of the lotus?" Perhaps it is precisely because "out of the mud without staining, Mao Qing lian without demon" that made him the founding ancestor of Song Ming's science.
People often lament that it is difficult to find a confidant, but have people ever thought that the main reason why it is difficult to find is that they have not been able to have the conditions to become someone else's confidant. To become a confidant of others, first of all, you must be virtuous, useful, quantitative, interesting, and have a heart. The word confidant is not said casually, it is the highest state of friendship and friendship.
I have good friends, but I don't have a confidant. You can't expect others to appreciate and understand yourself, and you can't complain about how others don't become your confidants. Only if you do it yourself, you may meet a confidant!