Text / Wake up
Editor / Little Love Letter
"My wife and I fell in love at first sight and have been married for over thirty years now."
This is what actor Ding Yongdai said when he mentioned the process of falling in love with his wife Zhao Xuehua, and his eyes were filled with love for his wife.
If you talk about Ding Yongdai, many people may not be familiar with his name, but you must have seen his works.
He is Fu Changming in "Breakout", Commander-in-Chief Peng in the movie "Crossing the Yalu River", and the father of Zhou who has experienced vicissitudes in the recent hit drama "The World of Man".
It is such an old actor, debuted for nearly forty years with zero scandals, and has always firmly loved his wife Zhao Xuehua.
When the world was disturbing the dust, the two of them always held the hand of the son, and the son grew old.
So how did Zhao Xuehua capture Ding Yongdai's heart, and how did their marriage last for 30 years without fading?
01
Zhao Xuehua's parents are working in the drama troupe, and she has long exceeded the marriageable age, and whenever she goes to the troupe to find her parents, it is a series of marriage bombings.
But even so, Zhao Xuehua still couldn't stand the attraction of the hot meal, and as soon as she had time, she ran to her parents to stay.
The courtyard where the parents lived was arranged by the troupe, not a single family, but also lived in many staff, Zhao Xuehua often came to visit the door, and when he came and went, he became acquainted with the people in the troupe except Ding Yongdai and other people.
At that time, Ding Yongdai was a 28-year-old unmarried single young man, who was exactly 4 years older than Zhao Xuehua.
Usually like a stuffy gourd, he didn't say anything, and Zhao Xuehua rubbed shoulders countless times, stunned is a greeting, not a word is stingy.
Compared with the other people in the courtyard, Zhao Xuehua only felt that this Ding Yongdai was a little strange, and at the same time something special.
But at this time, Zhao Xuehua did not have any special feelings for him, and she may be more worried about her life's events than paying attention to this different big brother.
She herself was already twenty-four years old, although she advocated late marriage and late childbearing at that time, but this age was already an older leftover girl, and her parents were also anxious for themselves.
As everyone knows, at this time, God has already tailored a fate for her.
It was a sunny day, Zhao Xuehua left from her parents to take care of her own affairs as usual, the difference was that this time she wore a new pair of red embroidered shoes, which looked very good.
She didn't expect that such a pair of red embroidered shoes had pulled a red line for her and Ding Yongdai.
When Zhao Xuehua went out, she happened to run into Ding Yongdai again, and she thought that she would pass by as usual, but she felt Ding Yongdai stop, as if she was still watching her.
So Zhao Xuehua also stopped and looked back, and sure enough, Ding Yongdai was looking at her in a daze.
Although she felt that Ding Yongdai today was a little strange in her heart, out of courtesy, Zhao Xuehua still nodded, said hello, and left.
For Zhao Xuehua, this was just an ordinary greeting.
But the moment she nodded her head gently and the unique little red shoes crashed into Ding Yongdai's heart, which will never be forgotten ever since.
Later, when Zhao Xuehua went to the courtyard again, he found that Ding Yongdai was very different from before, very good to her, and often talked to her.
Gradually, the two became acquainted, and Ding Yongdai also took advantage of the situation to go shopping and watch movies with Zhang Xuehua.
In the bit by bit of getting along, the two older single unmarried men and women gradually attracted each other, under the fierce pursuit of Ding Yongdai, Zhao Xuehua finally agreed to Ding Yongdai's pursuit, and the two became boyfriend and girlfriend.
After confirming the relationship, Ding Yongdai really had nothing to say about Zhao Xuehua, because Zhao Xuehua was his first love, and he always hid countless sincerity when he first fell in love.
But such sincerity may be more touching than rhetoric.
Once, Ding Yongdai wanted to make a pot of steamed buns for Zhao Xuehua on a whim, and the reason for making steamed buns was because he couldn't do anything else, only kneaded the dough.
But obviously, making steamed buns is not just by kneading the dough.
Therefore, Ding Yongdai took the scriptures from many people before doing it, and someone told him that adding alkali only needs to add to the dough without acidity.
But it is very strange that Ding Yongdai has always tasted a little sour, and the final result is that the alkali is added more, and a pot of dark chocolate-colored steamed buns is steamed.
Zhao Xuehua saw a pot of black steamed buns that did not slip autumn, and it was estimated that he was also crying and laughing.
But Ding Yongdai, who saw a busy day, still felt very moved, and felt that he was the only one in this life.
She believed that the man in front of her could be her lifelong reliance.
Later, the two chose to get married when they were in love for less than a year, and at that time this speed was a flash marriage, fortunately, each other's parents were very supportive of them to solve life events as soon as possible and live a good life.
Of course, it is a very happy thing to be able to marry someone you like, but there are also many shortcomings and regrets.
At that time, the marriage was mentioned by Ding Yongdai, and Zhao Xuehua agreed, and there was no so-called marriage proposal ceremony, not even a decent wedding.
At that time, Zhao Xuehua and Ding Yongdai's wedding was just a few good classmates and friends, plus the family to eat a meal together.
Without romantic flowers and wedding dresses, nor a sense of sea oath and ceremony, Zhao Xuehua gave his life to Ding Yongdai.
Some people say that if a man can't even give you a decent wedding, then he must not love you, and the marriage must be difficult to be happy.
So is Zhao Xuehua really unhappy after marriage?
02
The happiness index of a marriage cannot be judged solely by whether there is a wedding, but more by whether the partner has put himself in his heart.
After marriage, Ding Yongdai decided to switch from the drama troupe to become an actor, and Zhao Xuehua was very supportive of her husband's decision.
I didn't think that Ding Yongdai was nearly thirty years old, and being an actor was a pipe dream, but instead became the woman behind Ding Yongdai, taking care of all aspects of his life for him, so that Ding Yongdai could act without worries.
Fortunately, Ding Yongdai is really the material of acting, in 2015, Ding Yongdai's "Langya List" was broadcast on Beijing Satellite TV and Oriental Satellite TV.
Ding Yongdai became angry with the "Liang Emperor" who played an extreme and suspicious personality in the play, and Ding Yongdai, as an actor, finally came to the end of his life.
Ding Yongdai, who is thriving in his career, did not forget his wife at home because he was famous, but always kept his wife's support and encouragement in mind.
Every time he returns from a business trip, he will go shopping and buy red shoes for Zhao Xuehua, skirts, suspenders, coats and so on.
In today's terms, Ding Yongdai is responsible for earning money to support the family, and Zhao Xuehua is responsible for looking beautiful and happy at home.
Every time Zhao Xuehua saw these things brought home by her husband, her heart would be very happy and moved, because it made her understand that Ding Yongdai was still worried about her even if she was filming outside.
Although it is not a valuable gift, the deep meaning contained in it is difficult to buy.
At the same time as the relationship between the two gradually warmed up, Zhao Xuehua gave birth to a son Ding Ning, and the world of the two became a family of three, and they were very happy.
It was only with the growth of their son that Zhao Xuehua and Ding Yongdai gradually found that Ding Ning was much thinner and thinner than his peers, and for the sake of Ding Ning's growth, the two had differences and disputes for the first time.
Zhao Xuehua felt that the child's growth was natural, as long as he was in good health, and Ding Yongdai felt that at this time, he did not "pull out seedlings to help grow", let his son exercise more, I am afraid that he will become a sick seedling in the future.
In the end, Zhao Xuehua was still persuaded by Ding Yongdai to cooperate with Ding Yongdai to "pull up seedlings and promote growth", and every time Ding Yongdai was at home, she also had to follow up before six o'clock to wake up her son.
If her son did not wake up, she would be responsible for taking away the quilt, and eventually Ding Ning had to get up for morning exercise.
In addition to physical training, eating also follows Ding Yongdai's advice to buy pig bones every day and boil soup for his son to drink.
After a period of training, my son's figure was indeed much tougher and taller.
However, although Zhao Xuehua listened to Ding Yongdai's words in terms of the child's body, in terms of the child's education, Zhao Xuehua has not been very supportive of Ding Yongdai.
Ding Yongdai is a very strict father, once Ding Ning's friends came to play with him, Ding Yongdai only gave two hours.
When the two hours came, Ding Ning did not go home on time, calling him as if he had not heard, Ding Yongdai beat Ding Ning, and also tore up his son's homework book and threw it away.
Zhao Xuehua went home to see her crying son, and she had a dispute with Ding Yongdai, in fact, she did not know the reason why Ding Yongdai strictly educated her son, but she wanted her son to be more sensible and grow better.
But in her opinion, it may be too harsh.
Later, she also understood that she could not change Ding Yongdai's education method, but could only be a lubricant between their father and son.
During a meal, the son took the initiative to give Ding Yongdai a dish, and Ding Yongdai clipped the dish back into his son's bowl and said:
"You better eat more, you're a little bigbody."
Ding Ning immediately felt that his self-esteem had suffered a blow, and afterwards Zhao Xuehua comforted Ding Ning and let him understand Ding Yongdai's good intentions.
For his wife's efforts, Ding Yongdai also said:
"My lover is a bridge between our father and son, and we can't live without her."
There is pride between the words, so many people say that Ding Yongdai is a good actor and a good man.
But in fact, he met a good wife, always with him and supported him.
03
Perhaps influenced by his father, his son Ding Ning graduated from Beijing Sport University, and later became an actor by chance, and the idea of becoming a director and producer came to mind.
After that, he went to Canada to study, and now works in Canada, has his own career, and has become the pride of his mother Zhao Xuehua.
The son works hard outside, and her husband Ding Yongdai is still active on the screen.
Recently, her acting skills in "The World of Man" are still not old, and she only needs to live a good life in peace and stability and take care of the big rear for them.
Someone once said that he was envious of Zhao Xuehua, her husband and son were so capable, and her husband and she had been married for more than thirty years and had always loved her and been consistent.
But perhaps we only see the surface, can not see Zhao Xuehua's dedication to the two of them, in the era of weighing the pros and cons, the original feeling of being with each other at all costs and firmly choosing each other is particularly precious.
Occasionally, I heard Ding Yongdai mention the debt to his wife, and felt that he had been away from work for several months and had not been able to accompany his wife well.
But the truth is really good love, don't have to linger every day, just keep in touch, I know you won't go, you know I won't change, worry about each other, busy with each other.
Therefore, regardless of the division and integration of the outside world, Zhao Xuehua will love Ding Yongdai's original appearance, stay together year after year waiting for him to return home, and hope that we can meet the person who is worth staying with.