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ID | shiyi201633
Are Gu Ailing and Quan Hong chan a kind of champion?
No.
In the Winter Olympics these days, many parents are asking their children a question: "Why hasn't all the red Chan appeared in the Winter Olympics?" ”
It's ridiculous.
The Summer Olympics, the fire of an all-red Chan.
The Winter Olympics, a gu Ailing, was on fire.
Today's article, we will talk about Gu Ailing and Quan Hongchan.
There is a question on the Internet: "Why is the proportion of middle-class families producing creative talent the lowest?" Why do rich and poor families produce creative talent at a much higher rate than middle-class families? ”
Before answering this question, I would like to talk about Quan Hongchan and Gu Ailing.
Let's start with Gu Ailing.
Gu Ailing's parents are rich people, they are both the elite of the elite.
Gu Ailing's mother, Gu Yan, graduated from Peking University in the 1980s, then studied at Stanford in the United States, stayed on Wall Street after graduation, and then successfully turned into an investment bank, and later opened his own venture capital company.
China Science and Technology Information magazine, in 1998, published an article about Gu Yan and her venture capital career. In a word, Gu Ailing's family has long realized the freedom of wealth.
From childhood to adulthood, Gu Ailing has tried many kinds of "stylistic" training in addition to skiing.
Such as basketball, football, rock climbing, archery, horse riding, gymnastics, long-distance running, singing, ballet, piano...
In short, as Gu Ailing himself said: "I just try this and try that." ”
After a variety of attempts, she found something she liked and was good at – freestyle skiing.
It can be said that the reason why Gu Ailing was able to turn out to be born, in addition to her own efforts, was mainly due to her family's wealth and money for her to make various attempts, and after making various attempts, she found her strongest talent.
Quan Hongchan's family is very poor, and she has to rely on eating low insurance to live a life.
Because my mother had suffered a car accident, she needed medical treatment all year round, and she relied on her father to work as a farmer to support the family.
Quan Hongchan also has younger siblings, and the family's life is very embarrassing.
Growing up, Quan Hong Chan had never even been to an amusement park or zoo.
Her biggest dream is to be able to eat spicy noodles and realize the freedom of 5 cents of spicy noodles.
Quan Hong chan did not like to read, and her academic performance was not good.
In 2014, Chen Huaming, a diving coach at Zhanjiang Sports School, went to Zhanjiang Maihe Primary School to select seedlings and fell in love with Quan Hongchan at a glance.
"I found that Quan Hong Chan Liding long jump is particularly powerful, she is only one meter two tall, but she jumped out of one meter seven six results, bouncing power, explosive power is very good."
So the school informed Quan Hongchan's father Quan Wenmao: "Quan Hongchan was selected by the sports school to practice diving, do you all disagree?" ”
Quan Wenmao said to the school: "As long as the child is willing." ”
Of course, Quan Hong Chan was very willing.
In response to a reporter's question, she said: "I just can't read the book, so I chose to dive." ”
The child is willing + the parents do not block, so it has become a diving genius.
Why do middle-class and petty-bourgeois families produce the lowest proportion of creative talent?
Because creative talents are mostly unconventional geniuses.
Rich families, because some are rich, will not force their children to die to study, and they do not have to worry about what will happen to their children in the future when they "fail to read".
They can hire the best teachers to let the children make all kinds of attempts, not to waste any of the child's talents, and if they find that the children have some kind of unconventional talent, they will spend money to develop this talent to the extreme.
This is the case with Gu Ailing.
In poor families, most parents do not have much expectations for their children to study, so they rarely "chicken babies".
They earn money very hard, and it is not easy to feed their children, so they do not have the spare energy and leisure to discipline their children, so some genius children can instead grow freely and burst out of their unconventional talents. This is the case with Quan Hong Chan.
The real all-out chicken baby is actually the middle-class family in the city and the petty bourgeois family, because they have a strong sense of crisis in their social class, feel that they have "once achieved/almost realized" dreams, and the child must "reproduce /complete", so they force the child to die to study, regardless of whether the child is suitable or not.
If the child's reading grades are not good, they will criticize the child for not working hard enough, and also use the story of grinding the iron pestle into a needle to educate the child.
It is precisely because they are trying their best to force children to take the road of reading, so the children's unconventional talents other than reading are forcibly ignored by them.
Why do middle-class and petty bourgeois families produce the lowest proportion of creative talents? Because the child's unconventional talent is snuffed out by the parents.
We can imagine: if Quan Hong chan was born in the city, if Quan Hong Chan's parents were middle-class, then the 14-year-old Quan Hong Chan was almost doomed to become a world champion.
Because of the 14-year-old, she is forced by her parents to brush up on the problems every day and go to cram school every day.
Quan Hongchan does not like to read, nor does she have the talent to read, even if under the pressure of her parents, she can be admitted to college, and even 985 or 211, but so what?
She is destined to become only a very ordinary one among hundreds of millions of students, and she is destined to become a very ordinary one among hundreds of millions of workers.
It will never be possible to win an Olympic gold medal at the age of 14 and become a national celebrity at the age of 14.
Why is this article?
In fact, I want to say that a person's development and talent is not just a way to read.
In addition to reading, there are actually many, many ways to go.
So as parents, we should discover where our children's interests and talents lie.
As an ordinary family, although we can't let our children try everything like Gu Yan did.
But if it is found that the child is indeed not the material for reading, it is better to recognize the reality as soon as possible, to discover the child's other talents and guide the development, which is the right way.
If the child himself has a strong love for something, then it is even more important to understand him, support him, and do not stifle the child's hobby and force the child to learn what he is optimistic about.
Because your child is probably another full red chan.
At present, the biggest misunderstanding of family education is that children with different talents must be put on the track of reading to compete.
As a result, many all-red chans were crushed into mud on the track of reading.
Before Quan Hongchan touched diving, she was a "bad boy" who did not like to learn, and a "backward student" who did not know how to be motivated.
Before Li Ziqi was exposed to "shooting videos", he was an idiot who couldn't pass the college entrance examination and was an extremely ordinary restaurant passer.
Before Li Jiaqi was exposed to live broadcasting, he was a "non-graduate" who dropped out of college and was an extremely ordinary cosmetics shopping guide.
But after they found their talents, they all became "geniuses".
The so-called "scum children" are actually many misplaced "gems".
The biggest problem with Chinese-style family education is that parents don't really care about what kind of life their children want to live, they are more concerned about whether their children live their lives as they want.
Parents are always worried that their children are unhappy, and they have to let their children go according to their own ideas, which is actually the root cause of their children's unhappiness.
Light up in the watch and forward, with the King to encourage.
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