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That day the trumpet talked about whether Russia could fight Ukraine, and I interjected, saying that many people could not understand the article of the trumpet.
For example, some people say that his experience in reading the big article that day was to refuse to choose, and he would not lose if he did not gamble.
It is impossible for people not to gamble, and you are making choices all the time. You go out today, two roads in front of you, take the left side may be stuck in traffic, go right may have more traffic lights.
Just like when you buy a house, there is a risk, there is a risk in the position, you may lose, but you save the money, you have to pay seigniorage every day, which is called losing every day. Again, jumping out of these two choices, any choice, has a similar problem.
It is impossible for people not to gamble, you have to gamble when you live, as big as choosing an industry, choosing a spouse, as small as choosing which one to choose when you are in line, every day is a gamble.
Recognize this, and you will know that the only thing that is desirable is to increase the winning percentage.
Increasing the winning rate is essentially a process of seeing oneself, and we have said that we will never see the heavens and the earth, nor the sentient beings, and we will never see ourselves.
So this topic eventually becomes, how to understand the world, how to understand sentient beings.
Choose a reference line, the TV series "The World of Man".
The protagonist of "The World of Man" is a shantytown in the northeast, the family of photon film Zhou Family.
Zhou Bingyi, the son of Zhou Bingyi, was admitted to Peking University, and his lifelong goal is to embark on a career path and realize his life ambitions through work.
Many viewers will say that Zhou Bingyi's son was raised in vain. As the eldest son, his gaze never seemed to be in their Zhou family, but on the world.
Classmate Hao Dongmei is the daughter of the provincial governor, and her parents were persecuted in the past, and he married her under pressure. Later, the old man was rehabilitated, resumed his work, and became the number one in their province.
However, he never helped this family. After Zhou Bingyi's death, he reached the level of the main hall before he was forty years old, and he did not interfere in the affairs of the family.
For example, the northeast was in the midst of a transition at that time, and many people could not find jobs. Family, neighbors, friends, do have difficulties, and there are many that are not against the principle of doing favors, and he does not help.
He went to the corps to join the army, and went for many years. His wife was paralyzed with cerebral thrombosis, and his brother married a widow with other people's children and took care of his mother alone, and as the eldest son, he did not take on family responsibilities. Then you say pull your brother, it's always okay, don't care.
When the daughter-in-law Hao Dongmei joined the queue, she fell into the ice cave and had no fertility, and Zhou Bingyi, as the eldest son, and the daughter-in-law had no children for life, and he did not care.
There are a lot of viewers who can't understand it, but if you understand what he wants, you will understand that it is a trade-off.
No one can get everything, never such a good thing. Most of life is a choice, either to give up the goal or to give up something else.
It's just that in Zhou Bingyi's person, what he wants is clear at a glance.
From a certain point of view, Zhou Bingyi, like her mother-in-law, is also a political expert, very similar.
Zhou Bingyi's mother-in-law does not meet with her relatives, and many viewers can't understand it, thinking that this is a condescending arrogance.
In fact, if you stand in the other person's point of view, you can immediately realize the problem inside.
Zhou Bingyi grew up in photon films, a shantytown, and most people later went to the streets to work for a living. And his father-in-law, the mother-in-law, is the leader of this province. If you fight with your relatives, it will inevitably cause many problems.
You helped your son-in-law's sister's classmates, do you want to help your son-in-law's brother's hair?
Doesn't help, does it? If you don't help the neighbors, there will be a lot of discussion between them, and a bowl of water will be uneven.
You're all in the gang, right? How many people are there in a shantytown? Come to the back door, do you want to talk about the street next to it?
Everyone will say, you see, one person has ascended to heaven, Zhou Bingyi has become the son-in-law of the governor, and the whole photon film has developed.
Your photon film people can solve problems, but what about the area next to it?
In the TV series, Hao Dongmei's parents are not principled. When high-ranking cadres came to them to do things, they did it, but the son-in-law's relatives avoided it. Here's why.
You help a high-ranking official do things, and he won't go around talking about it. It's like if you have a piece of meat on the plate of someone who would have eaten stew that night, it doesn't cause an imbalance.
But if you eat Yangchun noodles one night in the bowl of a person, everyone around you will look at it and remember it in their hearts. This is called an imbalance.
You can't think of anything about this, you can't do management, even if you are a small department manager, you are not suitable.
This is called understanding people.
Similarly, Zhou Rong, the second daughter of the Zhou family. Many viewers saw her wayward side, ran to the mountains to marry a poet, saw her selfish side, gave birth to a daughter and did not raise her, and lost it to her brothers and sisters-in-law.
However, she was admitted to Peking University in the late 1970s to read a master's degree and a doctorate, and later became an associate professor, why not benefit from her selfishness?
Selfishness and concentration are very close qualities, and a very enthusiastic person is difficult to break through in the professional field. Because I can't be quiet.
A good professor is not necessarily a good father, you can go to see ji Xianlin father and son dispute. Similarly, an enthusiastic neighborhood committee aunt may not be able to become an expert.
Many things come at a price, and Zhou Rong's price is that her daughter is very estranged from her, because she was not raised by herself.
Let's look at the third person, zhou bingkun, the third old of the Zhou family. Many people like Zhou Bingkun very much, because Zhou Bingkun has feelings and righteousness.
Zhou Bingkun is the only person with a family concept, in fact equivalent to a primary school graduate, in the 80s he spent 1700 yuan to buy three bungalows with kitchens, moving the family out of the shantytown.
He opened a restaurant, a bookstore, raised the son brought by the widow as his own son, gave birth to a young son, and thought of passing on his own son to his brother. Don't want big brother to live without children for life.
He gave the shantytown house to his friends to live in, and arranged work for others, but it was not good.
Of course, he was hit a lot later. The eldest son's father came to fight for custody, he lost his hand to beat the other party into a vegetative person, he spent more than ten years in prison, 1700 pieces of bungalow bought, was cheated by the second landlord, and the family had to move back to the shantytown. After getting out of prison, I couldn't find a job, and it was also very bumpy.
The audience sympathized with this guy, and so did I, and he was really a good guy.
However, from God's point of view, the more things a person takes on, the greater the probability of risk, which is his own life choice.
Zhou Bingkun is the person I most look forward to his goodness in the whole novel, but the benevolent person asks for benevolence, perhaps, that is what he wants.
Are all of these choices right or wrong? No.
Many people's brains are axis, and they recognize death, and they have to think that there is a correct way of living in this world.
But really not.
There is no standard answer to this kind of thing in life, only the answer you choose.
The answer you choose is based on what you have, what you want, what you are willing to give up, combined.
This sentence is not used to ask yourself at the beginning, when you ask yourself, you can't answer it yourself.
This sentence is to let you take it to understand others, what others have, what others want, what others may give up.
Contemporaries, in front of you, you can quickly say what others have, what others want, what others may give up, you have a high probability of being able to achieve an annual salary of millions.
Let me give you an example of a real estate agent who earns millions a year.
This person is not a million dollars a year when the market is good, the market is not good to eat chaff throat vegetables, he is since the beginning of the industry, the worst year, the annual salary of millions.
The biggest advantage of this person is that he can make every effort to understand the needs of customers through communication details, observation, investigation and analysis.
He has sold a single-family villa, the selling point is that the entrance lawn is very large, each floor is very high, and the living room has two circular stairs leading to the second floor, which is very european castle style.
Sold to a private entrepreneur, the selling point is grandeur. Because the other party raises money, talks about business, needs to support the façade, you let people give up money, you have to tell people, what people can get, they get this, combined with their own resources, can produce more money.
This is the key to closing the deal.
This kind of method has been used in many people, such as he once sold a lot of sets of large flat floors of nearly 400 square meters, selling apartment types? No, it's a bunch.
The target customers he chooses are Internet celebrities, people buy not houses, they are neighbors, people do business to get together, to share traffic with each other.
He has also sold many celebrities, such as the top writers of online cool novels, who want scenic spots and quiet.
In addition, he sold the most is the lot. Others have the need for work, the need for children to read. Must be near a company, or must be near a school. On this premise, he goes to meet your various requirements.
If such people can't make money, then their entire industry is estimated to starve to death. The profit must be his, and he can understand the needs of others.
Most people have no need in their eyes, they only have anger, angry at why others are not the same as themselves.
He once designed a basement as a clan ancestral hall, similar to the style of the Hongxing gangster carrying a handle to hold a meeting, and sold it for a high price, why?
Because I found the right customer. He found a merchant with a status similar to the patriarch of a large family and sold it to him. The merchant family structure was very complicated, with many children, many relatives.
Why didn't he find a three-generation single-handed family to sell to others? Because it can't be sold.
Ordinary people only have anger and unaccustomedness in their eyes, and excellent people only have business opportunities in their eyes. You like to be lively, I sell you lion dances, you like to be calm, I sell you ice piers.
As long as the money is a good customer, I don't believe I can't sell it. There's only one possibility of not selling it, and I haven't figured out what you have, what you want, what you're willing to give up.
This intermediary, he does not have to ask his soul three questions, can answer it casually, why?
Because he has read countless people, he has served too many customers, and to understand others is to understand his own process.
Now back to our title, someone always asks, to the same play, why I see, and what you see, is always different.
I've answered you, because the way you look at it is different.
You are always comparing, comparing this person is different from you, and you are very angry when they are different.
If you look at everyone from a different angle, you wonder, what can you sell to each other? You look at people like this every day, look at everyone, and it won't be long before people are seen through.
At that time, when you look back at yourself, you yourself will be seen through by yourself.