Wen | snow fell without dust
In life, I often hear people around me complaining about the unfairness of fate and the fatigue of life.
In fact, a way of life is a way of life, and people's way of life is not the same. Some people live very tired, while others live in peace.
The Buddha says: The situation turns with the heart. If you tighten your nerves in your busy life and don't let go of yourself, you will of course be very tired; and if you have a positive attitude towards life, no matter how intense the work intensity is, you will not feel tired.
The path that life should take, the people that should be met, and the things that should be encountered must be experienced. Even if you struggle, you will not reduce your pain by one point.
All things are for my use, and all things are not for me. We are all part of nature, and what is different is that people have different feelings about things.
If you want to live happily and easily, start by adjusting your mindset!
In fact, the more people who live and get tired, there are three reasons why they "can't think", and they can only be relieved by letting go.
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First: Take the road that doesn't work, try to turn
Linguist Zhou Youguang, when asked about the secret of longevity, said: "If you want to open everything, you must look forward." ”
In a person's life, everything cannot go smoothly. Everyone has a bumpy time, some people choose not to hit the south wall and not turn back, while some people will choose to avoid difficulties by turning.
Those who do not hit the south wall and do not turn back will eventually be hit by the head and bleed, while those who know how to turn will be willowy and bright, desperate.
In the United States, there was a gold rush, and many people had walked into this boom. A middle-aged man also came to this boom, and he bought a piece of land. However, three months passed, and he did not find a single piece of gold.
One morning, after a night of heavy rain, he found that there were many golden flowers on the sand.
He decided to reclaim the sand to grow flowers. In the years that followed, middle-aged people made more money than gold panning on this sandy land by selling flowers.
George Bernard Shaw once said: "Wise people adapt themselves to the world, and unwise people only insist on adapting the world to themselves." ”
If you are in a difficult situation and cannot change, you might as well think of other ways. Sometimes in life, when you turn a corner in your thinking, you will reverse your bad situation.
Most people who can succeed in their careers know how to be flexible, and only those who fail in their careers and cannot seize opportunities will persist in their thinking.
In life, whether it is right or wrong, whether to insist on it or give up, everyone will have a clear judgment in their hearts. However, people sometimes cannot accept the cruelty of reality, but choose to avoid the attitude.
In fact, when life is faced with a choice, it should have a decisive execution for its future and a good attitude that can accept everything.
In this life, as long as you dare to choose and dare to execute, you will definitely make your life have a way to go, and the harvest is greater than the pay.
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Second: the love that cannot be retained, choose to let go
Melleson said: "Love is not who sacrifices for whom, who does what for whom, and once love becomes like this, it is not love." ”
It would be naïve for a woman to think that her efforts can be exchanged for love. If a man truly loves you, he doesn't need your efforts to get his true heart; if he doesn't love you, even if you give it all in vain.
A love, if you put in a lot of effort, or can not get back, it is better to let go! If it does not belong to you, it is difficult to get it no matter how entangled it is; if it belongs to you, it will be good to go with the flow.
Life, tossing and turning, and finally found that the love that cannot be retained, with fate, is the best state.
There is a young man who is trapped by love and does not know how to be good. He found the Zen master: "I have a love affair, but I can't love it." But I myself am difficult to put down, very entangled, what to do? ”
The Zen master said, "The love that you love but can't love has never belonged to you, but you are a self-made person, of course, you must let go." ”
But the young man said, "I have exhausted all the ways, and I just can't forget it." ”
The Zen master listened to him, picked up an empty glass on the table, and placed it in the young man's hand. Then pick up the kettle and pour hot water into the glass.
The cup had not yet been filled, and the young man was already too hot to grasp, and he hurriedly put a cup of hot water on the table.
The Zen master said, "You finally let go!" The young man suddenly realized.
In this world, there is nothing that cannot be put down, and the reason you cannot put it down is because you cannot put yourself down. The greatest salvation in life is to let go of yourself, if you can let go of yourself, everything is not a thing.
Feelings are like holding the sand in your hand, the more you want to hold it tightly, the faster it will be lost. If you spread your hands, it will stay there forever.
Not your own love, don't chase, chase can't catch up. It is your own love, no need to chase, it will stay in front of you forever.
In a person's life, who to meet, who to like, who to be loved, in fact, is doomed, you only need to do your best and obey the destiny.
For a love that is difficult to give up, choosing to let go, everything with fate, is the best arrangement.
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Third: things that don't make sense, choose to forget
There will be a lot of things in life that don't make sense, and if you can't figure it out, then try to let go. Life is short, so why waste your good time on things that you can't figure out. Learn to forget and make your life easier and happier.
In the movie "Gone with the Wind", the heroine Scarlett has a very typical line: "If you can't think straight, just forget, tomorrow will be better." ”
This is Scarlett's life creed for more than twenty years, which tells Scarlett that tomorrow is not necessarily beautiful, but people who believe that tomorrow will be better must have a positive life.
Scarlett thinks of this phrase whenever she encounters a difficult problem. It is also this sentence that accompanies Scarlett through her most difficult time.
Although the ending of the film is a bit bleak, Scarlett's positive and upward mentality embellishes the entire film, which is still worth learning.
Life is like this, when you encounter a problem that you can't solve, don't think about it time-consuming and laboriously. Thinking is also in vain, how things should develop, has its own laws.
Therefore, if you forget the things you can't think of, you will make your life easier and make your life comfortable.
As Wong Kar Wai once said, "The biggest trouble of people is that their memory is too good." ”
Many things do not have to be entangled, learn to look down, unload the burden on the body, in order to live comfortably.
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If you live very tired, then do 3 things and change your way of life.
I like the saying: "In this world, not all rationality and beauty can exist or be realized according to their wishes." ”
In a person's life, even though there are many sadnesses and sorrows, life will continue. If you feel tired, move forward from another angle;
In life, there is only forward, not backward. No matter the wind, frost, snow and rain must be experienced, no matter the thorns and bumps must be passed, what we can avoid is not tired, not sad, not sad.
I don't want to think about difficult things, I don't want to take a difficult road, and I let go when I encounter a love that can't be retained. This is the simplest way of life for us on the road.
As long as the lights in your heart are not extinguished, as long as you still have the strength in your body, you will encounter a better scenery.
The past is not in love, the present is good, the future can be expected!