After the new episode of "Mother-in-law and Mother" was broadcast, Chen Songling's mother-in-law was on the hot search again, because of the double standard, because of eccentricity:
Chen Songling wanted to eat beef tripe, and after the mother-in-law asked the price, she began to find a reason: "too expensive, not easy to clean up", and finally bought beef brisket, because his son likes to eat;
After returning home, Chen Songling was not allowed to speak loudly, and there were hands pushing and shoving her, because she was afraid that Chen Songling would disturb her son's sleep;
Liu Yun and Zhang Meng came to visit the house, and the mother-in-law chatted happily with people, and boasted: "How can I not seem to have a sense of distance from you two!" "I am especially willing to be with young people", Chen Songling has never been so kind.
Everyone is dissatisfied with Chen Songling's unevenness, but it can be seen that Zhang Duo is more toward his daughter-in-law between his mother and daughter-in-law, and he knows that Chen Songling's kindness, hard work and difficulty will be angry with his mother because his daughter-in-law has been wronged.
Although it is said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a difficult problem in married life, in the end, the days are still small, and it is the lover who accompanies each other to the old, and the relationship between husband and wife can offset the bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is absolutely impossible to transform into the harmony of the husband and wife relationship.
At least Zhang Duo Chen Songling, happy marriage.
Comparatively speaking, the situation of Hou Peichen's family is simply surprising, the relationship between the mother-in-law and Huang Bojun is fine, but the way the husband and wife get along is slightly deformed.
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Hou Patzen is in control
Before Hou Peichen did not participate in "Mother-in-law and Mother", she was a girlfriend of the "White Moonlight" type, gentle and considerate and emotional intelligence, but after the program was broadcast, netizens directly called out terrible.
Since Hou's mother came to live at home, the whole family has become the world of mother and daughter, Huang Bojun seems particularly unnatural, dare not speak loudly, like to hide alone in the bedroom, forced to dance gymnastics with mother and daughter, and from time to time to face the fear of being dominated, almost from work to life, Hou Patzen has to insert a foot.
Huang Bojun called to deal with work-related matters, Hou Peichen completely disregarded his work feelings, for a small breakfast, many times disturbed, Huang Bojun hung up the phone, she also had to ask: "Why did you fight so long today", breakfast was not finished, she had to chant: "Why don't you finish eating?" ”
Mother gave Huang Bojun a gua sha, Hou Peichen wanted to make Huang Bojun comfortable, but Huang Bojun was silent, after returning to the room, Hou Patzen immediately became angry, because her husband did not follow her intention to behave in front of her mother.
Huang Ziling took his wife to the house as a guest, deliberately mentioned the injury on Huang Bojun's neck, Hou Peichen immediately corrected: That is not an injury, that is our love for him, and turned his head and asked Huang Ziling: "Are you tired lately?" Is this the rhythm that your husband has to manage, and other people's husbands have to manage?
When asked about the marriage preservation secret, Huang Bojun said that Hou Peichen has nothing else, that is, to let me have a good attitude towards her, quarrel and be kind! Huang Ziling did not understand: how to quarrel and be harmonious? In marriage, Hou Peichen really treated herself as a little princess who would never make a mistake.
In her understanding, if two people quarrel, they must be clear before going to bed, to solve, and Huang Bojun seems that the quarrel is the need to be calm, so there will often be a scene after the two quarrels:
Hou Peichen kept nagging, and Huang Bojun was already asleep.
Huang Bojun usually does not like to watch TV, and Hou Peichen's main work battlefield is the screen, so she will force Huang Bojun to watch her own programs.
Whether it is chatting with friends or doing interviews on the show, Hou Patzen is almost everywhere saying that Huang Bojun is not good, and unabashedly exposes her husband's shortcomings to the public.
Husband and wife get along, the most important thing is to understand and tolerate each other, especially women need to give enough men face outside, although some problems can be ridiculed with each other, but there is a need for moderation, Hou Patzen's approach, it is inevitable that the husband is very "meaty" and incompetent.
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Huang Bojun "broken jar broken"
Perhaps because of the reason that he has been managed for a long time, the screen feels that Huang Bojun is forbearance, he is not having no opinion on Hou Peichen, but he does not want to say and does not want to worry.
When hou Patzen was "educated" by Hou Patzen after his mother-in-law gave him gua sha, he was arguing: "I have said better!" Hou Peichen was obviously unhappy, said: "Good", and then left, Huang Bojun felt the depression of the atmosphere, but he did not go to coax, he did not want to coax, but did not want to coax.
In the process of getting along between husband and wife, Hou Peichen is more about commanding and commanding, and Huang Bojun is more about apologizing, when a man will only blindly apologize, either because he is humble and generous, or he is tired and wants to "break the jar and break it".
Although he stayed together every day, Huang Bojun never paid serious attention to the details of getting along with Hou Peichen, the lipstick number did not know, even the wife's mantra was not right, it is likely that Hou Peichen was too nagging, Huang Bojun left ear into the right ear out of it.
There is no husband and wife in the world that are not at all contradictory, everyone has a different personality, even if it is a long run-in, there will still be problems, but when the problem occurs, the most important thing for two people is to communicate, communicate peacefully and equally, and speak out each other's ideas, and there will be a knot to unravel a knot.
If you keep holding on to the words in your heart, there are only two consequences: "Do not erupt in silence, perish in silence." ”
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No marital passion
At the beginning, Hou Patzen and Huang Bojun only took 3 months from love to marriage, and the reason why the well-behaved daughter Hou Patzen would marry Huang Bojun was two reasons: one was that her mother felt good, and the other was that she felt that Huang Bojun had patience.
What we feel from the show is that Hou Peichen can indeed take down Huang Bojun, but Huang Bojun can't hold Hou Peichen, and he is a man who is unwilling to accommodate others.
Even in the hot love period, he is not willing to give in to ordering a takeaway, and Hou Peichen's taste is not the same, then each point is different, one eats pasta and one eats mixed sauce noodles, Hou Patzen likes to eat peeled egg tofu, Huang Bojun because he does not like to eat, he has never ordered it for his wife.
Which girl does not like warm men, does not desire each other to pay for themselves, but between Hou Patzen and Huang Bojun, because there is no small warm heart and small romance in life, it now seems to have no passion.
Huang Bojun rarely said sweet words to Hou Peichen, let him say an earthy love story, Hou Peichen listened to the face full of panic; Huang Ziling demonstrated that the husband and wife said that they loved you, Hou Peichen would rather say to his mother than to Huang Bojun; the couple often through the way of games, in order to understand each other, it seems that private active communication is not much.
Whether the marriage of the two people is happy and sweet is deliberately pretended, and the mode of getting along between Hou Patzen and Huang Bojun has entered a vicious circle:
The wife is dissatisfied with the husband, all day long the husband as a child like nagging, education, husband feels that the wife is annoyed, too lazy to explain and selectively "deaf", the communication between the two should be forced to be completed in a game way, very blunt.
It is said that in front of the lover, you don't have to deliberately change your shortcomings, you can be yourself, if the two people in the marriage really do this, it is not enough love.
Two people who truly love each other will be willing to change themselves for each other, make themselves better, and make both parties more compatible.