On July 24, 2013, Hebei boy Li Kangyu and Malaysian girl Yan Shuying received a marriage license, and such a multinational couple attracted a lot of attention. When people looked deeper, they learned that Li Kangyu was not a normal person, he suffered from rheumatoid at the age of four and knew Yan Shuying, he had been paralyzed in bed for 31 years. So why did the healthy Yan Shuying marry Li Kangyu? What is so great about Li Kangyu? The most important person in this issue, Ji, takes everyone into Li Kangyu's transnational marriage.
Lee Kang Woo and Shu Young
A 7-year-old paralyzed rural boy
Li Kangyu was born in 1975 to an ordinary rural family in Liushuquan Town, south of Fengnan District, Tangshan City. Before him, the parents had three daughters, and Li Kangyu's arrival added a lot of hope to the family, and the whole family loved the child very much.
On the night of July 27, 1976, a large earthquake of 7.8 on the Richter scale occurred in Tangshan, in which Li Kangyu's family evaded in time and survived the earthquake.
Li Kangyu, a child less than one year old, can escape the earthquake, which proves that he has tenacious vitality. But Kang Yu, who escaped the earthquake, did not escape the torment of the disease.
Photos of the Tangshan earthquake
Since the age of 1, Kang Yu has been frequently ill, with a high fever at every turn, and every time the whole family has circled around Kang Yu. At that time, the family was very poor, and there were not many nutritional products for Kang Yu to eat, which made Kang Yu's development very slow. It wasn't until he was three years old that Kang Yu could barely stand up.
Ordinary children can walk at the age of two, Kang Yu's parents are very worried, so they took him to the county hospital for examination, but at that time the medical conditions were backward, the hospital did not find any problems, and comforted Kang Yu's parents, saying that some children are slow to develop.
In this way, Li Kangyu's parents waited and waited, and by the age of 6, Kang Yu not only could not walk, but even had some difficulty in standing up. The parents took Kang Yu to the big hospital in Beijing for examination, and finally learned that their son was suffering from rheumatoid arthritis and it was difficult to recover because the treatment was not timely.
Rural hospitals
Of course, the most important thing is that the cost of rheumatoid treatment is too expensive, and for such a family that is difficult to even eat, they can only watch their son suffer from diseases.
At the age of 7, Li Kangyu could not get off the ground and began a bedridden life of more than 30 years. After being bedridden, his parents also took Kang Yu to the hospital for examination, and the doctors advised Kang Yu's parents to give up treatment and asserted that Li Kangyu would not live to be 20 years old.
But his parents did not give up on Kang Yu, but patiently took care of him. For Kang Yu, his intelligence was not affected, and as he continued to mature and understand, the more pain that followed. Watching other people's children jump around alive, but they can only lie on the bed, watching children of the same age carry school bags to school, and they even have a luxury of walking.
Pained Lee Kang-woo
Those years of life were extremely dark for Kang Yu, who had lost hope in life and even thought about suicide many times. But the pain in his joints prevented him from even completing suicide.
Lost parents rely on the care of the third sister
However, the son's pain, parents are in the eyes, the father in order to let Kang Yu learn knowledge, bought a literacy book for Kang Yu, bought some villain books, hoping that Kang Yu can find fun in it, slowly under the encouragement of his parents, Kang Yu gradually found the hope of living.
In 1985, his father took many years of savings to buy a TV for the family, every day when his parents went out to work, Kang Yu watched TV at home, on TV, Kang Yu learned a lot of knowledge, including history, geography and humanities, etc. Although Kang Yu could not move, he already had a lot of novel ideas in his mind.
Watch TV
In order to read, Kang Yu copied dictionaries and books when he was a child, over and over again, hoping to learn cultural knowledge. Slowly, Li Kangyu was able to write a letter and read it easily.
However, fate is often to love and torment these people who are already in suffering.
In 1996, Kang Yu's father suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and unfortunately died. The burden of the whole family suddenly fell on the mother, and in those years, several sisters were already married, and Kang Yu and his mother were dependent on each other.
Under the care of his mother, Kang Yu gradually got out of the pain and began to learn some new knowledge.
Kang Woo and the third brother-in-law
Then the mother not only had to take care of Kang Yu, but also had to farm to earn money to support the whole family, and gradually, under the pressure, the mother also fell ill and finally left Kang Yu in 2010. At the moment when her mother was dying, she still remembered Kang Yu, and she cried and said to her third daughter: After I die, you must take good care of Kang Yu.
In this way, since 2010, Kang Yu came to the home of the third sister Li Orchid. The death of his mother had made Kang Yu despair for a while, and in those days, Kang Yu would dream of his mother every day, and he would be awakened by nightmares in the middle of the night, indeed, his mother was too important to him. In those years, his condition also became more and more serious, and every day his body joints were very painful, and he had to take painkillers every day to maintain his life.
Li Kangyu, who is paralyzed all over his body
Not only that, at that time, Kang Yu's whole body joints were stiff, leaving only two eyes and three fingers of his right hand to move, but it was gratifying that Kang Yu could still speak and communicate normally with people. In the sister's home, the sister also has to take care of the children, and can not accompany Kang Yu all the time, so that Kang Yu can find fun in a boring life.
The third sister bought a second-hand smart phone for Kang Yu, and then with the help of the third sister, Kang Yu registered a QQ number and learned to chat online.
Meet Malaysian girls through the Internet
In 33 years, through the Internet, Li Kangyu came into contact with people outside the village for the first time, he met many friends on the Internet, and chatted with them quite well, and Li Kangyu, who had new friends, was also full of new expectations for life.
Lee Kang-woo on the Internet
On June 19, 2011, Li Kangyu tried to add new friends on QQ as usual, at this time, a Malaysian girl entered Li Kangyu's vision, she is Yan Shuying.
Born in 1978 in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, Yan Shuying grew up in the city and came to a well-off family. Shuying has an older brother and two younger sisters, and her parents have high hopes for these four children. Yan Shuying was also excellent, graduated from medical school, and was still working in a hospital in Malaysia at that time, with an income of more than 5,000 yuan per month.
That day, Yan Shuying also added friends on the Internet, and suddenly she saw Li Kangyu's QQ signature. Kang Yu's QQ signature reads: Although I have been paralyzed for 28 years, I have not succumbed to the torment of illness, cherish the bits and pieces of life, and be grateful. Smile and show your optimism and strong spirit to your friends.
Yan Shuying
Obviously, this signature attracted Yan Shuying, who was curious: Is there really such a person who has been paralyzed in bed for 28 years? With a curious attitude, Shuying took the initiative to add Kang Yu's QQ.
Soon, Kang Yu passed the friend verification and sent a message to Shuying: Hello, I wish you happiness and happiness.
Shuying also sent blessings to Kang Woo, and then Shu Ying told Kang Woo that she was a Chinese girl from Malaysia.
In this way, the two people chatted with each other, and through chatting, Shuying gradually learned about Kang Yu's physical condition and began to experience Kang Yu's misfortune. In the chat, Shuying will always encourage Kang Yu and always praise Kang Yu's strength. He even asked Kang Yu for a photo.
After that, Kang Yu also did not hesitate to send a photo to Shuying, in the photo, Kang Yu was indeed spring in bed, Shuying felt that Kang Yu was still quite handsome, of course, more or more painful, she is difficult to imagine, a person lying in bed for 28 years, never stood up, so lived in bed for 28 years.
Shuying describes Kang Woo
In Shuying's view, Kang Yu is an optimistic and strong person, no matter what difficulties, Kang Yu can survive, Shuying also regards Kang Yu as an important friend, anything will communicate with Kang Yu, in this way, the two people have become friends who talk about everything, and chat most of the time every day.
After a period of time, Li Kangyu found that he seemed to be in love with the girl Shuying who was chatting with him, but as soon as he thought about it, Li Kangyu blamed himself very much, where did he have the capital to fall in love with others? And what courage do you have to confess to Shuying? So even if he falls in love with Shuying, Kang Yu can only keep his love in his heart.
Kang Yu
On the other hand, through many days of getting along, Shuying has long been touched by Kang Yu's strength and optimism. It was hard for her to imagine what kind of perseverance had sustained Kang Yu through these 28 years of hardship. Not only that, Shuying feels that Kang Yu speaks humorously and funnyly, knows how to care about others, and has a sense of responsibility. She also felt as if she could not leave Kang Yu, because as long as she picked up her mobile phone every day, she would think of sending a message to Kang Yu.
The girl took the initiative to confess Ton Woo
On the evening of July 20, 2011, Shuying actually took the initiative to confess to Kang Yu, she wrote: Kang Yu, do you know? In fact, I am already in love with you, I have been struggling for many days, I don't know if you can accept me.
Kang Woo describes Shu Ying's confession
For Shuying's sudden confession, Kang Yu was not moved at the first time, but felt unrealistic, he felt that someone like him could not fall in love with him. He felt that Shuying was probably just lying to him to be happy.
So Kang Yu did not agree to Shuying's confession, but Shuying continued to express love to Kangyu in the subsequent chat, and every time she was rejected by Kangyu, Shuying seemed very sad, and even shed tears, looking at the persevering Shuying, Kang Yu finally believed in Shuying's love for herself.
In September 2011, Kang Yu finally agreed to Shuying's continuous confession, and also showed his love to Shuying, and Shuying knew that in fact, Kang Yu had fallen in love with himself a long time ago.
However, Kang Yu did not have the idea of meeting Shuying for a lifetime at first, but only wanted to become a lover with Shuying first. Because the two had not met, he was afraid that Shuying would change her inner thoughts after seeing him.
But Shuying does not think so, Shuying thinks that she has fallen in love with KangYu, even if she sees Kangyu, she will love more strongly, so Shuying has the idea of wanting to see Kangyu.
On November 13, 2011, Shuying took a flight from Kuala Lumpur, the capital of Malaysia, to Beijing, China, on a holiday. Knowing that Shuying was coming, Kang Woo seemed very excited. He asked his friend to go to Tianjin Airport early to pick up Shuying.
Lee Kang Woo and Yan Shu Ying
That day, Kang Yu, who was lying on the bed, heard the noise outside, he thought it should be Shuying arrived, and then he lay down and shouted: Ah Ying, and then Shuying responded after entering the door: Kang Yu. Then Shuying held Kang Yu's hand tightly, and the two people who had never met before were extremely familiar at that moment, without a trace of embarrassment or strangeness.
In the next two weeks, Shuying lived in Kang Yu's house and took the initiative to take care of Kang Yu, Shuying, who grew up in a big city, came to the countryside for the first time, and the rural toilet made Shuying difficult to accept, but for Kang Yu, Shuying could endure.
But a foreign girl came to the tangshan countryside and actually claimed to be the girlfriend of the paralyzed man Kang Yu, which spread quickly in this village, and it was difficult for people in the village to imagine why such an excellent girl should be with Kang Yu? Most people think that Shuying is a kind and warm-hearted person, and the reason why she is with Kang Yu is only that she feels that Kang Yu is pitiful.
Shuying patiently takes care of Kang Woo
But all this seems to Shuying to be a misunderstanding, because only she knows how good Kang Woo is.
This time, the meeting also allowed Shuying to fully understand Kang Yu, and also strengthened her determination to be with Kang Yu.
After returning to Malaysia, Shuying had the idea of settling in China and accompanying Kang Yu for the rest of her life. But if she were to do so, she would have to tell her parents that she was in love with a paralyzed rural Chinese man.
Shu Ying and Kang Woo
One day, Shuying deliberately called her mother to her room and told her all this, and when she showed her kang yu's photo to her mother, her mother was stunned, and she left Shuying's room without saying a word.
The next day, the mother called the family's relatives, and everyone gathered together for a family meeting, in order to persuade Shuying to change her mind and forget Kang Yu as soon as possible. But despite the family's discouragement, Shuying is still complaining about her family, why no one can understand her. For this reason, Shuying even broke off relations with her family and wanted to be with Kang Yu.
Shuying
Shuying's family also decided to go to China to see Kang Yu.
The girl is desperate to marry Kang Woo
In May 2012, Shuying's brother and two younger sisters accompanied Shuying to Tangshan, China, to visit Kang Yu together. After seeing Kang Yu, Shuying's brother was stunned, Kang Yu is indeed a person who cannot move, but through the chat with Kang Yu, the brother seems to be able to see that this is a strong man.
The brother told Shuying: This road is very difficult, it will be very difficult, do you want to think about it again.
But Shuying did not hesitate, just told her brother that she would insist on going.
Shuying dictated
Then, Shuying's family returned to Malaysia, and her brother told her mother everything about Kang Woo. After hearing this, her mother also knew that she could no longer persuade Shuying, so she had to agree to their love.
In November 2012, Shuying flew to China again, this time she came to Tangshan with the good news agreed by the whole family, that is, she wanted to get engaged to Kang Yu, she also felt that the engagement was too anxious, but she was afraid that Kang Yu was still doubting her feelings, and the reason why she was so anxious was to reassure Kang Yu that she really wanted to spend a lifetime with Kang Yu.
Interview with Shu Ying
In July 2013, Shuying flew to China for the fourth time, and before coming, she quit her job in Malaysia and planned to stay in China for a long time, and also decided to accompany and take care of Kang Yu for the rest of her life.
When Li Kangyu's third sister learned that Shuying was going to marry KangYu, she objected many times, because she felt that Kangyu did not know what day she would live, and more importantly, Kangyu could not take care of herself and would drag down the kind Shuying. However, after coming to China, Shuying was not afraid of difficulties and took the initiative to take on the responsibility of taking care of Kang Yu.
Shuying loves to be clean, every day she has to constantly clean up the house, the toilet outside the house, she has to brush many times a day, and every day, she will take time to take care of Kangyu's hygiene, wash Kangyu's hair, wipe her body. When she was fine, she lay down with Kang Yu and went online to listen to music.
Shuying's continuous efforts, the third sister also saw in her eyes, and could only agree to their marriage.
Shuying shows the marriage certificate
On July 24, 2013, Shuying took Kang Yu to the local civil affairs bureau in Tangshan to get a marriage license, and in this way, a Malaysian beauty married a paralyzed boy Li Kangyu. Such a marriage can only be said to be a rare encounter in a hundred years.
Both sides of the family
On August 8 of the same year, at Shuying's insistence, Kang Yu's third sister held a simple wedding for Kang Woo and Shu Ying, and the two held a ceremony in a local hotel, which was attended by Shu Ying's family and Kang Yu's relatives.
Usual wedding people are looking forward to the bride's attendance, but their wedding, the appearance of the groom is unique. At about 11:00 a.m. that day, the wedding was about to begin.
Lee Kang-woo attended
Several young lads moved down a sofa and placed it on the ceremony table, and then six relatives and friends formed a stretcher with their arms and slowly lifted Li Kangyu to the sofa.
At 12:00 noon, the wedding began, Yan Shuying slowly walked to the front of the stage accompanied by her brother, her brother's eyebrows were locked, there was no slightest pleasure, but Yan Shuying was full of smiles, and the sharp contrast made the relatives and friends present cry bitterly.
Yan Shuying and her brother
Due to Shuying's faith problems, there was also a priest present at the wedding that day, and in front of the priest, Yan Shuying made her sacred vows at the wedding. "Before God, with our families, and with witnesses from all walks of life who are concerned about us, I am willing to marry Li Kangyu as my husband and live with you in the sacred marriage contract." Sick or healthy, poor or rich, sorrowful or joyful, adversity or good times, I am willing to love you forever, cherish you, comfort you, respect you, protect you, and be willing to remain faithful to you forever throughout our lives..."
Shu Ying swears
In this way, the transnational couple who have been in love for more than two years has finally come to perfection.
However, marriage is often full of chai rice oil and salt, Shuying and Kang Yu have no source of income, and at first they can only rely on Kang Yu's low insurance of 120 yuan per month as living expenses.
Shuying did take care of Kang Yu patiently like the vows she made, but the increasing economic pressure also forced Shuying to consider how to make money.
Kang Yu began to support his family by speaking
During that time, the love between Shuying and Kang Yu received a lot of media attention, whenever the reporter came to the door, Shuying gladly accepted, she did not hesitate to share her love, of course, she also hoped to find a way to make a living through continuous media reports.
Li Kangyu gave a speech
It turns out that Shuying is a very far-sighted person, with the continuous fame of the two, many companies have begun to invite Li Kangyu to let him do some motivational speeches in the company, and through making speeches, Li Kangyu gradually found the value of life, he got a lot of remuneration in the process of doing speeches, and he also realized that he could support his family.
Shuying and Kang Woo speak
But behind his back, Yan Shuying has been taking care of him, for him to list one stop after another speech, and soon, Li Kangyu has also become a well-known motivational speaker in the country, walking through more than 40 provinces and cities across the country, sharing his story with many people. Later, with the help of Yan Shuying, Li Kangyu also established the "Kangyu Foundation". Helping more people with disabilities realize their dreams.
Kang Woo died tragically
One day in December 2016, Li Kangyu had just finished a speech in Tianjin, after which he felt some physical condition, he felt a little stuffy in his chest, but for many years, the pain had no feeling for him, he never took it seriously, nor did he tell Yan Shuying.
Shuying is out serving Kang Woo
In this way, Li Kangyu insisted for a month, and on January 15, 2017, Li Kangyu got up in the morning and felt that his breathing was very painful, and he once had a feeling of suffocation, so he told Yan Shuying, and Shuying quickly dialed the 120 emergency number.
After arriving at the hospital, after examination by doctors, it was found that Li Kangyu's heart had effusions and pustules, and he had to go to Beijing for surgery immediately. Yan Shuying rushed to accompany Li Kangyu to Beijing.
In the Chinese New Year's Eve of 2017, Li Kangyu underwent surgery in a hospital in Beijing, and although the operation was not a failure, Li Kangyu's condition after the operation was very bad, and it was difficult to have any hope of recovery.
operating room
The next day, Kang Woo woke up, and Shuying and the doctor advised him to rest well, but he said, "I don't dare to close my eyes, because once I close, I will never see my wife again." ”
On the third day, January 29, 2017, Li Kangyu, who had been tormented by illness all his life, left and said goodbye to 35 years of bed rest, at the age of 42.
Before leaving, he also said to Shuying: "I can't continue to accompany you, you have worked hard for several years, I'm sorry, I didn't leave you property." You are the person I care about the most, after I leave, you go back to Malaysia to reunite with your family, and I am relieved to have them take care of you. Shuying cried and said to Kang Yu, "Husband, you can go with peace of mind, I will live strongly." ”
Kang Woo and Shu Ying
Before Li Kangyu's death, he had a wish to make a movie about his story with Shuying, and in order to fulfill her husband's wish, Shuying did not return to Malaysia immediately, but stayed in Tangshan to actively seek the person who could help Kangyu realize his wish.
Shuying, who stayed in Tangshan, would go to Kang Yu's grave to chat with Kang Yu every holiday, and Kang Yu's death was a painful blow to Shu Ying.
"In the more than 7 months that Kang Yu has been gone, I often secretly cry and miss him very much, and Kang Yu is a very wise person. We never quarreled, although we couldn't move, but everything in the family was presided over by Kang Yu, and with him around, I felt very safe. Yan Shuying once said in an interview with reporters.
Shuying fulfills her dream for Kang Woo
On June 19, 2017, Zhao Lijun, chairman of Tangshan Huiying Culture Media Co., Ltd., decided to fulfill the dream of Li Kangyu and Yan Shuying, and Zhao Lijun had heard of their love long ago and was also touched by their love.
Film launches
On this day, a movie called "Kuala Lumpur Loves Tangshan" officially began filming, the day's press conference, Yan Shuying came to the scene, she sighed "the dream is fulfilled, but unfortunately Kang Yu is gone."
In recent years, it has been difficult to hear the news of Yan Shuying, and the movie "Kuala Lumpur In Love with Tangshan" has not been released for a long time, but their love story is still circulating.
Life photos of Lee Kang-woo and Yan Shu-young
As Yan Shuying said: "Although Kang Yu is gone, Kang Yu's spirit is still there." I am willing to take his spirit to influence more people. ”