Pension has always been the icing on the cake, and few are willing to give charcoal in the snow.
Many people's ideal pension is that children give money on time every month, and then often go home to see, and when they have no self-care ability at all, they will take themselves to their children's small homes to live.
Enjoy the joy of the world.
Unfortunately, reality often backfires.
The Dream of the Red Chamber has been seen by everyone.
It often depicts Jia Mu and her descendants getting along.
Every time they ate, it was the daughters-in-law who waited by the side, waiting for Jia Mu and several grandchildren to finish eating, and then it was the turn of the daughter-in-law to eat.
The daughters-in-law went to Jia Mu to amuse herself and make the old lady happy.
A peaceful atmosphere makes countless people full of yearning for such a pension life.
But what if Jia Mu was just an old lady from an ordinary farmer's family?
The son works in the field every day, and the daughter-in-law weaves cloth every day, washes and cooks with the children, will she still be so motherly and filial piety?
Everyone is overwhelmed by life, cutting a few pounds of meat to buy a few pounds of grain must be calculated, otherwise the copper plate in their hands will not be able to support next month. At this time, there was absolutely no one in the whole family to coax her to be happy in front of the old lady.
It even said that everyone was looking forward to this old lady leaving early.
The reason why Jia Mu can live such a superior old age depends on her own value.
Her private money can be used to supplement the entire Jia Province, and can afford to support the entire Grand View Garden.
Her daughters-in-law don't have to work every day, and the rough work is done by the bearded women.
Her grandchildren and granddaughters lived a serious life of a rich family, and they only needed to chant poems every day.
Her sons, who had inherited positions and did not have to run for their livelihoods, naturally served this highly respected mother thoughtfully.
You see, the filial piety of children depends largely on the value of the elderly themselves.
The lower the bottom, the more this is especially true.
The bottom layer often bears greater pressure to survive, not to mention raising an old man to the end of life, that is, taking three more days of leave, and the family will not be able to open the pot.
Filial piety can only exert its greatest effect when there is no pressure to survive.
In the neighborhood where I live, there used to be a "big filial piety".
To what extent is filial piety? The son disliked his daughter-in-law and was unwilling to take care of the old woman who was paralyzed, and directly chose divorce.
Say unfilial daughter-in-law he would rather not!
After the divorce, the two houses were divided, and the daughter-in-law took the daughter-in-law away, leaving the son and the semi-paralyzed old mother.
The old mother is only in her 60s, and if she is properly cared for, there is no problem in living for another 20 years.
Filial piety, when calling others to do it, is to touch the upper and lower lips, with extremely high standards to ask others to carry out.
And when it was his turn to do it himself, he lowered the standard infinitely and began to find reasons to shirk it.
The son served his mother for half a month, and he was bored.
My mother didn't have a pension, and she had to push downstairs to bask in the sun every day, get regular massages, and have someone to cook and clean the house.
One person really can't wait.
At the beginning, you can still see the figure of the old mother basking in the sun downstairs in the community, and after half a month, you can no longer see it.
After a few months, I often heard my son scolding his mother, either because he hated her as a drag, or because he hated her for being difficult to serve, and the neighbors were overwhelmed.
Later, the epidemic came, the son was unemployed, he could only sell the house at a low price, and the two people did not know where to move.
Being a big filial piety, it's too hard!
People's energy is limited, and if they can take care of this end, they can't take care of that end.
Otherwise, in the Water Margin, why would the author write that Li Kui's old mother was eaten by a tiger.
Just because if the old mother followed Li Kui to Liangshan, there would be no way to write about this character later.
Read that paragraph carefully and you will find some logical errors. Li Kui was worried about his mother's thirst, wasn't he worried about the beast coming out to eat people? He still chose to find water, rather than telling his mother: Mother, there are wild beasts near here, you bear with it, and I will go to find water immediately.
Not to mention that the death of Li Kui's mother actually brought the laughter of the good men of Liangshan!
Li Kui was a filial son, but in the context of that time, he dragged his mother up To Liangshan, and he really couldn't do anything, which was not false at all.
The author can only write Li Kui's mother to death.
If Li Kui's mother had to be like Sun Erniang, there would be no need to write such a thing.
The value of a person should not wait until old age to find it, but should be accumulated from a young age.
If you are entangled in whether you can pay social security now, then hurry up and pay, and it is really rich to be rich when you are old.
If you are now struggling with whether to learn something and do some side business, then hurry up and learn, maybe this is a guarantee after you are old!
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In your old age, your children are here to add to the icing on the cake.
As for the piece of brocade that embellishes the flowers, you still have to fight for it yourself.
Finally, i like a quote:
When I was young, I thought money was supreme, but this year I have come to an end and found out that this is indeed the case - Wilde