There is an old treasure in the home. But the reality is that a person with an old-fashioned concept is difficult to like, and it is more annoying.
Thankfully, I was luckier. When the in-laws were still in good health, they left their hometown and ran to Hangzhou to develop, and in the second year in Hangzhou, the father-in-law suffered a stroke and was paralyzed. And I already have a good career and a house in Hangzhou. Therefore, every year, I only live home for one month during the Spring Festival, and it is usually difficult to live in my hometown.
The best place to live in the Twin Cities is that distance produces beauty. Out of sight and out of mind, in-laws' ramblings, inaudible, yawning and coughing, their large and small pills and injections are ignored. Even so, the spring festival together for a month, for me is also a torment. Mother-in-law usually only says 3 sentences "Eat!" Eat more! What to eat at noon? "Father-in-law's ear back, hemiplegia, constantly sneezing, eating is particularly slow, a sentence you have to pull your throat many times, he can hear clearly, many times even if he hears clearly, he can't understand, Alipay he has not used, in addition to food, he feels strange to many things."
You said that Yunnan is very beautiful, the four seasons are like spring, he said, he has been everywhere, and now he thinks this living room is very good. You let him drink Pu'er tea, he said he couldn't sleep after drinking it. You let him taste the steak, he said he couldn't bite, you stewed the ribs for him, he said his tongue was stiff, he couldn't get rid of the broken bones, a lot of dishes, he had to cook until it was soft, he could spend hours eating.
If it weren't for my long-term life in Hangzhou, it would be really difficult for me to tolerate their calm pension in my big and warm house. The balcony that used to be very tidy, stuffed with the mother-in-law's garbage, the torn cardboard box, the sewing machine that had not been used for many years, the wire, the torn clothes, the bed, the hammer, the pump, the drying rack, the steamer... Occasionally, the in-laws go to see their own old house, and when they come back, they will say that they didn't expect the house they used to live in to be so broken and so dark and cold!
When people get old, they are not terrible, but what is terrible is the dilapidation of their thoughts. My father-in-law suffered a stroke because of his diabetes. But his mother-in-law gave him a lot of steamed buns, sweet potatoes, and noodles every day. Mother-in-law 78 years old, quite capable, the only biggest exercise is to go out to buy a lot of food, proudly carry back, throw it in the refrigerator freezer on the balcony, wait until the potatoes have sprouts, sweet potatoes turn black, green vegetables are green, and then nagging and throwing away.
I have not cut to the point, from a financial point of view, how to do a home with an old treasure? hehe! My heart is indeed incompatible with my in-laws and mother-in-law, but as a junior, I can do it without disturbing and let my good house go out so that they can live in peace of mind, and they are also grateful in their hearts.
So in return, every year, the in-laws will take out 30,000 yuan to give me in the name of my son's old age money and tuition fees. This year, my father-in-law told me very seriously that he had 200,000 yuan in his hand, and when my son bought a house, he would take it out to help me.
In addition to my in-laws, I also have a lovely old mother, also more than 70 years old, living habits are very good, the physical examination report is also very good, just the same bad, she has a small heart, often depressed insomnia, serious times, can't sleep all night, crying every day, saying that it is a ghost haunting her, she is about to die. At the worst time, my mother was thin like a zombie, her face was sallow, and every day she took my hand and told me how many torn cotton jackets there were at home, which cotton jackets were sewn with deposit folds, and how many passwords there were. I stopped working in Hangzhou and came back to accompany her to the mental hospital hospitalization, during which my mother secretly ran out to buy Chinese medicine, saying that Western medicine was incompetent, not as good as Chinese medicine, and said that she had no heartbeat, she was going to die, and she had to go home to prepare for the aftermath. ...... Fortunately, these problems were gone later. I sent my mother's attending physician a cake of Pu'er tea and said a lot of words of gratitude.
Now, my mother often says, "Thanks to that time, you accompanied me to the hospital, and said that as long as my mother crosses this hurdle, she can live for another 30 years, and my mother strives to live to 100 years old."
In fact, mom can open the heart knot, and has a relationship with money. Dad died of a heart attack at the age of 68, and my mother's pension was low, 2500 yuan. Without money, people have no confidence. When I bought a house in Hangzhou, my mother sold her old house and lived in a new house by herself, giving me 600,000 yuan. In return, I pay interest to my mother every year at a 5% interest rate. With this money, the mother ate the reassurance pill and knew that even if the father was gone, she would have money to spend.
Dragging the mother back from the hand of the god of death, the mother was very happy. She told me several times that if she bought a house in Hangzhou again, she would sponsor 200,000 yuan and continue to pay interest. I said, "No problem." It is not reliable to put the money in the hands of the guarantee company, and it is still good to put it in the hands of the pro-girlfriend.
Am I a money junkie? I think I'm a money junkie. However, it is not good to take good care of the elderly, give them shelter, and give them a sense of security.