Is the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law an incompatible relationship? In fact, the relationship between people and people is not so absolute, as long as the mentality of two people changes at a certain moment. If you look at the people around you, you will have completely different ideas.
Don't always be too rigid in the impression of a person, no matter who it is, he is always changing all the time. No one's personality has always remained the same as it was. The family should also know that they should think about themselves from another angle and then speculate about others.
As the elder of the family, the mother-in-law should receive the respect and care of all the juniors in the family. After all, the mother-in-law does have more life experience and views, and in daily life, it will also bring a lot of their own experience and lessons to the younger generation, avoiding them from taking fewer detours.
But some mothers-in-law always feel that their identity has changed now, and there is already a person in the family who can make themselves free to call. I felt that I always had to show some momentum as a mother-in-law.
Wang Qian and her mother-in-law have been fighting since then, and after they got married, they were needles pointed at Mai Mang. Two people at home, all the time there are all kinds of contradictions. Even two people will have a big quarrel because of a little thing, and there is no way for two people at home to sit together and communicate normally.
01. The mother-in-law has always made the daughter-in-law at home, and has a high-spirited attitude
After Cui Kun got married, he felt that his family now had a stable development trend. So I didn't put a lot of thought into the family, and my wife Wang Qian was also a very good person to get along with. Just thinking that wang qian in the family will definitely not always look for a head at home because of some things.
But I didn't expect that my mother did not have a very good attitude towards her daughter-in-law. When my mother first became a daughter-in-law in the past, because people's thinking was still relatively feudal in the past, she felt that her daughter-in-law was marrying into her own family to work as a coolie. Cui Kun's grandmother did not have a good look for Cui Kun's mother.
Cui Kun's mother has finally become a mother-in-law over the years, and she feels that she should also let her daughter-in-law feel the suffering she has suffered in the past. After all, she also has an identity now, and her daughter-in-law must listen to her own commands in everything she does, and she still has to listen to her own words.
"Young, always sleeping late every morning. Don't say it to cook for a big son, really lazy to die, our family is really eight lifetimes of mold, married to such a daughter-in-law as you. ”
"I know that sitting on the couch and watching TV doesn't say to drag the floor, you just dragged it at noon, and you don't say to drag it again in the afternoon." You see there are already some floating soil on this floor, and I really married into our house and waited for someone to serve. ”
"Every day I wear flowers and branches outside, all of them spend my son's money. I don't know how you can have such a thick skin and wear it on yourself with other people's money, do you feel very comfortable? ”
At first, Wang Qian had been enduring these words of her mother-in-law. After all, he was alone, and it would take a long time to integrate into this strange family, but her mother-in-law thought that Wang Qian had been hiding it, and she didn't dare to provoke herself.
02. During the daughter-in-law's pregnancy, the mother-in-law is bitter and mean
Later, Wang Qian also felt that she could no longer continue to endure, and the result of her retreat was only the more unscrupulous humiliation of her mother-in-law. I didn't think of myself as a member of this family at all, so I opened my mouth to evoke myself. It doesn't matter how hard it sounds to hear what you say.
Wang Qian began to have conflicts with her mother-in-law at home, and some of her mother-in-law's very unreasonable requests, Wang Qian directly refused. Sometimes the mother-in-law even sat on the ground and cried because of Wang Qian's refusal.
"Come and see, the daughter-in-law has bullied the mother-in-law." I was a mother-in-law bullying my daughter-in-law, and now the feng shui takes turns, I have managed to survive from my daughter-in-law to my mother-in-law, and now my daughter-in-law can directly step on my head. My life is really bitter, I don't know what it means to be alive, but it is better to let me lose a hundred like this. ”
Wang Qian looked at her mother-in-law's sloppy and unreasonable look and was also very helpless. If you continue to pester, you will appear to be very unsympathetic. The mother-in-law had become like this, and Wang Qian had to shut up and stop talking about it.
Later, during Wang Qian's pregnancy, due to the relatively large reaction during pregnancy, she asked the company for leave in advance and raised the fetus at home. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, she became Wang Qian, and now that she was pregnant, she did nothing at home.
The mother-in-law always had to go to Wang Qian's bedroom and said two words to Wang Qian. Saying that Wang Qian is really golden now, the family does not dare to let Wang Qian do any work, who knows whether Wang Qian will suddenly fall down, it is said that the mother-in-law pushed down.
The mother-in-law's yin and yang strange tone, until the few days when Wang Qian was about to give birth, Wang Qian also kept her pregnant mood good, and she also took these words as a side wind.
03. During the confinement period, the mother-in-law prepares a very tasty confinement meal
After Wang Qian gave birth, she prepared to confinement at home. Cui Kun also instructed his mother to let go of some of her usual prejudices and treat Wang Qian well during her confinement. After all, Wang Qian has also paid too much for this family, and she also has to feel sad for her daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law repeatedly agreed on her lips, but in her heart she did not think so. When he first gave birth to a child, he did not have Wang Qian like this, waiting for someone to serve him at home. He was definitely going to kill Wang Qian's squeamishness, but he couldn't let Wang Qian step directly on his head.
Therefore, the mother-in-law gave Wang Qian some rice soup every day, or used the kind of chen rice that had been put for a long time. And I don't want to put much, and the usual meals are also fried with vegetable leaves that I don't want.
The mother-in-law also told Wang Qian that this is the most nutritious confinement meal. After all, during the confinement period, you must eat lightly, which is carefully prepared by yourself, so that Wang Qian can eat all of them.
04. Daughter-in-law tit-for-tat when her mother-in-law is sick
During the confinement period, Wang Qian had already remembered this vendetta in her heart. After all, whether the mother-in-law is telling the truth or lying, her heart is still like a mirror. Just after waiting, the mother-in-law also took care of her own turn, and she must definitely inflict all the suffering she had suffered on her mother-in-law, after all, she was not a soft persimmon.
Later, my mother-in-law was hospitalized because the weather suddenly turned cold. At this point, it was Wang Qian's daughter-in-law's turn to serve her mother-in-law in the hospital. Wang Qian told her mother-in-law that he must also take special care of her.
"Mother-in-law, you are finally sick, and I will make you the most nutritious confinement meal." This is what you said to me originally, isn't it true that all you did for me was bad? So I'm going to do this to you every day from tomorrow onwards, to make sure you're discharged early with a red face. ”
The mother-in-law panicked after listening to it, and when she did that, she finally regurgitated it to herself. After eating confinement meals in the hospital for a long time, I finally had a deep understanding of my daughter-in-law. From then on, he no longer dared to quarrel with Wang Qian at home, and he was also safe and peaceful at home, and did not dare to make trouble again.
In fact, at home, everyone does not need to pay attention to anything, the family should be the warmest and most secure place in the world. There shouldn't be intrigue and derogatory ridicule everywhere. Everyone should be sincere and sincere to make this family better.
The most important thing for the family to get better is that everyone knows how to get along with other family members. Whether it was someone who was originally in the family, or a member who later rejoined the new family as a result of marriage.
All people should be treated with the same attitude, after all, everyone in this family is a rare fate. It is a gift from Heaven that allows a family to meet together, which should be a very happy thing.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not be like opposing relationships, treating each other like enemies every day. In fact, two people should sit down, calmly exchange their true thoughts, and solve the misunderstanding between the two.