Text / Wake up
Editor / Little Love Letter
"I can't leave the house, I have to stay with my children."
This is what Pan Jun, the husband of the well-known actor Sarina, said when he was divided over who would take care of the children.
In the family and career, as a man, he chose to give in, take care of his daughter, and let Sarina shoot outside without any worries.
The two were together in college and married as soon as they graduated.
In the traditional Chinese family model, it is generally the male protagonist and the female protagonist, but Sarina and Pan Jun are just the opposite.
So why would Pan Jun, as a husband, willingly "cook at home" for 32 years?
01
Pan Jun first met Sarina in the first semester of freshman year, and the two were classmates in the 85th class of the Shanghai Theater Academy.
When he first saw Sarina, Pan Jun felt that there was an indescribable aura and beauty between the girl's eyebrows, which made people unconsciously want to get closer.
Of course, at that time, Pan Jun's own conditions were not bad, and he also shot many works, and people looked very handsome.
There were many girls I had seen, but there had never been a girl who could be as touched as Sarina was when he saw it.
So in order not to miss his liking for Sarina, Pan Jun took advantage of the convenience of his classmates to get the moon first.
Pan Jun belongs to the more active people, often talking to Sarina, and over time the two develop a good feeling for each other.
It's just that at that time, both people were shy, and early love was forbidden by the school, so they just maintained a friendship relationship.
What really started to change in their relationship was because of a party.
At that time, the atmosphere of the university was very good, there was a classmate's birthday in the class, invited the whole class to participate together, in the lively party, Pan Jun's eyes have been unconsciously following Sarina.
When he saw that he was about to take a picture, Pan Jun rushed over to Sarina's side and asked his friend to take a picture for them.
In the photo, Sarina is young and young, Pan Jun looks shy and handsome, and the two are still quite compatible.
Perhaps under the catalyst of this time together, after the two got along with a little more ambiguous, slowly or naturally came together, talked about underground love.
Campus love is always simple and pure, because I am afraid that teachers and classmates will know that the two can only have a low-key secret love.
Every day, I secretly hold hands during the acting class, and when the night twilight falls, we walk from the north gate of the school to the south gate of the school together, simple but romantic.
However, although the two talked very low-key, the paper could not contain the fire after all, and this underground love was still known by the teacher.
Perhaps the teacher also felt that Pan Jun and Sarina were down-to-earth children, and thought that the two of them were quite good together, so he did not blame them too much.
But I couldn't help but worry that Sarina would suffer losses as a girl, so she warned Pan Jun:
"Sarina is a good girl, you are with her, but treat her well."
Pan Jun heard the teacher's blessing and quickly promised that he would cherish Sarina.
In this way, Pan Jun and Sarina can finally be in a good position, and the two spent the best time of college together.
As soon as he graduated, he chose to get married, and Pan Jun only spent 258 yuan to solve the marriage event.
However, at that time, just graduated, Pan Jun and Sarina did not have much money, and the family was not rich, how did the two plan?
02
Time pulls back to the eve of the two deciding to get married.
Pan Jun and Sarina have been in love since the first semester of their freshman year, and there are more than three years when they graduate from college, which is not a long time for a person.
But for Pan Jun and Sarina, these three years or so were enough time for them to decide that they were the ones who wanted to spend their lives together, so as soon as they graduated from college, the two decided to start a family first.
It's just that at that time, Pan Jun didn't have much money, and he also tested Sarina's mind in his pocket, and once the two of them went to the Yuanmingyuan for a date, Pan Jun asked Sarina:
"Do I want to buy you a ring?"
He probably thought that if Sarina was more interested in this, he would marry later, and wait until he had the money to buy her what she wanted.
Who knew that Sarina just smiled and pointed to the place where souvenirs were sold at the entrance of the Yuanmingyuan and said:
"Go there and buy me a ring, and you'll marry me."
After hearing this, Pan Jun quickly picked out a nice ring from a large number of souvenirs, and after paying eight yuan, he took the ring and put it on Sarina.
There was a lot of noise around them, but Pan Jun and Sarina had been engaged in such an environment for life.
However, there are many good things, and after that, the two still encountered some trouble when they received the license.
The two carefully selected a good day to get the certificate, but did not go to the Civil Affairs Bureau to find that Sarina was not yet the legal age of 23, only 22 and a half years old, and needed to go to the certificate.
Pan Jun accompanied Sarina to open a certificate and knew that if he wanted to open a certificate to get a certificate, he must first pay two hundred yuan for early marriage and early childbearing.
If you don't have children for a year after marriage, you can take your ID card and get back the two hundred dollars.
At this time, Pan Jun and Sarina hesitated, because at that time their monthly salary was only more than a hundred yuan, but after thinking about it repeatedly, they decided to get married first, so Pan Jun and Sarina paid the two hundred yuan to get the certificate.
Later, when the two got married, Pan Jun bought another mattress for 250 yuan, and there was nothing else.
For this reason, Pan Jun felt very guilty in his heart, and secretly decided in his heart that he must make good compensation for this girl who was with him at the age of seventeen in the future, and never let her be wronged.
So did Pan Jun really do it after marriage?
An inevitable thing after marriage is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is also a thing that makes Pan Jun very sad.
Her parents had been accustomed to it all their lives, and Sarina usually grinned widely and didn't think much about those details.
From Pan Jun's point of view, he is very worried that Sarina and his parents are not right, and it is easy to have contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
But fortunately, Sarina is very understanding, once she saw a loaf of bread expired and wanted to throw it away, was seen by her mother-in-law and was counted down, and said that she could eat it after expiration, and could not throw it.
Sarina's heart was actually unacceptable at that moment, but then she could understand the thoughts of her parents and immediately admitted her mistakes.
Later, when the mother-in-law came back to the house, Sarina learned to be smart, not to buy so many things, there are really some things to throw, she will secretly throw them herself, reducing the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Pan Jun knew that his daughter-in-law's approach was very touching, and perhaps it was precisely because of this understanding that Pan Jun considered this wife everywhere in his later life.
A year after the marriage, Sarina still remembered the two hundred dollars, so she went to get the marriage certificate back with her ID card, because at that time, two hundred dollars was too important for her.
Sarina didn't have any work to shoot for six years after graduation.
It is not a problem of her acting skills, but at that time, there were few plays, more actors, and as the saying goes, there were more monks and less porridge, so that Sarina hit a wall in the process of auditioning.
Fortunately, at that time, Pan Jun's career was quite OK, and if there was an income for drama, he could raise Sarina.
This upbringing was six years, but even so, Pan Jun did not complain at all, and did not affect the feelings of the husband and wife, and later Sarina was pregnant and gave birth to a lovely daughter Xiangxiang.
After having a daughter, Pan Jun has more worries, more burdens and responsibilities.
While Pan Jun worked hard to earn milk powder money, Sarina's career finally began to improve somewhat.
In 1995, Sarina filmed "The Tree of Niu Yuqin" and began to emerge, and then she began to have some film contracts to come to the door, and her acting career finally died up and resumed.
On the other side, Pan Jun was very happy to see that his wife Sarina could finally shine on the stage.
But at the same time, he also considered that his daughter was still young and needed to be taken care of, so he discussed with Sarina who was responsible for her daughter.0
During this period, Sarina talked about her experience when her parents couldn't go to work and couldn't go home when she was a child, and she took her sister to wait for her parents to come home at the entrance of the alley, which was really uncomfortable.
So the two discussed and unanimously decided that when Pan Jun went out to shoot a movie, Sarina would be at home, and when Sarina went out to shoot, Pan Jun would be at home, which would be conducive to the growth of her daughter.
It was only with the passage of time that Pan Jun found that Sarina was spending more and more time filming, and after thinking about it, he decided to make sacrifices and concessions:
"Although going out to shoot can make a person more famous, I prefer the big stage and take care of my family more than the messy crew."
This is the reason why Pan Jun is afraid of Sarina's self-blame, and the reason why Pan Jun is willing to make such sacrifices and abandonment is because he understands that Sarina is a late success.
How much cherish the hard-won opportunity, if you do not make such concessions, sooner or later the family will be scattered because of the lack of companionship and getting along.
Sarina was very grateful for the sacrifices made by Pan Jun, and whenever she mentioned Pan Jun, she was full of praise, and between the words was thanks:
"If it weren't for my husband, I probably wouldn't be where I am today."
In fact, as she said, Pan Jun took good care of the family and took good care of her daughter when Sarina went out to shoot.
Pan Jun was really meticulous in taking care of his daughter.
In addition to taking care of her daughter's daily life, she picks up her daughter to and from school on time every day, and will also play with her daughter and accompany her daughter to study.
It's just that no matter how much Pan Jun does, it is only the love of a person after all, and the love of her mother Sarina is still lacking in her daughter's life.
Because every time she picked up her daughter Xiangxiang from school, pan jun was so that the children at school thought she was a single-parent family, and then Pan Jun couldn't see it, so he took the initiative to tell his wife Sarina about it.
After hearing this, Sarina also adjusted her itinerary to Xiangxiang's school to pick her up from school, which did not let the children continue to misunderstand their daughters.
There are many such things, once the daughter turned on the TV set to see his wife Sarina's TV series, the daughter who did not understand the understanding of the TV set out her hands and hugged, when Sarina learned about this matter, her heart was also very uncomfortable.
Fortunately, in the process of her daughter's growth, Pan Jun's company made her daughter's growth not miss her father's love, and also made Sarina feel better.
In this way, Pan Jun and Sarina maintained a husband and wife life of 32 years inside and outside the male and female protagonists, the life was plain and plain, and the two people never said anything romantic sweet.
The only time it was more romantic was on Pan Jun's birthday, and Sarina sent him a WeChat:
"We are getting old in each other's eyes."
Pan Jun was also very touched to see this WeChat, so he replied to Sarina:
"In fact, we are looking at each other, still young."
Perhaps such a simple and ordinary day is also a kind of romance for Pan Jun.
No matter the change of time, no matter the vicissitudes of the sea, you and I are the most beautiful appearance among each other.
In Pan Jun's eyes, Sarina will always be the seventeen-year-old girl who needs to be taken care of.
03
The love story of Pan Jun and Sarina seems to be plain, but the two go from school uniforms to wedding dresses.
Once you have graduated, you have not yet reached the legal age to choose to get married, and love in that era may be like this, a choice is a lifetime, and from one end to the end.
This kind of life-long love is also another kind of romance, it may not have roses, diamond rings, candles, but it has a heart that is determined to love you firmly.
In this era when getting married is not necessarily a lifetime, some people have already been married and divorced twice in their twenties, and some people even feel that marriage has no meaning.
When the sweetness and freshness are worn away by chai rice oil and salt, there will be little love left, and they will simply fall in love for a lifetime and not get married.
But in fact, it is not marriage that is ruined, but people.
As Qu Xiaoxiu said in "Ode to Joy":
"Those who have been together for several years and seem to have an indestructible relationship are actually rotten behind their backs."
People who really love you, eager to marry you early, early love with you for life, just like Pan Jun to Sarina, marry as soon as you graduate, not impulsive, but true love.
The same is true of their marriage, in which we can see Pan Jun's accommodation and tolerance for Sarina, and we can also see Sarina's gratitude and trust to Pan Jun.
There are backs and forths between the two, running in both directions instead of taking it, such love, such a marriage can last forever.
Of course, in addition to the two-way rush, the more important thing in marriage is to preserve freshness, how to achieve "in each other's eyes, still young", the key is to understand each other.
Pan Jun understands that although Sarina is bright when filming outside, she has suffered a lot inside, and Sarina also understands that it is not easy for Pan Jun to take care of her family.
Seeing his care and thoughtfulness in taking care of the family, understanding each other can see each other's advantages, and they can do as Zhu Guangquan said:
"At first sight, I was shocked, but I was also surprised for a long time."