Revisited the movie the other day.
The film had a Douban rating of 7.9, scored by nearly 190,000 people, and was nominated for the Oscar for Best Picture that year.
After reading it, I decided to push it to my friend. That friend was an unmarried.
The next day, he blacked me out.
I asked him why he blocked me?
He said, because you recommended that movie, is it to persuade me to get married? I thought you would understand me, but I didn't expect to force me to get married like my parents.
You're managing too wide.
I wasn't angry when I heard it, because I knew he had misunderstood.
I recommend this movie to him, not to persuade him to get married soon.
He chose not to get married, that's his own choice, and I respect his choice.
I have another purpose.
By the way, the movie I recommend is called "In the Clouds", and today Uncle Lan will talk to you about this movie.
Poster for "In the Clouds" (aka "Unanswered")
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >01, workplace rookie</h1>
The market is sluggish, and companies need to lay off employees, but they are afraid that if they reach employees, what should they do?
That's when you need someone like Bingham.
Who is Bingham?
Bingham (George Clooney) is the backbone of a human resources company.
His main job is to help bosses at other companies lay off their employees without causing unnecessary trouble.
It's a dirty job.
All those who have done human resources know that the worst job is layoffs, which is almost thankless and offensive.
And our male protagonist enjoys this job very much.
In addition to his clever tongue, eloquence and excellent work ability, he likes this state of flying around the country all year round.
He is a VIP client of major high-end hotels across the country and enjoys a variety of premium services.
In addition, he has an ultimate goal in mind: to accumulate 10 million miles of his years of flying.
As the saying goes, the plan can't keep up with the changes.
On this day, Bingham returned to the company for a meeting.
At the meeting, the leader proposed that in order to save money in the future, the company decided to lay off people in the future by video, and there was no need to send people to face to face.
The developer of this remote cutting system is one of the heroines of this film: Natalie.
Bingham, who was in the audience, thought: This is not good, if I don't have to travel, how can I accumulate flight miles! No, I have to object.
So, after the meeting, he ran to the boss's office and expressed strong opposition to the way of firing people across the screen.
The boss said: Don't make trouble, stabbing the knife in the back and stabbing the knife in the chest, it is the same as killing, don't pretend to be a virgin. By the way, these months have taken that little girl out for training.
Say one thing or the other. This kind of person deserves to be the boss.
Although Bingham said: I didn't take her!
Even if the "hit worker" is more powerful and more squealing, he will eventually listen to the boss.
In this way, this old and young, a man and a woman are on the road.
Natalie is a new college student at the company.
Like all recent college graduates.
Young, enthusiastic, driven and ambitious.
The little bird had just learned to fly, and thought the sky was its own.
Soon after Natalie came to the company, she developed a remote layoff system.
If it can be used, it will not only improve work efficiency, but also greatly save money. Especially the travel expenses of employees.
For Natalie, establishing such a system can be regarded as a personal career achievement.
It seems that her future is at hand, as long as everything goes according to plan.
However, reality gave her a blow in the head.
In the face of the imposing referees on the other side, Natalie will only copy the theories from the school and books.
What should I do when the other party tells me that her daughter has asthma and lays me off, and she falls ill?
See how Natalie answered?
"There are studies testing the surface, traumatized people will be more accomplished academically, and that's the way they handle it," she said.
When the other party listens, directly open the greeting mode.
Copying the theory, disregarding reality, the typical problems of recent college graduates.
Wang Xiaobo said: Readers from ancient times and the present have learned some crude principles from the classics, feel that they have understood the great righteousness of the Spring and Autumn Period, stood up to manage the country, and arbitrarily judged the merits of the world, and as a result, they have managed everything in a mess.
Uncle Lan was also like this at that time, reading a few more books, he didn't talk much about people.
Speaking theories are set in sets, quoting scriptures, and thinking that they are very learned.
To put it bluntly: speaking is not grounded.
Natalie, on the other hand, was a studious girl, and she learned a lot from Bingham over the years.
So Natalie wanted to try the cut alone, and Bingham agreed.
Natalie was still too young after all.
When the other party learned the news of his dismissal, he acted very calmly.
Calmly saying that when she wanted to jump into the river to commit suicide, Natalie was overwhelmed and her self-confidence was also hit.
Bingham, though he didn't like the system Natalie had developed, helped her at work like Big Brother.
When Natalie encounters a bad situation, give her encouragement and let her regain her confidence.
Back and forth, the two gradually became tacitly understood at work.
Watching her job get better and better, Natalie is in a crisis of feelings: she was dumped by her boyfriend, or through text messages.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > the difference between women aged 02, 23, and 34</h1>
Natalie, who had found a better job, followed her boyfriend to the city.
Listening to her boyfriend's rhetoric and coming to a strange city, Natalie is beautiful and envisioning her future love life.
The boyfriend sent a painless text message and dumped her!
Natalie's ex-boyfriend fits her type perfectly:
Tall and handsome, one meter eight tall; blonde, handsome, athletic; a financial talent.
In other words: rich, playful, handsome!
Let me ask, isn't this the ideal lover that thousands of young girls dream of?
How many young girls are like this in front of the screen?
For the ideal love in your heart, sacrifice a better career, stay away from your family, and come to a strange city.
Finally ruthlessly abandoned by the scumbag.
Seeing love as everything in life, in the end, I still lose love and the world.
Natalie represents the twenty-something girl's view of love:
Overly idealize your marriage and love.
The other heroine in the film, Alex, has a very different point of view.
Represents the view of most women after the age of 30: more realistic, closer to life.
Alex says:
By the time you're 34, all physical conditions don't matter anymore. For example, you silently pray that he is taller than you, don't be an asshole; he likes my company, he should also like children, be healthy, and can play with children; please God let him earn more than me, and then you will know how important this is. Moreover, it is better not to be bald, of course, it does not matter if it is bald. Have a lovely smile.
Like the girls who get old and finally have to marry each other?
The height does not need to be 180cm, the face does not have to look good, as long as it does not make people vomit, short, fat, bald point does not matter.
Be in good health, make a lot of money, have a house and a car.
The important thing is to be good to me.
In this way, they are married.
What was Natalie's reaction after listening?
Sad and disappointed.
Is Alex's view a dismal defeat and scarred compromise, or a calm acceptance after a storm and a thousand hammers?
It doesn't matter anymore.
Importantly, this is the choice of most women.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >03, excuse for unmarried people</h1>
Bingham was a staunch unmarried man.
In his "backpack theory", he believes that all relationships are burdensome.
Including their own relatives, colleagues, friends, lovers, etc., these are the burdens of moving forward.
Monogamous swans are weak and die fast.
If you want to live, be a shark.
Bingham is also a staunch enforcer of this theory.
Only about guns, not in love, will get married, will not have children.
Proper "three noes" Sir.
When Natalie asked him: Why don't you get married?
He asked rhetorically: What do you think is good about getting married?
Natalie replied: For love; find someone you can rely on; find someone who can talk and spend the rest of your life together; you won't die alone.
Bingham answered: For love? How many stable marriages have you seen? Looking for someone to talk to? I'm surrounded by people who can talk. And each of us was doomed to die alone, my grandparents were sent to a nursing home, my parents were like that.
Bingham said so, and did the same.
On the business trip, he met a very suitable "girlfriend", that is, the aforementioned Alex.
The two "three views" are surprised by the same, similar in age, and seem to be able to come together.
When Natalie asked Bingham if he had considered the future with Alex.
After receiving Bingham's negative answer, Natalie became angry and directly scolded:
Does Bingham really believe in the so-called theories and lifestyles?
Or is it an excuse to evade responsibility?
Did he live as transparently and neatly as he said?
Let's start by looking at the way he treats his family.
My sister and brother-in-law are getting married, and knowing that he is traveling around, I want him to help him take some pictures at a scenic spot.
Bingham agreed, even if he was reluctant.
Later, his sister's fiancé was afraid of marriage and wanted to escape, and his sister asked him to persuade her brother-in-law.
Bingham also hardened his scalp for his sister.
Think about how funny it is for an unmarried person to persuade another person who has escaped marriage to get married.
In fact, Bingham was both trying to persuade his brother-in-law and himself.
The brother-in-law said that he was alone last night thinking, what is the meaning of life at the head of a glance?
Get married, have children, raise children; then sons also grow up and get married, have children, grow old with themselves and their wives, and finally die.
Is this really the case in life?
In the end, Bingham said that life is better with a partner, and everyone needs someone to support.
This sentence reveals the essence of life: companionship.
Zhang Ailing also said something similar: Someone shares, happiness will be doubled, sorrow will be halved.
Here Uncle Lan says something off-topic.
I remember once when my child had to hang up a needle for pneumonia, I was alone with my child.
When my wife came to us after work, I suddenly had a feeling of relief and the whole person was much more relaxed.
At that time, it felt very strange, my wife just came over and sat next to her, talked to the child, and did nothing else, why did my mood feel different?
Whether she comes or not, whether she should hang the needle or hang the needle, the child will not recover immediately.
Later, I realized that this is the power of companionship.
Especially when you or your family are sick, when you are physically and mentally vulnerable, you need someone to accompany you.
Later, when a child gets sick, even if it is a small cold, I will go with my wife.
The power of companionship cannot be seen or touched, but it is very powerful.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >04, life is going to land after all</h1>
Bingham successfully persuaded his brother-in-law to marry, and his sister said to him, "Welcome home." ”
This illustrates Bingham's theory of putting all human relationships aside and moving forward with ease is actually self-deception.
Natalie was right that Bingham's so-called theory of non-marriage was nothing more than an excuse to evade responsibility.
All theories are high-sounding excuses for people to rationalize their words and deeds.
Theory is born of words and deeds.
Words and deeds change, and so does theory.
Bingham suddenly turned away during an important speech and rushed to find Alex as evidenced by this.
Because he wanted to marry Alex, his idea of not marrying changed.
Bingham had been flying in the clouds for so long that he finally wanted to land.
Reality put Bingham in the face, but Alex was already married and had children.
Bingham had always thought that Alex was the same kind of person as him.
In fact, Alex has long been "landed", and she is the one who lives to understand.
Bingham's love was short-lived.
Although he did not harvest love, Bingham valued his family.
No longer obsessed with accumulating airline miles, he picked up the phone and exchanged his miles for tickets for global travel for his sister and brother-in-law.
< h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" >05, ending</h1>
A few more words about the casting of this film.
Hollywood Diamond King Old Five, George Clooney to play the male protagonist, really a bit of the meaning of the original appearance.
It is said that when the screenwriter wrote the script, he wrote it according to George Clooney.
The film's two actresses: Anna Kendrick and Vera Famega.
Natalie is played by Anna Kendrick
Alex is played by Vera Farmega
The two are not first-class beauties in Hollywood, but they look particularly comfortable.
I have to say that the success of the director's casting, the appearance and temperament of the two are very in line with the role.
The two's wonderful performances add a lot to the film.
At last.
Is there really a life that can be seen at a glance?
The answer is no.
Life is full of uncertainty.
Things like empathy, illness, winning the lottery, car accidents, etc., all of which increase the uncertainty of life.
This is why we must live seriously, even if the life in front of us is bad, one day it may still become incomparably better.
Natalie's remote cut system ultimately failed.
She left her ex-boyfriend's city and found a new job.
Bingham regained the weight of his boss, and he began to value his relationship with his family.
At the end of the film, the people who were fired tell how they will face their future lives.
Each of them expressed the same point of view: because of the company and support of their families, they were able to regain their confidence and ignite the fighting spirit of life.
Going back to that question at the beginning, why did I recommend this movie to a friend.
I hope that my friends, whether they insist on not getting married, or get married again later, often go home to see and spend more time with their families.
Because companionship is the longest confession of affection, guardianship is the most silent companionship.