Yesterday afternoon one of my very good female friends called me to say that I want to borrow two nights at my house, national day her boyfriend from abroad to her home, after the end of the holiday back to work in the field, because the return ticket was not bought, planning to stay in Xi'an for two days, friends said that these two days just take him around Xi'an, thinking of getting married in the future to put the home in Xi'an, which is also to let him familiarize himself with the customs and customs of Xi'an in advance.
After I talked to her on the phone, I immediately agreed to her request, stayed in my house for two days, and did not have time to discuss with my husband in advance, I just thought that the relationship between the two of us belonged to a very good kind, she wanted to live in me for a few days, that is, I had nothing to say for a few months, but what shocked me was that my husband was very reluctant to let the two of them live in my house temporarily, why? I couldn't figure it out, and my husband knew she was my best friend, so the two of us started arguing with each other over it.
Later, I learned that my husband and their village had a saying that the little couple and the couple went to other people's homes as guests and could not sleep together at night, saying that this would bring bad luck to the host family. Whether it is true or not, the husband cares about this in particular, after all, her boyfriend is about to go out of town, and the two may not see each other for a long time. I didn't think about it so much at the time, nor did I hear of this taboo, I think my husband is too ignorant and ignorant, and now in this society, who cares about this?
My husband wanted to convince me to let my mother-in-law come and tell me about this, and my mother-in-law also said that they did have this taboo, but you can let me sleep with my friends when I sleep at night, and my husband sleeps with her boyfriend and separates from each other, so that you can do it.
I also checked the Internet to see if there was any scientific basis or the like, or whether it was purely bad habits and feudal superstitions. The Internet found more than the husband here, it can be said that many places in the country have this statement, such as in their own mother's home can not sleep with the husband, the woman confinement can not live in the mother's home and other customs, with the development of the times, a large number of young people do not know these taboos, the family has the elderly may give young people to say, there is no old man does not know.
Later I told my friend the reason for this, friends can also understand, that night did not live in my house, said really a little angry, my husband paid special attention to this taboo, has been arguing with me, if I insist on letting them live in our home, look at this situation is to turn face with me.
Remembering before going to the library to buy books with the book city recharge card issued by the husband company, two people quarreled in order to buy books or buy headphones worth five or six hundred, the husband felt that there was no point in buying books, it was better to buy headphones, water cups and other practical things in life, and I think it was not worth buying headphones, because I liked to read books, when I was young, my family was relatively poor, and extracurricular books did not have the conditions to buy, and now with this condition, I don't want to buy, I would rather buy something very ordinary that can be seen everywhere than buy books to learn to enrich my brain, what a sad thing, I can only say that everyone has different concepts and pursues different things.
There is a lyric in Huang Xiaohu's "Love Is Not So Simple" that reads: "It is not so easy to fall in love, everyone has his temper", indeed, a person has a person's habits, although he will change some for you, but he will still maintain some of his own views, and these views are unquestionable.
It's useless to try to explain your feelings to someone who disagrees, so let him go.
Chen Guo wrote in the book "Good Love": "Things are clustered in groups, people are divided into groups, only people with the same energy can recognize each other, and only people with the same energy will appreciate each other." If you happen to meet such a person, please be sure to be happy