"Discrimination is everywhere", some people think this sentence is exaggerated, but this is a naked fact.
"Racial discrimination", "sexism", and even a person's family situation, or looks, personality, may be discriminated against by others.
The so-called "normal people" are still like this, and the "sexual minority" people have suffered a lot of blame and discrimination for no reason. Perhaps many people are a little confused about the concept of "sexual minorities", then the next content can be viewed as a "popular science".
Among sexual minorities, the more well-known is "homosexuality", that is, people with the same gender as themselves, people who fall in love and establish long-term stable relationships, followed by bisexual, asexual, transgender and intersex people.
Shi Yaxin
Shi Yaxin is a transgender person.
Transgender people are people who don't agree with their biological sex, which has nothing to do with sexual orientation. The famous host Venus is a transgender person, her original biological sex was male, and she always thought she should be female.
As a result, Venus intervened through medical means to complete the gender unity of his body and mind, and so did Shi Yaxin.
Mother's love
In a way, Shi Yaxin is lucky because she has an enlightened mother.
Although Shi Yaxin's parents divorced when they were very young, her mother's love for Shi Yaxin was not less than half a point.
Stills from "The Secret Seams of Life"
I don't know if you have ever seen a movie called "The Tight Seam of Life", the protagonist of the movie is a transgender person, and her mother did not choose not to love her because of this, Shi Yaxin's mother, and the mother in the movie is as gentle and reasonable.
In the movie, when "she" is still "him", the mother discovers that her son is different from other boys. "He" is too much like a girl, and "he" thinks of himself as a girl.
The mother does not forcibly interfere with the child's choice because transgender people do not agree with their biological sex and are irreversible.
The mother is the strong backing of "him", she understands the child, and the loss of voice screaming when someone touches the chest is a heartfelt fear.
Even though everyone was laughing at "him", the mother still gently held up a clear sky for "him". When "he" expressed his desire to have a pair of female breasts, his mother knitted a prosthesis for "him".
For "him", this is not only a gift, but also an understanding and recognition that he desperately desires. Later, the mother accompanied "him" to complete the operation, and accompanied "him" to become "she".
The same is true of Shi Yaxin's mother, who discovered the "special" aspect of her child when she was 4 years old. Shi Yaxin loves everything about girls, she loves Barbie dolls and longs to grow long hair.
As Shi Yaxin's "special" points became more and more obvious, the mother began to consult the relevant information and eventually learned that her child was a transgender person.
Shi Yaxin was a child
Her mother did not dislike Shi Yaxin because of her "specialness", but accompanied her very gently.
The mother knows that this society is not friendly to transgender people, and if she can't love her wholeheartedly, then her child should be miserable, so she learns to accept and protect Shi Yaxin as much as possible.
However, there is always so much malice in this world, even if Shi Yaxin did not do anything wrong.
Outside malice
When she was in elementary school, even if some of Shi Yaxin's behavior was more feminine, no one said too hurtful things or did something harmful to her.
The protagonist of "Life is a Tight Seam" encounters school violence
But by the time he was in middle school, Shi Yaxin's nightmare began, and the child at that age was in the middle of puberty and rebellious period, transforming from a child to an adult.
As a result, those children who know nothing about the world begin to release malice without scruples. Their malice is very direct, you are different from us, you are the object of my ridicule.
Therefore, looking at Shi Yaxin like a girl, the male classmates around her began to taunt her unscrupulously. After listening to the more vicious words, how can my heart not be uncomfortable.
However, the harm of these male classmates did not stop at language.
Bathroom markings
When she entered the bathroom, these male classmates would stare at Shi Yaxin's sensitive parts like visiting a zoo, and they just wanted to see if Shi Yaxin was real, and the physiological structure of the boys was different.
Once Shi Yaxin expressed disgust and stopped the behavior of these male classmates, they would humiliate Shi Yaxin even more, they would pull off her pants, and then say some extremely hurtful words.
If Shi Yaxin resisted, he would be greeted by the pushing and kicking of the male classmates, who did not understand what respect was, nor did they think that their behavior was wrong, and in their hearts, the "alien" should be treated in this way.
In order to avoid the humiliation of male classmates, Shi Yaxin even forcibly restrained her physical needs and forced herself not to go to the bathroom, in Shi Yaxin's self-statement, she mentioned this past and said that she had wet her pants for this.
Whether it is a boy or a girl, peeing pants in a teenager is extremely harmful to a child's psychology. And all this is only because Shi Yaxin is too much like a girl, and she seems out of place with the male classmates around her.
School classroom
However, school bullying does not only exist in students, even teachers wear colored glasses to look at Shi Yaxin.
Geography class talked about Thailand, when talking about the Thai "shemale", the geography teacher's eyes locked on Shi Yaxin's body, and that gaze was like a knife, stabbing Shi Yaxin.
Most of the students seemed to have found a funny point, and they couldn't help but laugh uncontrollably, and Shi Yaxin couldn't laugh because she knew what the laughter meant.
"Shemale", "pervert", "eunuch", they used all the insulting words on Shi Yaxin.
Those days were the darkest moments of Shi Yaxin's life, as long as she went to school, she would face countless malicious intentions, but there were always people who did not go along with it, and when Shi Yaxin was locked in the classroom by her classmates' pranks, a female classmate broke the siege for her.
"At that moment, I felt like she was a heroine." Even after more than ten years, Shi Yaxin is still very grateful to this female classmate, which is one of the few warm memories of her student days.
What's wrong with Shi Yaxin? How has her "special" ever hurt anyone else? She just wants to be herself according to her heart!
Fortunately, her mother's love and the few warm moments at school were the light of Shi Yaxin's life.
It can be said that she is a very brave and powerful person, even in the face of many unfounded accusations and malice, she still did not give up being herself.
Shi Yaxin and her mother
This is the point, she is stronger than the male classmates who have maliciously treated her.
Understanding and criticism
Shi Yaxin knew that her life choices were hard mode, and she was ready to fight for herself at all times, and what she did not expect was that she, who had suffered a lot of bullying in middle school, was treated gently in college.
In 2008, Shi Yaxin was admitted to a college in Guangzhou, and the school's attitude towards her surprised her, at this time Shi Yaxin had not yet done gender intervention surgery, but she still explained to the school that she was a transgender person.
The school authorities placed great respect on Shi Yaxin, and even arranged a separate girls' dormitory for her, which may not be understood by many people, but this is very important for Shi Yaxin.
Student dormitories
She considers herself a girl, so she can't live in the boys' dormitory.
The separate girls' dormitory not only protects Shi Yaxin's privacy, but also protects the privacy of other students, and it can be said that the school is very thoughtful.
Unlike the teachers and classmates she met in middle school, Shi Yaxin's life in college was very comfortable, and teachers and classmates would treat her as a girl, and would also respect and protect Shi Yaxin's privacy.
To be so recognized is a very fortunate thing for Shi Yaxin.
In fact, most sexual minorities will have similar experiences to Shi Yaxin in middle school, and Shi Yaxin's situation in college is not available to every sexual minority.
Super Girl
At that time, "Super Girl" was on fire, and Shi Yaxin wanted to stand on this stage and speak out for herself and the same sexual minorities as herself.
Many people around her supported her, but because Shi Yaxin's identity card gender was "male" at the time, she was not eligible to participate in the audition.
However, Shi Yaxin was too eager to have a platform to make his voice heard.
So in 2010, Shi Yaxin participated in the audition of "Happy Male Voice", when "he" was called "Yu Xin", and with Shi Yaxin, there was Liu Shu.
"Happy Male Voice"
At that time, a mentor asked her, "Do you know you're a boy?" This sentence is actually an offense, but for Shi Yaxin, this is already a very polite question that he has heard.
At that time, another mentor said: "Maybe this stage is not suitable for you, but there must be another stage in your life that can allow you to bloom your brilliance and beauty." Ten years later, Shi Yaxin found a stage suitable for himself.
Despite the defeat, Shi Yaxin still took this opportunity to speak his heart.
She said: "In this society, there are many, many people like me, they are not what you think they are, we have our freedom, we have the right to pursue ourselves, so there is no need to be surprised." ”
Then she said, "We're all just like normal people." This passage is what many people from sexual minorities want to say, and there are not many people who can really stand up, because of all kinds of discrimination and encounters, many people have long lost the courage to speak up for themselves.
However, Shi Yaxin's life did not become smooth because of this, and the road after that was still some bumpy.
Be yourself
After participating in "Happy Male Voice", Shi Yaxin felt that gender intervention surgery was an urgent matter. Fortunately, her mother still firmly supports her choice.
In the mother's heart, as long as the child can live happily and healthily, it is enough.
The degree of openness of the mother makes Shi Yaxin very grateful, this is the woman in the world who loves her the most and understands her the most, and it is Shi Yaxin's luck to have such a mother, after all, too many parents of sexual minorities are hysterical and forced to intervene on this issue.
The cost of the operation is quite large, because she is transgender, Shi Yaxin did not successfully find a stable job, and her mother is still determined to provide financial support for her.
During those difficult years, looking back, all that remained was gratitude to his mother.
In 2015, Shi Yaxin finally began to complete his self-transformation accompanied by his mother.
Up to 3 years, 6 surgeries, the process is very difficult, saying that there is no worry about the risk of surgery is false. However, such difficulties are not worth mentioning compared to being able to be yourself.
After each operation, his own changes will make Shi Yaxin feel happy.
She can clearly perceive her soul and body, is gradually moving towards consistency, before the age of 30, Shi Yaxin finally became her true self, and later she changed her Weibo introduction to: Born in China, Made in Thailand.
In 2019, Shi Yaxin participated in the "2019 International Queen Transgender Beauty Pageant" and won the international third place.
International Queen Transgender Beauty Pageant
Her brilliance and beauty really bloomed on the stage that suited her, and this honor is the medal of the brave.
Before the pandemic, Shi Yaxin worked for Thailand's largest transgender performance company, and she was the only full-time real singer in the audience, which was also related to a young crush in high school.
The boy with a crush signed up for the art show, and she also chose to sign up in order to be closer to the boy.
It's just that fate made a little joke, and the boy lost, but she succeeded.
The teachers and students who had gathered to see her jokes were amazed by her performance.
Since then, Shi Yaxin has begun to study music. And all this has laid a solid foundation for Shi Yaxin's life after that, which can only be said to be "unintentional willow shading"!
However, due to the epidemic, Shi Yaxin returned to China. She found a job as a resident singer at Qingba, and her life was uneventful until someone pulled out a video of her participating in a transgender beauty contest.
After only 16 days of work, she was ruthlessly dismissed because she was a transgender person.
The reason why many transgender people suppress their hearts and pretend to be so-called "normal people" is because they are afraid of such an encounter.
However, society is constantly improving, and more people are aware of the diversity of society and know how to respect others.
On her self-media account, there was a message that greatly touched her. The little girl said, "Sister, don't worry, our new generation is growing up, and we will protect you later." ”
This sentence gave Shi Yaxin hope, or rather, the hope of many sexual minorities.
Although the road to "equal rights for sexual minorities" is struggling, the number of people who know how to respect sexual minorities is increasing.
The promotional card removed the words "shemale show"
Today, Shi Yaxin runs her own self-media account and is working hard for equal rights for sexual minorities.
I wish that Shi Yaxin's life can suffer less malice, feel more warmth, and also wish that sexual minorities can be themselves.
There are no two individuals in this world who are exactly the same, think about the discrimination they have suffered because of various things, push themselves and others, and don't be complacent and hurt others because they are "the majority".