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Rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out. Perhaps because of this sentence, many people always forget to leave a phone everywhere and ask for a phone. Once upon a time, many people regarded going to other people's phone calls or group photos as a capital to show off.
I can't help but think of a time more than 10 years ago, when I came into contact with a certain "big person", I had a very happy exchange, and I left a phone call with each other. I thought this was an important networking resource. Soon, I just encountered a difficulty and thought of this "big man". So, a long text message was sent, and there was no reply! I made another phone call, and as a result, I heard two words: No time! To be honest, there was a lot of frustration at the time.
Many people have encountered such rejection, thinking that they have left a phone with each other to save WeChat, and each other should be able to help, but they have forgotten an important thing:
Only with equal resources can we help each other!
A lot of socializing is useless, it seems to leave someone else's phone, but when you need help, you just make a phone call. Because you're not good enough – cruel, but who wants to help someone who isn't good?
In 2014, when I was sharing a course on "Time Management" to faculty and staff at an institution in Shanghai, a young doctoral student asked: "I am busy at work, and I often encounter some uninvited guests. Will I lose my connections? I said:
Only good people can get useful socializing!
The young doctoral student realized: "Before I got a doctorate, few people took the initiative to find me, and I understand why some people are now taking the initiative to find me." Finally, he affirmed that he should spend more time on his own research projects, and there is no need to waste time on ineffective social networking.
If you are not good enough, networking is not valuable, it is not pursued, but attracted. Only an equivalent exchange can get reasonable help – while it sounds cold, it's true.
I used to have a man around me who spent most of his day with friends, in the name of making friends, making relationships. For the sake of friends, family is often neglected, and time with family is very small.
At the beginning, there was indeed a group of friends around and following, and in his heart, having friends was like having everything. Later, people who can get along with it gradually leave, why? The main reason is that their careers are getting better and better, except that they don't have time, I'm afraid they just don't feel that it is necessary. Because when you spend time on mixing up friends, you don't have other strong skills, and you can't lay a good foundation for your career.
The weather was unpredictable, and he was out of shape and had cancer. Doctors say that it has a lot to do with daily habits, such as frequent socializing leads to excessive drinking, and life is irregular. Sadly, when a friend learns that he has cancer, he leaves him like a plague, and the only person who stays with him is his family.
When you are not strong enough and good enough, don't spend too much precious time socializing, spend more time reading and improving your professional skills. Give up those useless social networking, improve yourself, and the world can be bigger!
Except, of course, there is one exception, when you are in distress, he says we are brothers, and when you are rich, he still says that we are brothers. This kind of person who does not abandon is called a true friend, and he does not apply to the above rules. There are not many such people, in this pompous world, a few are good.
I don't seek connections, I am networking!
Remember:
1, the network is not on other people's body, but hidden in yourself: only by making yourself strong, you can get useful connections!
2. "Knowing more people" is not the same as "wide networking": the first rule of the law of human connections is to reverse the network view of "heroes with more or less".
3, the basis of networking is your "use value": the greater your use value, the more he will help you. Instead of spending time getting to know more people, take the time to improve your personal value.
4, less "knotted" more "mutual aid" and "promotion": investment and our level of people, everyone is an equal "mutual help" relationship. In addition, promoting people with lower status than themselves is like buying potential stocks at a low price, and this kind of stock is what can really make people make a lot of money.