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Tomorrow is the fifteenth Lantern Festival of the first month, the old tradition of the fifteenth day of the first month, there are customs such as eating lanterns, flower lanterns and other customs and colorful and diverse entertainment and cultural activities. Influenced by old traditions, some places have the custom of "hiding from the lights" on the fifteenth day of the first month.
There is a saying: "Girls do not look at the lamp of their mother's house, and they do not come to the door before fifteen."
I often hear the old man say that on the fifteenth day of the first month, the daughter who marries out cannot return to her mother's house, let alone look at the lamp of her mother's house, so it is called "hiding the lamp".
The custom of "hiding the lamp" on the fifteenth day of the first month was originally a traditional custom of the Manchus, which began to say that the fifteenth day of the first month should not look at the mother's lamp, that is to say, it was impossible to return to the mother's house, and later evolved into not being able to see the lamp of the mother's house, nor could it look at the lamp of the mother-in-law's house, and to hide in the relatives' house to live, and later this custom also spread to the Han people.
This custom is still practiced in many parts of the continent. In our northern countryside, a married daughter cannot return to her mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, let alone look at the lamp of her mother's house. Generally, the sixteenth day of the first month is the day to return to the mother's house. Friends, do you have such a custom there?
Warm tips: As the saying goes, "three miles of different winds, ten miles of different customs", different places, customs are somewhat different, do not have to be too entangled.
For people to summarize the following reasons:
1. The customs of Heilongjiang, Henan and other places believe that if the new daughter-in-law sees the lamp of her mother's house on the fifteenth night of the first month, the mother's family will be poor in the next year.
There are also some regional customs that the new daughter-in-law looks at the lamp of her mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, which is not good for the father-in-law. In fact, these old folk traditions, the customs of each region pay attention to the differences, and some areas do not hide the lights at all.
In our rural areas, young people only know that they cannot go back to their mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month and can go back to the sixteenth day of the first month. (I only represent my personal opinion).
2. Under the influence of old ideas, some places believe that the daughter who marries out spills water, and after marrying out, she is someone else's family, and on this reunion day, the daughter should spend the holiday with her in-laws.
3. "Lamp" was considered to be the meaning of the ancestors in ancient times, and on the fifteenth day of the first month, every household would invite the ancestors to celebrate the festival together. The ancestors cannot be allowed to see the newlyweds living with their parents, so on the fifteenth day of the first month, they cannot return to their mother-in-law's house, nor can they return to their in-laws' homes, but they can live outside and avoid this day. It shows that people in the old society attached great importance to inheritance.
4. Some people believe that they can go back to their mother's house on the fifteenth day of the first month, but they must rush back to their in-laws' house before dark. Can't see the lights in the mother's house.
brief summary
The saying "Girls don't look at the lamps of their mother's house, and they don't come to the door before fifteen" is a sentence summarized by people in the old traditions of the old era. In fact, there is no scientific basis. Many families are now only children, and there is no such thing as son preference. There is no such thing as "the girl does not look at the mother's lamp, and does not go to the door before fifteen".
There are still some regions that follow this custom, especially in the northern countryside. As for why everyone knows that it is not scientific, they still have to do it. Because everyone does this, this has formed a lot of traditional customs and cultures.
Looking at these customs now, there are some superstitious overtones. But the old tradition, we have to understand.