Text / Wang Bu Liu (WeChat public account: Wang Bu Liu)
Spend the Spring Festival happily in your hometown. Construction officially started on February 7th, and after only a week, I felt like I was on a long shift. The Spring Festival holiday that just passed seems to be a long time ago.
This time, I will talk about the "rushing" of the rice bureau.
For our Chinese, the workplace meal is never as simple as eating a meal, and there is a deeper learning in it.
For example, sometimes after this meal, the problem that has not been solved for a long time is solved.
The workplace is definitely not about eating and drinking. Drinking is the relationship between people, looking at your performance in the workplace!
If you are accompanying the leader to participate in the workplace dinner, you need to pay attention to three points:
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Pay attention to the measure of speaking
Workplace dinner, the leader takes you, that is the leader of the heavy you, will give you such an opportunity.
Your words and deeds in the dinner party not only show your own cultivation qualities; they also represent the image of your company, and they also give your leaders a long face.
Therefore, what should be said and what should not be said in the dinner game must be like a mirror, and must not be unobstructed, saying what should not be said to the leader to poke Lou Zi.
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Recognize your role
There must be a reason why the leader asked you to go to the dinner party together.
Xu is to introduce some connections to you; Xu is to take you to show up for a long time; Xu is to let you support the scene; even just to take you to help break the siege.
Whatever the reason, you must not be the protagonist and steal the limelight from the leader or the other party's important role.
In addition, recognize your role, properly handle the affairs of the meal; listen to the leader's arrangement, serve your leader well, and assist the leader to achieve the will of the meal.
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Read the will of the leader
During the meal, we must always pay attention to the will of the leader, read the leader's eyes and actions and actively cooperate.
Do not drop the chain at a critical moment and misunderstand the meaning of the leader.
You know, what the leader said at the dinner table is not necessarily really true, but may only be to cope with the needs of the occasion.
Therefore, he can't listen to the wind and rain, which makes the leader very helpless.
Let's talk specifically about "urging dishes".
The leader at the wine table asks you to "go to the dish", which may have these four meanings:
- The leader made a "gesture" in front of the guests, for fear of neglecting the guests.
At this time, don't call the waiter in front of the leader, otherwise the leader himself will not?
At this time, the meaning of the form of "urging dishes" is greater than the real role, and it is made for guests to see.
Therefore, you have to seem to be very serious, trotting to find someone to urge the dish. Remember not to go out and shout and come back, be sure to let the waiter come in with the dish, you follow behind, and get things done.
Otherwise, you yourself ran back, sat down for half a day and the dish has not been on, will the leader's face look good?
- The leader also has a liquor store or a hurry and wants to finish early.
You should first look at what is not on, is it the leader ordered or the customer ordered the dish? Make sure which dish to prioritize. If it's a big dish, ask why it's so slow and how long it will take.
In addition, many waiters just verbally agree, remember to stare at the waiter to take practical action.
- Leaders dislike subordinates and do not know how to take the initiative to serve, and use the way of "urging dishes" to beat subordinates.
There is a scene here, if the customer is the owner, the dishes are almost on the same, and the leader lets you "urge the dish", which may be a euphemism to remind you to settle the account.
If you are not sure whether this is the intention, you can walk out of the box and ask the leader through WeChat or mobile phone text message.
- The leader asks his subordinates to urge vegetables to buy cigarettes, just to avoid it.
At this time, you should go out of the private room and close the door, go outside to play with your mobile phone or smoke a cigarette and come back, tell the leader that it has been urged, and it will be fine.
Of course, the best way to "urge vegetables" is not to wait for the leader to say, see that there are dishes that have not been on the table for half a day, and take the initiative to urge it.
Remember that your main role during the banquet is to be the partner of the leader, remember the content of the conversation between the two sides, just right to help the leader pad the words, round the field, record the consensus reached by the two sides, write a memorandum after going back, and implement the implementation.
This is also the purpose of the leader to take you to dinner, so at the wine table, please position yourself as an assistant.
After writing this, do you feel that eating a meal is too tired?
yes.
The content that is shared is nothing more than an experience that cannot be exchanged for a heavy price.
If you don't have to understand or don't need to understand, you'll be really lucky.
After the Spring Festival, the new year can really begin.
Many professionals are beginning to face the annual salary increase.
I have written a lot about how to raise salaries to leaders. However, these techniques may be more suitable for private communication, and they really can't be on the table.
Therefore, when I posted this article, I finally decided to delete this part and change the topic of the workplace, gossip about the problem of factional fighting in the workplace.
As the saying goes, where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and there are factions. If you are in a large company. This will be even more pronounced.
What would you do if you were in the middle of a whirlpool?
My personal stupid opinion: don't be neutral. Take a clear stand.
Tell us a real-life case.
A friend has worked in a large IT company for many years and has belonged to the core backbone of the company. He was under double leadership in his work, one leader was the department manager, and the other was the leader who recruited him into the company that year, and is now the deputy manager of the department.
Later, the relationship between the two leaders deteriorated to the point where water and fire could not be tolerated. Colleagues have emailed to make their position explicit or implicit.
Only he thinks that the two leaders are kind to me, and it is inconvenient to clarify his views, so he does not send e-mails to express his position, only thinks that it is enough to do his job well.
Later, the company came out to mediate, and the leader who recruited him was transferred to other departments.
Afterwards, when the department manager talked to him alone, he pointed out that he had not seen the friend's sincerity during that turbulent period.
The leader who had been transferred also complained when he made small talk to him that this friend did not understand gratitude.
This is because of being neutral, the typical two sides are not flattered, both sides are offended.
So, really in that kind of scene, you might as well just take a gamble. See which leader is more promising, follow that leader. If you make the wrong bet, it's a big deal to change jobs.
Think of the year when the ninth son of Kangxi seized the concubine. In the struggle between the prince, Yongzheng and the eighth master, only one side will win.
The officials below, if they follow the right people, will naturally soar; if they follow the wrong people, they will mostly be exiled. History is like this, and reality is constantly playing out.
Of course, being able to be co-opted shows that you are already a more important role, otherwise, you don't have to think about it.
As is customary, this issue of The Economist arrived as scheduled. The cover is no longer released for everyone to enjoy.
Finally, after a long five-day workday, I wish you all a great weekend!