My husband, Ma Dongxi, is an ordinary cadre at the City Museum, earning about four thousand yuan a month, and he comes from the countryside, and there are elderly parents in the family who still need his care. In contrast, my conditions are much superior, white-collar workers in foreign companies, with a monthly income of tens of thousands of yuan, my parents are retired cadres, and there is no family burden. There were many people who chased me at the beginning, white-collar workers, and rich second generations, but I felt that he was a very stable and trustworthy man, so I did not hesitate to choose him.
Life after marriage was as I expected, and the nature of Ma Dongxi's work determined his leisureliness, and he contracted all things such as grocery shopping, cooking, laundry and cleaning at home. I am also very happy to enjoy the warmth of coming home after a tiring job, his thoughtful warmth.
A year later, our daughter was born, and other women were all burned by the child after giving birth, but I rarely worried about the child's eating and drinking. All this is because of Ma Dongxi, who silently undertakes these affairs that should have been borne by women.
Our company often organizes employee activities and can bring family members. Each time, Ma Dongxi cleaned himself up and participated in a personable manner. My colleagues were a little curious about my husband, especially the disciples who had chased me in the company, and they wanted to see what kind of sacred one I had picked, so they were even more curious about my husband.
Ma Dongxi calmly told him that he was an ordinary cadre of the museum, and the men present felt that their waists were a few points straight. The female colleagues in the company also opened their mouths in front of me, that is, my husband went to the United States for a meeting, or my husband recently sent a set of diamond jewelry, sent a new car to walk, and so on.
I am also a woman who cannot be exempted from vulgarity, and slowly listening to such words more still affects my opinion of Ma Dongxi. Especially when the work is not smooth, I am very irritable when I think that other women can rely on their husbands, but I work as hard as a man's wife.
I talked to Ma Dongxi a few times about his work, discussed whether there was any hope of promotion, if not, then simply quit his job, go to a foreign company, the income may be several times higher than now. He said: "I don't like that kind of life that is too stressful, I like this way of life now, I am leisurely, and I can take care of my family, isn't that good?" ”
"But don't you feel depressed that a family's finances are supported by women?" I asked. He looked at me and said, "Do you want to hear what I really think?" ”
His tone surprised me a little, and I nodded, waiting for him to continue. He said: "In today's society, men and women are the same. A woman if you look for it
A husband who earns more money than herself, then, she spends her husband's money not only at ease, but also can show off everywhere, why can't men? I don't make as much money as you, but I take care of everything in the family, you make money, I run the family, and this division of labor and complementarity between husband and wife is very important. Isn't it more conducive to the healthy growth of children to create a warm home for two people to create a warm home, and there is really no need to worry about who earns more and who earns less. ”
I should have been careless, otherwise I wouldn't have chosen Ma Dongxi, but I don't know when my mentality lost its original balance? When I paid for my family every month, I felt wronged in my heart. The indignation made my resentment grow louder and louder, and all I thought about was his shortcomings and the unfairness I felt in this marriage, and the more I thought about it, the more I felt that this was not a pair of shoes that fit.
There were inevitably quarrels between husband and wife, and every time he let me go. Finally, this time, I yelled at Ma Dongxi: "You don't look like a man, you only use your wife's money." ”
I saw his face turn livid, and I knew I had overstated his words and hurt his self-esteem.
But I, who have always been competitive, don't know how to apologize to him. At this time, I wish he could turn around and hug me, then I would immediately use body language to apologize, but this time he did not. He didn't say a word to me all night. The next day, he moved out early in the morning. He said that he is not a person who cares too much about money, for him, the way to live with more money and more money, the key to living with less money and less money, the key is that two people in marriage feel happy. He had always felt that there was really no need to worry about who spent whom's money, and if he found a wife whose income was not as good as his, then he would be obliged to support the family's economic beams.
When he married me, all he thought about was how to take good care of me and be my "helper", and I lost my inner balance, which he did not expect. Now in this family, he feels very depressed, very failed, with every penny is like walking on thin ice, perhaps, our union is really a mistake.
In the days that followed, I was in a hurry, and at night I returned to my empty home, where his shadow was everywhere. There is no longer the warmth of the past in the home. Fortunately, he did not throw his daughter to me, he said, he did not want her to be "abused" by me. I smiled bitterly. Next, every day after work, looking at the deserted home, I realized that I was not abusive to myself.
A packet of instant noodles is a meal, and boiled water bread is also a meal. I can't help but wonder, why am I not finding the feeling of happiness more and more? He is gentle as a jade, a humble gentleman, and his original intention has not changed. Instead, it was me who changed. After living a hard life, I now think that even if I marry a so-called successful man, behind the superficial scenery, how much man's warmth can I enjoy?
I went to look for him. He and his daughter live in a single dormitory in the unit. My daughter saw me and shouted "Mommy" with joy, and I hugged my daughter and threw myself into his arms. Held tightly by him, my heart suddenly became solid. In this world, there are many kinds of marriages, but the one that suits you is the best. Holding the glass of wine that best suits your taste, why bother
You have to care about whether other people's cups are Wuliangye or two pots.