On May 3, 2018, in Huaihua, Hunan Province, a sixty-five-year-old uncle braved heavy rain to rush to his sister's house in the next town.
The sister called the evening before to tell the uncle that their 84-year-old mother actually pulled a man and said that she was going to remarry!
Uncle Was very angry at his mother's behavior, his mother remarried many times when she was young, the old people in the village all looked at the Yang family with strange eyes, and now her mother was still restless when she was old.
When he arrived at his sister's house, uncle saw his mother sitting in front of the gate for the first time.
He said angrily, "That man is for your money!" You're 84 years old, what else can he do with you? ”
But the mother was very stubborn, and she insisted, "I just want to marry him!" I have packed everything up, and there is no reason why the son is in charge of the mother. ”
Uncle was angry and laughed, and he didn't say anything: "Good! Good! If you leave, I will be without you as a mother!" ”
Who is this 84-year-old old woman who is still clamoring to get married? Is her marriage happy? And now, what is the relationship between the elderly and their children?
"Abandoned the child and left home after the death of the husband"
Yi Quartz was born in May 1934 in a mountain in Changsha, Hunan Province.
Yi Quartz was in the midst of war when he was a child, living a life of starvation every day, and in the chaos of war, Yi Quartz was separated from his family.
After liberation, Yi Quartz was left with only herself in her home.
Later, Yi Quartz settled in Huaihua, Hunan Province, and when he became an adult, he married a man surnamed Yang in the same village.
Soon after the marriage, Yi Quartz became pregnant with her first child.
The first child was a boy, and Yi Quartz and her husband named him Yang Geng.
Five years after Yang Geng's birth, Yi Quartz became pregnant with a second child, and then gave birth to five more children.
When Yi Quartz was forty years old, her husband died of fatigue, and when her husband died, the eldest son, Yang Geng, was 21 years old.
When Yang Geng was 20 years old, he was introduced to marry Li Liyun in the next village, and the two built a bungalow near their home.
After the death of her husband, forty-year-old Yi Quartz raised six children alone.
But life is still too hard, the family is too poor to open the pot, Yi Quartz can only pick up garbage outside for a living.
Poor and unable to bear loneliness, a year after the death of her husband, Yi Quartz ran away from home alone and married away.
Yi Quartz's remaining six minor children were all left to the eldest son, Yang Geng and his wife.
Yang Geng and his wife did not have children themselves, and they had begun to take care of their younger siblings as children.
However, Yang Geng and Li Liyun never thought of abandoning their brothers and sisters.
Life was hard, but the couple still pulled the younger siblings up.
After that, Yang Geng came to Guilin to work, and he became a repairman for a company.
The younger siblings also grew up, and Yang Geng and his wife built two bungalows, and their lives gradually improved.
Yi Quartz's eldest daughter, Yang Xiu, became a Chinese teacher at a local middle school after graduation and later married the school's principal.
The youngest daughter is not in good health, but she has been doing business in other places for many years, and her life is also passable.
After retirement, Yang Geng received a retirement salary of two or three thousand a month and bought two shops in the local urban area.
Yang Geng has survived a hard life, and now he is finally living a prosperous life.
"Old age returns home to ask for support, regardless of children's opposition to marriage at an advanced age"
Compared with the eldest son Yang Geng, Yi Quartz who abandoned his child was very difficult.
After Yi Quartz left home, she wandered in many places in Hubei, Hunan, and she remarried many times.
Because of the age placed there, Yi Quartz's subsequent marriage either ended in the death of the man or was shouted and scolded by the man's family.
After decades of wandering, Yi Quartz has not found a place to return.
Shortly after New Year's Day in 2018, Yi Quartz was evicted from her place of residence again, and this time she thought of her home, which she had not returned to for thirty or forty years.
Yi Quartz returned to Huaihua, Hunan Province, before the Spring Festival, and with the memories in his mind, Yi Quartz found the hometown where he once lived.
In the villagers' notice, Yi Quartz knew that his seven children were now only left with his eldest son Yang Geng and two daughters.
Yi Quartz told the villagers that she was Yang Geng's mother, and with the help of well-wishers, Yi Quartz came to Yang Geng's current home.
When I saw my mother again, both sides had gray hair.
Over the years, Yi Quartz has not contacted his family, let alone sent money.
Yang Geng has always believed that with his mother's age of more than eighty years old, he was out alone and had died a long time ago.
Until Yang Geng saw his mother, in addition to not believing it, there was also resentment towards what his mother had done.
Yi Quartz asked the eldest son in front of him to give him a pension, and Yang Geng was very uncomfortable.
But at that time, it was close to the Spring Festival, and Yang Geng considered that Yi Quartz was 84 years old this year, and finally agreed to Yi Quartz's request.
Unexpectedly, my mother had a peaceful birthday at her and her sister's house, but she began to make trouble again.
In May 2018, Yi Quartz told Yang Geng that he was going to marry a man who was more than ten years younger than himself.
Yi Quartz said that the two people have a good relationship and are ready to live together in their later years.
Yang Geng is very angry, his mother is 84 years old but still wants to remarry, is this not waiting for others to see the joke?
Yang Geng and his sister both advised their mother not to marry a man, but Yi Quartz still carried the package and left with the man.
Yi Quartz knew that when she was young, she owed a lot to her children, and the children did not like their mother.
Because he did not want to live in his children's home anymore and cause them a burden, Yi Quartz planned to marry himself off.
Unexpectedly, Yi Quartz's kind decision deepened the misunderstanding between himself and his child.
"Divorce from husband, borrow from a well-meaning family"
Soon after, Yi Quartz still remarried despite opposition, until 2021, the 87-year-old quietly returned to her hometown and declared that she had divorced.
She hoped that Yang Geng would be able to support herself, but Yang Geng and his wife Li Liyun were very resolute, and they would not let Yi Quying go home.
Yang Geng said that even if he was in prison, he would no longer support his mother Yi Quartz.
Yi Quartz always stayed near Yang Geng's house, and it is said that during a noisy push, Yi Quartz was pushed into the pond by Yang Geng.
A well-meaning local old man, Yan Bao, saved Yi Quartz and let Yi Quartz live in his home.
A local man named Yan Bao was very unaccustomed to the attitude of the Yang Geng family towards Yi Quartz.
In order to help Yi Quartz return home, Yan Bao dialed the local family mediation column.
He told reporters that he was an old neighbor of Yi Quartz, and he could not see what Yang Geng had done before he planned to stand out for Yi Quartz.
Yan Bao said that he and Yi Quartz both hoped that Yi Quartz's children would give their mothers a pension.
After the program team came, he accompanied Yi Quartz to the home of his eldest son Yang Geng.
When they reached the door, Yi Quartz did not dare to enter again.
When the reporter asked why, Yi Quartz said that he was afraid of his eldest daughter-in-law Li Liyun scolding himself.
Sure enough, when the reporter persuaded Yi Quartz to enter the door, the eldest daughter-in-law saw that they immediately changed their faces.
Li Liyun said angrily, "How did you come back?" ”
The staff next to him immediately came out to explain the reason to Li Liyun.
Because Yi Quartz is very old, the reporter wants Yi Quartz to sit down and have a good talk with Li Liyun.
But Yi Quartz's ass had just reached the edge of the chair, and her daughter-in-law Li Liyun began to loudly accuse the old lady.
When the reporter asked about the maintenance of Yi Quartz, Li Liyun was very reasonable and bold.
Li Liyun said that she and her husband have fulfilled their duties as children, and it is the elderly Yi Quartz who has his own problems.
According to Li Liyun, after Yi Quartz returned three years ago, her husband once divided the family's bungalow into a room for Yi Quartz to live in.
Everything was arranged in the family, but Yi Quartz lived in it and was selective.
Yi Quartz had to say that there were unclean things in the house, and refused to sleep by himself at night, so he had to be accompanied by someone.
But everyone in the family has their own life, helpless, Yang Geng can only send his mother to his sister's house.
When she arrived at her sister's house, Yi Quartz was still making trouble, and she also said that she saw something unclean.
Children are made unable to live a peaceful day by the elderly.
After that, the 84-year-old man actually did not listen to the advice of his children, and had to get married at an advanced age!
As early as when he was young, the old man threw the child to the eldest sister-in-law Li Liyun, who had remarried many times outside, and who could expect that she was still restless in her eighties.
Because of this incident, Yang Geng and his sister's two families have been ridiculed by the villagers behind their backs.
"The Truth About Getting Married at An Advanced Age"
At this time, the reporter asked again, according to the neighbor Yan Bao, the children are now unwilling to let Yi Quartz enter the door, resulting in the elderly can only borrow to live in Yan Bao's home.
Hearing this name, the eldest daughter-in-law was even more angry.
She said, "What kind of enthusiast is that Yan Bao!" He is the one who the old man has to remarry in his eighties! ”
When people reach old age, where can there be any love.
Yan Bao is a bachelor. The children knew that he was with Yi Quartz just to find a free nanny.
And Yi Quartz likes to go around telling others that he has more than 100,000 deposits.
Now Yan Bao has cheated the money clean, watching the old man move slowly and wanting to send Yi Quartz back!
And this is not the first time that Yan Bao has brought the old man to make trouble.
As early as more than a week before the reporter's arrival, Yan Bao took Yi Quartz to the Yang family.
Yan Bao took the divorce certificate of the two and told Yang Geng: Now that he and Yi Quartz have no relationship, he wants to send Yi Quartz back.
Now that the old man has no use value, Yan Bao is eager to get rid of this burden, and he even sued Yang Geng's brothers and sisters in court, on the grounds that they do not support the elderly.
At this time, Yi Shiying's eldest daughter Yang Xiu also hurried to the home of her brother Yang Geng.
Yang Xiu told reporters that Yan Bao's mouth was full of lies.
Yan Bao once preached everywhere that he and Yi Quartz were matched by Yang Xiu, and yang Geng, the eldest brother who believed that it was true, almost beat his sister.
After hearing the news, the reporter was shocked.
After seeking verification, the reporter went to Yan Bao's house to look for Yan Bao, but he could not find anyone.
Under the guidance of the villagers, the reporter finally found Yan Bao, who was hiding.
Under the reporter's several questions, Yan Bao was finally willing to open his relationship with Yi Quartz.
He said that his divorce from Yi Quartz was a discord between feelings and not an abandonment as the Yang family said.
For the matter of savings, Yan Bao said that When he got married, Yi Quartz did take the money to his home.
However, it is not more than 100,000 people in the Yang family's population, but 24,000 yuan.
For this money, Yan Bao swore that he had never used it, and this deposit was all spent on Yi Quartz himself.
And after the two divorced, Yan Bao gave Yi Quartz four thousand yuan.
Later, the reporter asked the elderly Yi Quartz about this statement.
Yi Quartz said that she had no feelings when she married Yan Bao, and she was to reduce the burden on her children.
But after marriage, Yi Quartz's relationship with her children became worse and worse.
Yi Quartz has stepped half a foot into the coffin board, and she has always wanted to ease relations with her children in the last days.
Yan Bao told Yi Quartz that as long as he divorced, his son and daughter would be able to accept and take care of themselves.
Yi Quartz listened to Yan Bao's words, and the two divorced, but they did not expect that the children did not want to be themselves.
And he and Yan Bao have no relationship, Yi Quartz can only move out of Yan Bao's home.
Yi Quartz packed up the things she had left at Yan Bao's house, and even if she lived for three years, her luggage added up to only a small package.
Yi Quartz stands on a dirt-filled country road, and in front of the camera, her back is staggering and faltering.
Yi Quartz did not know where his future should go.
"The Dust Settles"
Although neither the children Yang Geng nor Yang Xiu were willing to raise Yi Quartz, the mainland had a complete judicial system.
Even if Yang Geng and Yang Xiu do not want to support the elderly, they must fulfill their obligations and responsibilities.
For the rest of the life of the elderly Yi Quartz, the program team invited local judicial mediators.
In the mediation, the children and Yan Bao had many quarrels, and the children also shirked.
Finally, after a long period of mediation, the rest of the life of the old man Yi Quartz finally had a place.
Yi Quartz still has three children in the world, because the youngest daughter's physical condition is really not good, Yang Geng, Yang Xiu did not let his sister take on this responsibility.
Yang Geng and Yang Xiu reached a consensus that the elderly Yi Quartz took turns living in the two homes when he was alive.
The two children give the elderly 200 yuan in cash every month, and buy seasonal clothes for the elderly in time when changing seasons.
At the local authority, the two children signed the relevant maintenance agreement.
The issue of support for the 87-year-old Yi Quartz has finally settled.
Today, the old man is living in the home of his eldest son, Yang Geng.
Although the son and daughter-in-law still do not have a good face for the old man, the old man no longer has to worry about sleeping in the wind.
Everyone in this matter is very strange to each other.
Not only Yan Bao, but also Yi Quartz and his children are a family but they are like strangers.
Everyone has their own set of words in their mouths, making it impossible to distinguish between true and false, but what is certain is that they are all justifying themselves.
It is often said that everything has a cause and effect, and that what happens in later life depends on what you experienced when you were young.
In this life, Yi Quartz is extremely dependent on marriage and love, and she longs to get a sense of security from her husband.
But every marriage hurt her, and finally she ended up walking for half her life, and no place was the result of home.
The life of the old man Yi Quartz is sad and lamentable.
If the elderly want to be raised by their children, they should be an example for their children, not abandon their children when they are young, and be self-reliant.
And children should also fulfill their obligations to the elderly, after all, they are all family members who gave birth to themselves when they were young.
I hope that this situation in Yi Quartz's home will not happen again in our society.
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