Many pregnant mothers may feel that pregnancy should be the hardest stage for women. In fact, compared with pregnancy, postpartum life can be regarded as hard, many young mothers, before they have time to feel the joy of new motherhood, they are hit by the pressure that follows, and there is no unspeakable heartache that can only be swallowed in the heart.
Case: Pregnancy is treated as a treasure, postpartum is not as good as grass, the sense of drop is too large so that the mother suffers from postpartum depression
Former colleague Xiao Liu proposed his resignation to the company when she was six months pregnant, Xiao Liu has strong personal ability, so the leader has also been retaining her, but she insisted on leaving, because the family did not let her continue to work, saying that high-intensity work pressure will have an impact on the child, plus the conditions at home are not bad, even if she does not come out to work, the life at home is still very good.
After Xiao Liu resigned, she often shared her pregnant life in the circle of friends, and it can be seen from her words that both her husband and her mother-in-law's family are very precious to her daughter-in-law. She also got together with us once during this time, and also mentioned that her family really cared about her, almost to the point of omnipotentence.
In this way, after a happy pregnancy, Xiao Liu gave birth to a cute little boy, a full 7 pounds and 3 pairs, which made the whole family even more happy, and all of a sudden the attention was transferred to the little boy. And the mother-in-law in order to be able to take better care of the little boy, so constantly give Xiao Liu to drink milk soup, sometimes Xiao Liu really can't drink, but also force her to drink, a mouthful of "you don't drink, how can the baby grow a body", so that Xiao Liu is even more cold.
From beginning to end, no one ever asked her how she felt, whether there was anything uncomfortable. And the little guy is still a small crying bag, he will cry at every turn, usually Xiao Liu is really unwilling to coax, just put it on the bed to let the little guy cry for a while and may stop. However, the mother-in-law would criticize her when she heard the voice and go to hold the little guy herself, which caused the little guy to rely more on coaxing later.
The care of the whole family is all given to the child, which makes Xiao Liu have a great sense of gap, after the confinement period, several of our colleagues also went to visit her, her whole person's state is not as good as before, and we have said a lot, the whole person is obviously a depressed state, it is really painful to see.
In fact, in many families, there are similar situations, during the pregnancy of the mothers, the mothers are greeted warmly, and when the baby is born, all at once the attention is transferred to the child, and no one cares about the situation of the mother. At this stage, the mother is also the one who needs the most comfort, but if you find that no one cares about you, you will have a great sense of gap, plus you have been taking care of the baby, which can be said to be physically and mentally exhausted.
The joy of becoming a mother for the first time cannot withstand the "heartache" of the confinement period, and people who have come here have resonance with these
Of course, the heartache of the confinement period is not only the sense of gap, during the confinement period, the mothers drag the tired body, looking at themselves even after giving birth, but the figure has not changed significantly, the stomach still has a lot of extra meat, plus the confinement period also needs to supplement nutrition, so it may be more serious after the birth of the figure, in the face of this situation, the mothers will naturally be very sad when they think of their pre-pregnancy figure.
In addition, during the confinement period, if there is no one to help with the child, the mothers are already very tired after giving birth, but they also have to drag the tired body to breastfeed at night and coax the little one to sleep, which is also very detrimental to postpartum recovery.
Usually, after the baby wakes up at night and cries, if you need to breastfeed, let the mothers breastfeed, and when the breastfeeding is over, the father will coax them to sleep. Or the mothers express the breast milk in advance and put it in the bottle, then put it in the thermostat, and wait until the baby wakes up at night, and directly let the baby get up and feed.
Of course, if the family has the conditions to ask for a sister-in-law, then it is the best, because the sister-in-law will be responsible for helping you take care of the baby throughout the process, in addition to breastfeeding, almost all the sister-in-law to bring the baby, but also will take care of the mother's body, which can also reduce family conflicts.
During the confinement period, the most sad thing to say may be the attitude of the husband, some husbands directly choose to sleep in separate rooms after the wife has a child, and even have the meaning of disgust to the wife, although it is not said explicitly, but it can also be felt from the words, which is the biggest blow to the mother.
After giving birth to a child with hard work, not only did he not get the understanding and help of his husband, but he was disliked by his husband, coupled with various complications after childbirth, which made the mothers exhausted.
Therefore, I hope not to disappoint the women who have just been promoted to motherhood, give them more care and encouragement after giving birth, and help them as much as possible. Especially Bao Dad, to have more emotional communication with Bao Ma, rather than handing over the heavy responsibility of bringing a baby to them, which is undoubtedly a worse situation for them.