Hello everyone, I am a boxing sister, a deep fan who loves to watch niche films and television.
Because It is Feng Xiaogang who followed up "A Place of Chicken Feathers" in 1995 and directed a TV series again after 25 years, coupled with the fact that the cast occupies half of the entertainment industry, the production team is quite strong, "North and South" has not been broadcast first, and the audience is waiting to spy on the true appearance of this work.
On the first day of broadcasting, "North And South" directly landed on the first place in the TV series list, the number of broadcasts exceeded 100 million, and the hot search list topics reached 16, which can be seen in the popularity.
To put it simply, "Beiru Nanyuan" tells the group portrait story of five women who harvested growth and love in the process of jointly founding the "Beiru Nanyuan" restaurant.
The style of the work is well, the expected "Fung comedy" - frequent golden sentences, black humor, and the introduction of deep thinking.
In this drama, Feng Xiaogang's ambition is not only to show the strange image of the entertainment industry, but also to reflect various current women's issues, such as career development, love choices, marriage maintenance and so on.
01
Love that runs in both directions can lead to results,
One-way effort can only be a distraction.
What impressed me most in this drama was actually not the story of the protagonists, but the female supporting hotel manager Feng Xi (Sui Yuan).
Feng Xi and her boyfriend Li Yang have been in love since college, and it has been ten years. The woman's original intention has not changed, and she has been waiting for her boyfriend to open her mouth to propose marriage and draw a satisfactory end to her youth. But the man, who has been delaying marriage on the grounds of getting a degree certificate, obviously has two hearts for this relationship.
In life, Feng Xi is meticulous to Li Yang; in terms of money, Feng Xi also supports him to the best of his ability. But the man's attitude is completely different, he does not give comfort to his girlfriend when he is depressed, and he does not support her in his career to start a business.
Feng Xi actually knows in his heart that he plays a role in his boyfriend's heart, more like a free nanny than his lover. But she just doesn't want to face reality and always has a glimmer of hope for her boyfriend – he'll change, he'll be moved, he'll marry me.
The result? Ten years of feelings, the other party said in five minutes to break up.
The saddest thing is that the reason why we once loved each other deeply has become the reason for the breakup now – "I don't need your care anymore." ”
Feng Xi's story is enough to show that the love that runs in both directions can blossom and bear fruit, and the one-way payment can only be eclipsed.
A man who hasn't wanted to make a commitment for ten years can't say he hasn't loved, but at least he doesn't have you in his future plans. At this time, what the woman has to do is not to blindly indulge, but to let go in time, after all, the person who wave is wrong can meet the right.
02
Twenty-year-old love is a whim,
Thirty-year-old love is deliberate.
I have heard many people say before that true love is irrational, it is heartwarming, it is not about gain or loss; it is not about love after careful consideration, but about calculating each other and taking what you need.
I think that people who live in fairy tales are very simple, but people who live in reality are not sad.
After Dai Xiaoyu (Jin Chen) and the scumbag break up, they are pursued by young men, and cousin Bao Xue (played by Lan Yingying) is bent on matching the two, mainly because he feels that the man has good character and is truly in love with his sister.
Xiaoyu and the man are still quite happy, but she is transparent in her heart - like is only a temporary feeling, does not mean suitable. The man can give up everything for the sake of nothingness, but at the age of thirty she only wants to live without waves.
Xiao Yu's requirements for future partners are not temporary happiness, but always stable. I think that's what adults really think in reality — a stable economy, a peaceful heart, better than anything.
Xiaoyu and the man may have some good feelings for each other, but they can only regret to say goodbye, because the three views are irreconcilable, and they will eventually look at each other and lose both.
03
Full-time wife caught between the seams to survive,
Only self-improvement can cross oneself.
Si Meng (Played by Si Ni) is a high-achieving student of the Chinese Department of Beijing Normal University, and became a full-time housewife after marriage. His children and daughters, and her husband Du Shijun (Zhu Yuchen) have a successful career and look like a winner in life.
In fact, her life was not happy.
Let's start with love. Old Fair Day is busy socializing, often returning home drunk late at night, and saturdays and Sundays are also addicted to mobile games. Because of the lack of communication and trivial contradictions, the feelings of the two are in jeopardy.
And then there's the family. The children's food, clothing, housing, education, etc. are basically taken care of by Si Meng alone, and the role of the father of the husband's family is completely absent, which can be said to be a widowed marriage.
In Si Meng's words: "You let me spoil you like a mother, do you have the obedience of your son?" You want me to provide like a father, do you have the responsibility of a father? ”
Let's talk about career. Full-time housewives want to return to the workplace, age is the first hurdle, skills are the second hurdle, personal mentality is the third hurdle (basic posts are not up to par, middle and high-level are not up to standard), it is difficult to find the ideal job.
The only thing to be thankful for is that she has something she loves and insists on – writing fairy tales. In writing, she can get a moment of peace, spiritual satisfaction, spiritual freedom, she can find herself from the quagmire of life.
Si Meng's story also tells the audience not to discriminate against full-time wives because of stereotypes, criticizing them as parasites of the family, but affirming their selfless efforts and giving more emotional understanding and tolerance at work.
At the same time, confused full-time wives should also understand that in marriage, do not lose the value of their own existence, find the goal to work for, and enter an inch of joy.
It is necessary to grasp the right to speak through strength, and in any case, have the confidence to retreat from the whole body.
04
It should be emphasized that although there is no lack of sharp brushstrokes in the mapping of social topics, "North and South" does not sell anxiety.
The women in the play, although the journey of life is always different, they have never given up chasing better scenery. In the finale of "North and South", everyone is more or less one step closer to their ideal life.
Loving people together, welcoming new lives, careers, luxurious parties... More fortunately, they accompany each other on the long road of life, share weal and woe, and draw warmth.
At each time period, they have their own considerations and choices, either going with the flow or going well. Wrong, grit your teeth and laugh at yourself, anyway, life takes the initiative to take a detour; right, just clap with joy, thank God for your care and persistence.
Although the road ahead is uncertain and the process is terrifying, it is precisely because of this that our lives are wonderful and cannot be copied.
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