People always say that it is not easy for two people to come together, but in fact, this is not easy just before marriage, because the husband and wife belong to two strangers to combine together, there are always some inappropriate places with each other, and in the relationship after marriage, these inappropriateness will also be slowly reflected, affecting the feelings of two people.
If there are some external factors at this time, it is easy to make the marriage problem. But it is also very simple to solve these troubles, that is, to think more about the other half and think more about marriage. Because two people live together, if you only think about yourself, it is impossible to do, and you will do a lot of things that destroy the family because of your selfishness.
Two people living together, originally to tolerate each other, give in to each other, if you only think of their own grievances, their own sadness, do not look at the measure to vent these emotions. Then it is very likely that there will be no turning back, because every wrong thing you do is a disaster for the marriage and the other half.
Today's story comes from the sharing of netizen Ye Fei.
The first accidental derailment
Ye Fei was 27 years old and married to her boyfriend of three years, but Ye Fei wanted to live a good life with her boyfriend, and she never thought that she would one day betray this long-awaited marriage.
But after a person is married, because of the changes in life, people will also change.
At the age of 30, because the two people were ready to have children, and Kang Ji was not very satisfied with his current job, he accepted the company's arrangement and went to a branch in another city as a supervisor. Although the branch has just been built, Kang Ji will have to do the work of two or three people by himself, but this is equivalent to a promotion, and the salary can be doubled.
Therefore, Ye Fei had no reason to oppose, so he began to separate from Kang Ji.
But slowly, Ye Fei couldn't stay alone, on the one hand, because it was really boring to be alone without children, and on the other hand, because Ye Fei had hardly been separated from Kang Ji since marriage, which also made Ye Fei feel for the first time different from the feeling of loneliness when she was single.
And Ye Fei was originally a playful and playful personality, knowing that Kang Ji could not come back to accompany him, he began to frequently accept the invitations of those so-called girlfriends, go out to eat with them, drink, and bungee. And several of Ye Fei's girlfriends are still single, because the family conditions are not bad, so the love object has changed one after another, and every time they go out to play, they will bring it.
Ye Fei would keep his distance from these men at first, but once he was drunk, he wouldn't care so much. In the long-term relationship, a friend of a girlfriend has a good feeling for Ye Fei, every time Ye Fei is in the bureau he comes, Ye Fei is drunk after Ye Fei is also a variety of care, considerate.
Ye Fei didn't know what this meant, but Kang Ji wasn't around, and Ye Fei still didn't bother to push him away.
As a result, the accident happened like this, the man thought that Ye Fei also had a good feeling for himself, and once, both people were drunk, and things happened naturally. The next morning Ye Fei woke up and felt regretful, hurriedly said goodbye to the man, and ran home to stay safely for a month.
Fall in love with the taste of infidelity
Ye Fei was full of guilt for his first accidental derailment, and every time he called Kang Ji for a video in that month, Ye Fei was also terrified, even if he understood that Kang Ji could not find out, but Ye Fei himself could not get over the hurdle in his heart.
Ye Fei even felt that he would settle down at that time, but as this matter slowly passed, the facts once again proved that Ye Fei was not a character who could calm down.
But this time, Ye Fei still deliberately did not choose to get together with the bunch of girlfriends, but chose to get a fitness card to relax himself. Ye Fei herself naively thought that she would work during the day and work out at night, which would not only relieve boredom, but also would not have other time to think wildly.
However, during the fitness period, Ye Fei met a man whose travel time was almost exactly the same as his own, and seeing that the other party was very attentive to himself, Ye Fei remembered the process and reason of the last derailment, so he was afraid that he could not control it and confessed to the man the fact that he was married.
As a result, the man did not seem to care, directly ignoring Ye Fei's words, Ye Fei also gradually indulged in the gentleness of men, and once again betrayed the family.
After breaking up with this lover, Ye Fei also completely figured it out, and even put a hat on Kang Ji, feeling that he could not stand loneliness here, Kang Ji would not necessarily guard himself like a jade, and now he might as well vent his feelings well, and wait until Kang Ji returned so that he would not let the two people have a gap.
With the blessing of such strange ideas, Ye Fei found lovers one after another in the next few years, and several times even brought them home. And Ye Fei has long been accustomed to it and enjoys this feeling very much.
But often walk by the river, where there are not wet shoes. Once Ye Fei missed Kang Ji's phone call because of a date with her lover, and when she took her lover home the next day, she saw Kang Ji sitting in the living room with a gloomy face.
Confess everything and agree to divorce
At that moment, Ye Fei was directly frightened, and he couldn't care about Kang Ji, who rushed up to beat his lover, and by the time Ye Fei reacted, the lover had already fled into the wilderness, and Kang Ji also hoped that Ye Fei could give himself an explanation.
Ye Fei sat opposite Kang Ji, in fact, he felt that it was already like this, and it was useless for him to explain it, but when he opened his mouth and wanted to mention divorce, Ye Fei felt very reluctant. In the end, even though he knew that it was impossible, Ye Fei still apologized and redeemed it.
"I'm just too lonely alone, I'm sure I won't come back when you come back, can you forgive me once?"
Kang Ji's reaction was also expected by Ye Fei, "Forgive once? I'm afraid it's not enough, when I went home a few times before, I found that something was wrong, but it's ridiculous that I believed in you so much, and I didn't want to doubt it without seeing it with my own eyes. Why on earth are you? Am I bad for you? But the two of us have no contradictions. ”
Looking at Kang Ji, who was intertwined with pain and helplessness, Ye Fei finally regretted it, "I'm sorry, I didn't think it would be like this, the first time was an accident, but then you were not around me, I couldn't control it, and later I wanted to understand that cheating would be addicted, and once was countless times." I know that things are already like this, and there is no possibility for us, so let's get together and get divorced. ”
Staring at Ye Fei for a while, Kang Ji finally sighed helplessly, and then within a few days, Ye Fei packed up her things and moved out of the house, and also went with Kang Ji to get a divorce certificate. Out of guilt for Kang Ji, Ye Fei also chose to go out of the house, which was a conclusion to what he had done.
After the divorce, Ye Fei also tried to contact her previous lover, but when the other party heard that Ye Fei was divorced, they were afraid of Ye Fei's entanglement and found various reasons to be bad for Ye Fei. This made Ye Fei feel very ridiculous, she had never thought before that she would give up her marriage for these men.
But the 35-year-old Ye Fei can only sigh in front of those girlfriends, "No way, that feeling can't help it, I regret it now." ”
Husband and wife living together, there will always be some changes and trivialities to make the feelings of the two people contradictory, and among them, the separation of husband and wife is the most likely way to make the feelings problem. Although many couples do not want to live apart, the helplessness of the reality ultimately affects the originally happy family.
The initial reason for the breakdown of Kang Ji and Ye Fei's marriage was because Kang Ji was forced to separate from Ye Fei because of job transfers, but basically we are looking at it, and the fundamental reason is still in Ye Fei. Because there are more couples living apart, as long as they keep their bottom line and often think about their families, they absolutely cannot do such a thing as Ye Fei.
But just as we often say, there are only zero times and countless times of cheating, and Ye Fei once forgets that the family chooses to indulge, which proves that it is difficult to turn back. And many people who are still hesitating and do not know whether they should let themselves sacrifice for the sake of half of the family's joint consideration must also think about the consequences through Ye Fei's story.
Today's topic
Do you have people like Ye Fei around you?
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