Since this illness, I have always prided myself on being open-minded. But my daughter was quite dissatisfied, saying that my open-mindedness was only superficial. The reason why she says this is because she reads my daily articles and feels that it is full of "negative energy".
Of course, I can't agree with that. I said, "You don't understand a patient's mood, and you can't put yourself in the patient's shoes." ”
The so-called "open-mindedness", literally speaking, refers to an open-minded, cheerful personality, tolerant of people and things, is an optimistic and bold, broad mind and free attitude. But who can be ruthless when people are not grass and trees? How many people can really do it no matter what they encounter, how many people can be light in the world? Zhuangzi's wife died, and instead of being sad, he sang with a drum. I have always suspected that he does not have a deep relationship with his wife, maybe there is an external heart, the original deserved to die, of course he is very happy. In my opinion, true open-mindedness is to encounter problems, not to escape, or to pretend to turn a blind eye, but to face them bravely. To be sad is to be sad, to be happy is to be happy. Especially when encountering problems that cannot be solved for the time being, we must try to solve them; what is really impossible to solve can be temporarily shelved, and maybe after a period of time, suddenly the inspiration will erupt, so it will be "another village of willows and flowers". Even if there is a problem that can never be solved, you can't be scared to death, trapped, and difficult to die by the problem, and the best way is to choose to ignore it. This kind of disregard is not Ma Daha's invisibility, nor is it a fool's mixed death, but there is a little taste of Ah Q's "spiritual victory method", which is the meaning of Zheng Banqiao's "rare confusion".
I am seriously ill and can directly ignore it, I do not believe that such a person exists, unless he is a complete fool. But any normal person who encounters such a major event as life and death will definitely have a process from shock, panic, and fear to calm down and then try to solve it. If it can be solved, everything will be fine; if it cannot be solved, there will certainly be a process of frustration, disappointment, and despair. If it is a person with a less open mind, he will complain about the world, hate his father and scold his mother, so that he will cocoon himself, get tighter and tighter, and eventually wrap himself up; if he is an open-minded person, even if there is no solution, he will be freed from despair as soon as possible, find a new path, and start a new life. This is also known as "open-mindedness".
Therefore, the so-called "open-mindedness" is nothing more than a kind of letting go after experiencing despair. Before letting go, everything is understandable, such as pessimism, frustration, and even long sighs, all of which belong to human nature. Without these, this person must have less heart and no lungs. After seeing through and seeing through, being able to put it down as soon as possible is the real open-mindedness. And, if you let go from the heart, everything on the surface is no longer important, including what the daughter calls "negative energy" and so on.
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