Author/Tongyu
See a sentence on the Internet: marriage gives you the opportunity to fall in love with the same person again and again. Sadly, we often see it only as the end of love.
In life, I always hear some people say that no matter who they live with, in the end, it is the same. I think that the person who said this must have ignored the importance of character in it. Living with different people is really different.
Probably, you often see people complaining in your life, after marriage, and then it will give you a feeling that after marriage, everyone is not so happy.
In fact, no matter what choice you make, there will be unsatisfactory parts, just like when you are alone, you must also have loneliness, and you will certainly sometimes envy the happiness of the family.
Therefore, you must balance this mentality.
In fact, the days are two people living out, no matter how many people complain that the marriage is not good, there are still people in this ordinary day, the marriage of two people into a state that can not be separated from each other, no matter what is in front of them, but as long as you think of the rest of your life, you are satisfied.
Zhang Ailing once said: Maybe love is not passion, nor is it nostalgia, but it has become a part of life over the years.
Even if the wind and snow moon are just the occasional scraps of life, there are still people who are eager to bring you the best parts of the whole life.
This is the most moving place of love, holding the hand of the son, and growing old with the son.
In a marriage relationship, a man can bear 3 kinds of responsibilities to be worthy of the love of a good woman.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > first: responsibility to the family</h1>
First of all, as a man, the sense of responsibility in the family must first be manifested in the ability to support the family.
Of course, as a member of the family, women must also bear some of the financial responsibilities. However, in real life, what we can't change is that women will always affect their career progress more or less because of their children and families in the later stages.
Therefore, regarding the responsibility of supporting the family, this time must be more borne by the man.
Speaking of which, many people must think that this is not the most basic? Most people can do it.
In fact, there are not, there are a considerable number of men, after they set up a family, they do not take up their responsibilities at all, nor do they realize the transformation of their identity.
I know a sister, her husband is the kind of person who holds the concept of before marriage after marriage, patronizes himself to eat and have fun, spends all his month's salary, and does not care about the family's expenses. Later, when she had a child, her sister thought he could change some, who knew that there was none, so she had to work alone, raise children, and be responsible for all the expenses of the family.
She runs her own nail salon, is often busy, and her income is generally much higher than her husband's. However, her husband never worries about the affairs of the family, there is no sense of participation at all, and she is completely widowed parenting and widowed marriage. Many times she struggles with divorce or not, thinking that she is sorry for the burden on her shoulders, especially when considering her children, and is more hesitant.
But if she didn't divorce, she felt sorry for herself, which was more important, and she could not make up her mind, so she continued to maintain this marriage.
Her husband's utter lack of family responsibility has completely disappointed her, and the two of them have been unable to communicate, and have now become the most familiar strangers living under one roof.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" > second: responsibility to the wife</h1>
Two people forming a family must have responsibilities to fulfill about each other, and the word loyalty is one of the key points.
Shakespeare said: True love cannot be expressed in words, and that deeds are the best illustration of faithfulness.
Regarding the fidelity in marriage, Zhou Guoping once made this statement:
Marriage is nothing more than to set up a door bar for freedom, in actual life, it may not be strictly closed, but it is good to have, without this door bar, completely open, it can not be called marriage. Marriage inherently cannot agree to the freedom of the parties to overstep the bar, and extramarital love must be regarded as a foul. Of course, fouls do not necessarily lead to the breakdown of marriages, but they will almost certainly upset the peace.
So, fidelity in marriage, to a large extent, is one of the decisive factors in maintaining the stability of the relationship.
However, people's hearts are always fickle, and some people have been living in one place for a long time and want to see the scenery of other places, which is actually the common sentiment of people, and everyone will have this curiosity.
The difference is that some people will let their hearts do things, while some people will remember their commitments because of the responsibility on their shoulders, and will not take that step, even if there is a sign, they may also stop the loss in time.
I have found that there are always some people who like to push themselves and others, and if they can't do it themselves, they think that others can't do it, and they will treat other people's insistence on feelings as compromises and pretends when they are incompetent.
This is not the case.
Some people, they have the ability and the confidence to have another choice, but at the same time, they know better what is the most important, what they want to cherish, can let reason prevail, do not easily make mistakes.
Such a person, there is no doubt that the sense of responsibility is very strong.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > third: responsibility to oneself</h1>
Being responsible for yourself is also a very important factor in marriage, although marriage emphasizes the importance of two people as a whole, but even after marriage, everyone still needs to have their own life and space, and still needs a process of continuous growth.
Only by doing a good job, when two people are together again, it is naturally the result of one plus one being greater than two.
Being responsible for oneself is mainly manifested in three aspects: first, it is responsible for the development of one's own life direction; second, it is responsible for personal conduct; and finally, it is responsible for one's own physical health.
Especially health, it should not be underestimated, because many people are most likely to ignore this problem, and they do not pay attention to it at the beginning. Don't think that you are still young, blindly squander the health you have now, do not pay any attention to your personal body, if you really wait until the time when the disease is found, then it will be too late to regret it.
<h1 class= "pgc-h-arrow-right" > about marriage</h1>
Zhou Guoping said: A good marriage makes love mature, and mature love has more weight. When we call a person of the opposite sex a lover, it is our passion that calls, and when we call a person of the opposite sex as a relative, it is our whole life experience that is calling.
It is not easy for two people to be together, and it is even more difficult to be able to walk together for a lifetime.
Because of this, marriage requires two people to operate and work hard together, and only when they are firm in the same heart can they jointly move towards the future as promised.
Some people part ways in the middle of the road; and some people, no matter how much wind and rain they experience, can continue to guard the people around them.
May you not forget your original intention, but also keep it consistently.
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