Monogatari:
We've always said, "Life should be more refined." "But what should the exquisite life look like?"
Stay away from fireworks, away from the ordinary, or do you want to draw a line with real life, chai rice oil and salt?
In Huang Lei, I see the exquisite life, not afraid of middle-aged fortune, not afraid of kitchen fumes, not afraid of ordinary and simple, only afraid of not having a heart that loves plain and full.
Over the years, Huang Lei has too many "extraordinary" labels.
From actors, singers, directors, to good fathers, good husbands, Teacher Huang, And Chef Huang, people do not hesitate to praise Huang Lei, "knowing the world but not sophisticated" and "the warmest and sexiest fat man".
When he was young, Huang Lei was sharp and sharp, but when he reached middle age, he became more and more peaceful.
Walk through the fireworks of the world, embrace the ordinary, and enjoy yourself.
Refinement and fireworks are essentially symbiotic, it is the love and fullness of the heart for the world, and it is full of sincerity for a meal and a smile in ordinary life.
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From literary and artistic youth to middle-aged fat uncle, he said that ordinary life is pyrotechnic, and I hope to be a little fatter and a little fatter.
Huang Lei, who was once a man, satisfies all the imaginations of literary and artistic youth.
Huang Lei in college is the prince of high cold in the hearts of girls. Every time I pass by the classroom window, it will cause a burst of excited whispers from the girls.
At the age of 27, Huang Lei released his first album "I Think I Am the Sea". On the cover he sits barefoot on a rock, looking into the distance, as the song sings, "I think I am the sea / The quiet deep sea / Not everyone understands ..."
In "April Day on Earth", he is Xu Zhimo, a talented man, and Lin Huiyin, played by Zhou Xun, laughs side by side, and is so elegant that he does not eat human fireworks.
His teacher Qi Shilong once said: "There is a kind of aristocratic melancholy in this child. ”
▲ Huang Lei Zhou Xun's early cooperation on "April Day on Earth"
Until now, many people still often miss the "Wenqing" Huang Lei of that year, and lament the appearance of others who are now blessed in middle age. But Huang Lei himself did not think that was his best time.
"At that time, it was popular to have long hair fluttering, smoking a cigarette, literary youth, eyes empty," he laughed, "but the literary and artistic is only that era, not me." ”
After starting a family, Huang Lei gradually faded out of the show business circle and returned to his normal life.
The family lives on the outskirts of Beijing, away from the hustle and bustle, not far from the mountains, with acacia trees planted outside the window. Don't go out for the needs of life, don't do unnecessary dates, and stay together as a family. "These most mundane emotions are the most precious happiness for me."
In those days, Huang Lei enjoyed the ordinary and rarely appeared in front of the public. But he was also a man at home, reading a book, taking care of plants, or when he was in the mood, he had a piece of music and a glass of wine.
▲ "Hey Old Man" Huang Lei's stills of singing in the bar
Huang Lei especially likes to cook. He called himself "Huang Xiao Chef" on Weibo, and his most proud time was to make a large table full of dishes for his family. He would wear an apron, flip the shovel, shuttle through the fireworks, and nag solemnly: "If this sweet and sour ribs are added with cold water, the meat will become very tight, and it will not rot..."
"Ordinary daily memories, the most important thing is a meal. The most important thing in a person's life is to eat a meal, and to be able to feed himself and his loved ones and warm up, which is the most important thing. ”
Life does not have to be framed by labels, whether it is literature and art in youth, pride, or the grounding of middle age, all of this is a natural growth, a gentle tempering of the years.
Nowadays, Huang Leiteng moves the flesh of the body, confined to the kitchen and love day and night, and even found a more solid, full of life exquisite.
He said: "An idealistic skinny man who has been tempered by the years into a realist fat man. ”
But this is neither a praise for his ideals nor a depreciation of reality. This is after he saw through the heights, smiled and chose to return to the ground.
What young man has no heart, what young man has not longed for a kind of untainted poetry and distant places?
But a person with a rich heart will tolerate the differences in the world.
Appreciate not only the poetry of not eating human fireworks, but also the stability of chai rice oil and salt.
Don't forget that poetry can also be recited affectionately in coarse tea and light rice, pots and pans.
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22 years seems like just a moment.
We use this moment to slowly understand eternity and learn to love each other.
Some people say that if the love between Huang Lei and Sun Li is filmed into a drama, it will probably not be very exciting.
The love between the two at that time, Lang Cai and female appearance, but there is no lingering compassion and vigorousness that people imagine.
At the first sight of the examination room, they loved each other, and after a confession, they held hands.
They are the topic of conversation in the mouths of their classmates, but they have no intention of making themselves glamorous. Sun Li, who does not apply powder, and Huang Lei, who has a slightly messy hairstyle, wear a T-shirt, pants, and flip-flops, and wear each other's shoulders through the campus playground, smiling without an image.
On the day of the wedding, the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau together to get a permit, and then they ran back to class with a cigarette, hurriedly changed suits and makeup in the evening, and drove to a very ordinary restaurant to celebrate.
There are no twists and turns, no romantic ceremonies, ordinary brides and grooms blocked on the Third Ring Road, but feel extremely happy.
After marriage, Huang Lei was busy at work, and Sun Li concentrated on guarding the family. They all love chili peppers and have exactly the same taste. The husband cooks, the wife praises, and cooperates with tacit understanding. Sun Li said that after eating the food he cooked, she was no longer willing to go outside to the restaurant.
"Frankly, she is an ordinary girl, not maverick, not deliberately ostentatious. She is beautiful, but not dazzling and feminine, nor incomprehensible. In terms of housework, she doesn't cook and isn't good at crafts, although the dishes are superb. ”
In daily life, Sun Li almost never disturbs Huang Lei's work, and Huang Lei will not ask her, leaving enough space for each other.
She loves to play and enjoy, but she doesn't smoke or drink and doesn't like the lively scenes, and when she sees her husband and daughter and three or five friends, she is satisfied...
We have read many novels, and it seems that without experiencing dreamy fairy tales or bumpy love roads, we can't exchange true feelings.
But for Huang Lei, the good life never has to be dramatic, and trivial ordinary is very good.
Kneaded into the chai rice oil and salt, the poetry of the appropriate shade, steady happiness is very good, do not have to live to see anyone.
"Women like my wife, in fact, are not rare, and should belong to the popular type." But in my heart, she only has this one, no refund or exchange. ”
On the 20th anniversary of the marriage, Huang Lei and his wife made up the wedding, compared with the "century wedding" in the entertainment industry, their wedding is still simple and warm. He said it was a party with lovers and children around.
Life has its own true colors, ten fingers are dipped in the spring water of the sun, and now I will make soup for you.
In the eyes of many people, it may not be salty or light, but the day is autumn, winter, spring and summer, eating, drinking and laughing.
No matter how coarse and light the rice is, you can taste a taste called "happiness".
We mistakenly think that this is mediocre, but we don't know that this is real refinement.
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You don't have to be sad, even if you don't know much, or if you don't get anywhere.
You don't have to be in the minority, the ordinary is the best.
Huang Lei's eldest daughter is many, serious and sensible in "Where Daddy Goes 2", and everyone regards her as a model for children's education and regards her as a promising little celebrity.
But in the eyes of his father Huang Lei, Duoduo was just an ordinary girl.
He didn't let Duoduo act, participate in various events, and frequently endorse various brands. The girl still went back to school and made friends with her classmates.
He also rarely cares about Duoduo's academic performance, nor is he willing to send them abroad early like other parents.
Huang Lei had a friend who let the child go abroad to go to high school and held a farewell party, when everyone was in tears, this scene made Huang Lei feel particularly uncomfortable.
"A child's best teacher is his parents, and if he leaves his parents and leaves the family too early, it is easy to have a bad impact on their psychology."
He knew that no matter how sensible and good a child was in front of everyone, he was just a child who longed for care and understanding.
He chooses to accompany him bit by bit in his ordinary life. Duoduo likes to read English books and loves to write English poems by himself, and Huang Lei accompanied Duoduo to translate "Letter from Santa Claus";
Duoduo likes to cook, likes to make cakes and biscuits by herself, and Huang Lei accompanies her, filling her hands and face with cream and flour.
Huang Lei said that his favorite thing is to live a natural, organic and simple life in the suburbs with his family, and he hopes that when his children grow up, they can leave such an impression: dad cooks and stir-fry in the kitchen, mother washes and drys quilts, and the family makes bread and cookies together.
There is no breathless cram school, interest class, no need to be a child star because of his father's aura, Huang Lei accompanies his daughter, let her daughter be the usual child who overturned the flour plate in the kitchen and sprinkled on the mud.
Isn't this a kind of refinement and clarity?
It is not mediocrity, it is not laissez-faire, but it gives life the freedom to choose.
It is the power to let go of perfection, to let go of obsession, to breathe and grow in your life.
Huang Lei once wrote a letter to his daughter "Choose a Favorite Way to Live":
"Hope you can do what you like
Live your life the way you like it
Learning doesn't have to be too good
Learn to slowly appreciate the taste of love
There is no need to strive to be in the minority
Ordinary and simple is good
Because of happiness
It's about choosing a way you like to live."
We have all gone to the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas, yearning for the brilliance, vulgarity, and invincibility in the eyes of the world. But I never thought that life is really exquisite, not afraid of middle-aged blessings, not afraid of kitchen smoke, not afraid of ordinary, it is the love and fullness of the world in the heart, it is the ordinary life, a meal, a smile full of sincerity.
May you also find the plainness and refinement that truly belong to you in the fireworks of the world.
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