When it comes to making new friends, I'm like an idiot now.
Recently, I paid attention to a blogger on Weibo, like what she writes, good at using simple text to create scenes, a few lines of short sentences, it is enough to make the details that usually do not hit the eye wonderful. Later, after paying attention to it for a long time, I found that a former colleague knew her, and through this unexpected coincidence, I got the blogger WeChat.
A long time ago, the non-mainstream trend was a little ahead, QQ was just starting out, as long as the cough sounded, it was equivalent to making a new friend again.
"Are you here?"
This was the most popular greeting of that era, and after adding new people, even introducing themselves with a kind of enthusiasm, I was eager to introduce my father, my mother and my whole family. At that time, there was no such awareness of insecurity, as if everyone was the same, the same eagerness to know people all over the world, the purpose was simple and naïve.
More and more social platforms began to appear, and the friends who had been in online hip-hop began to disappear from the list. Most of the friends around me come from the two kinds of relationships of classmates and colleagues, and when I said this, I went through my friends list again, and I haven't had new friends for a long time.
The more convenient the social platform, the harder it is to make friends.
Someone has analyzed why modern people feel more and more lonely, and one reason is that because the cost of getting a new friend is very high, two strangers who have nothing to do with each other, to enter their own circle of relationships, whether it is the cost of time or social costs, is too high.
After I passed the blogger's friend verification, I seemed to have regained the feeling of hearing qq coughing in my hands, but looking at the dialog box was a little confused, "Hello wow" three words may alleviate the embarrassment at the time, after receiving the reply, my enthusiastic heart was immediately ignited by the double click.
But I kept expressing my enthusiasm like a fool, and looking back at the chat history, I felt embarrassed for myself, and even the funny memes couldn't hide the embarrassment between the lines.
What does that picture look like? Just like two children who just met, I am the stupid child who keeps getting closer because she likes each other, until the adult says well, she knows that you like her, you don't want to get so close to the family, you calm down, otherwise she will be afraid of you.
I was still the little friend who wanted to introduce the whole family to new friends, and my enthusiasm, which had nowhere to go, always inadvertently made the other party erect a barrier.
Later, I saw her chat history with her new friend at @Yamaguchi Aunt and had to fall under her plaid skirt, clumsy and enthusiastic, but I couldn't make friends at all.
Others make friends
Whether it is chatting in the direction of ordinary friends or boyfriends and girlfriends, this is the full score of the answer sheet, and my dialogue that rushes out of the screen is a living negative template.
I make friends
Too blunt like to show after familiarity may be the catalyst for the relationship, but when the two are still in a relationship with WeChat, being too enthusiastic will backfire.
Some people say that it's so hard to make friends now? Yes, it is so difficult, because of the complex proliferation of multiple relationships around them, everyone has a barrier to social interaction, and no one will accept a person entering them so easily.
Whether it is love or friendship, it is never just a matter of feelings, and it is no easier to run a relationship than to find new friends.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Cao Xueqin borrowed Daiyu's mouth and said: Ten thousand gold is easy to get, and it is difficult to find a confidant. Elder Cao must not have imagined that in the 21st century, it would be very difficult for Wan Liang gold and confidant.
I still want others to understand me, even if I don't want to express myself.
Although everyone is an island, most people still want someone to land and make a fire. For example, the writers, those who pour out their emotions, also hope that someone can read the feelings of the author when he writes.
Therefore, Yu Boya will be willing to break the piano, not to mention ancient and modern, but anyone who sees a passage on Weibo that makes him laugh heartily will also share it with the person who will also laugh at the first time.
"Would you like to be my friend?" Children can say things, but adults can't say them.
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Text / Ah Piao
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