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01. Preface
Getting along with each other is like wearing a mask, and no one can see whose true face it is.
Hugo said: "It is the human heart that releases infinite light, and it is the human heart that creates boundless darkness." Light and darkness are intertwined and fighting, and this is the world for which we are attached and helpless. ”
As we walk through the world, we will gradually find that the human heart is the most difficult to guess.
There is a proverb in "Sunny Days": "There are birds in the forest."
In life, everyone has their own careful thoughts. In the process of trial and error, I learned the most suitable way of socializing for myself.
I don't know when, the people around me seem to turn on the "self-protection" mechanism by default, hiding their truest side. Unwilling to be honest with each other anymore, unwilling to communicate easily.
When people live a lifetime, they will always encounter people who have "bad hearts and eyes". People with "bad hearts and eyes" often look good to get along with. However, as long as you are careful, you can still recognize it at a glance.
People with "bad hearts and eyes" often have these characteristics, please keep more eyes.
02, no matter who it is, it is a smiling face
Walking in the world, no one knows what kind of people they will meet.
Dostoevsky said: "A man is forced by the situation, and from time to time he will live peacefully with people he hates." ”
The most terrifying thing in social life is the person who is kind on the surface and fierce behind it. People with unpredictable hearts, good on the surface, but always calculating and planning in their hearts, make people feel that the city government is very deep.
In the crowd, hypocritical people, no matter who they get along with, are smiling faces.
People who get along with people, know their faces but do not know their hearts, and "smiling tigers" often hide knives in their smiles. The "goodwill" shown by him always makes people can't help but be close to him.
However, the "smiling tiger" people are not really kind, but know how to communicate, hide their hearts, and get along with others.
"Hypocritical" people, who get along with people and are the best at "acting", have a smile on everyone, but secretly plot everything in their hearts. It seems to be very easy to get along with, but it is difficult to communicate and it is difficult to share hardships.
03, good to talk, but never take a stand
In the crowd, there is a kind of person who is easy to get along with, very good at talking, but he never takes a stance, which makes people unable to see through. It seems to be easy to talk to, but it is difficult to communicate.
In life, some people will emphasize their own principles, making people feel very strong and not close. In fact, a principled person is very transparent and can make people see clearly what he thinks.
In life, those who are "good" to talk seem to be gentle, but in fact, it is difficult to enter his heart. No matter who you get along with, you never take a stand and like to judge the situation.
People who are good at talking, but do not take a stand, the city government is very deep. They don't easily offend anyone and always look like "good people".
In fact, people who never take a stand are good at hiding their hearts, easy to see the wind and rudder, easy to change their positions, and live a very smooth life.
Getting along with people who are too good at talking and never taking a stand, no matter how good the relationship is, feel that there is a wall between the two sides.
04, never lose his temper, can not see through his heart
A person, whether there is a city government or not, can be seen from his temper.
People who are born in the world and have tempers, but never lose their temper, are often very "powerful".
In the TV series "Sword Line in the Snow", Xu Xiaoren reached middle age, sat in Beiliang, commanded 300,000 iron horses, and the royal family was jealous of him, and repeatedly laid out a plan to get rid of it.
However, Xu Xiao was not impatient, even if there was a seed of hatred in his heart, he was not angry. Gradually, the royal family lost its guard against it.
The more people who know how to control their emotions, the deeper they tend to be, the more people can't see through him. On the contrary, those who have a temper in the crowd will make it easier for people to see clearly and make it easier for others to find ways to get along.
Emotions can show a person's character.
People who like to lose their temper too much can't make deep friends. However, people who have a temper and never lose their temper should not have deep friendships.
People who are too secretive in their temper are thoughtful and good at layout planning. Interacting with him, not only can you not see through him, but you will also feel very tired.
05. Summary
As the saying goes: "The heart of harming others must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without."
In this mixed society, trust between people is not indestructible. Sometimes the people closest to you are often the ones who hurt themselves the most.
Thousands of faces, getting along with people, you need to learn to pay attention to yourself.
Some people, who appear to be kind on the surface, are likely to wear false masks, and the hidden behind them is full of scheming.
Getting along with each other and keeping one more eye is a way to protect yourself.
The world needs kindness, but kindness must also be sharp. Get along with people and don't trust others casually. Seeing people's hearts over time, time will make you see the people around you clearly.
In life, gentlemen and villains coexist.
The human heart is the most unfathomable. We cannot change the way others behave in the world, but we can choose to retain kindness while also retaining a little caution.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychologist, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the Internet, a happy woman manager, who has focused on emotions, gender, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.