Which entertainment show is the most talkative this early summer? I'm afraid it's going to be "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves".
The show invited 30 female artists over the age of 30 to form a girl group, including Yi Nengjing, Zhong Liti, Tranquility, Zhang Yuqi, etc., and the lineup pulled out half of the elderly actresses in the entertainment industry. Many netizens left a message: Why not invite the white lily?
People then remembered that since the "derailment gate" incident a few years ago, white lilies rarely appear in the public eye.
Although after the "cheating door" incident broke out, Bai Lily's ex-husband Chen Yufan came out to refute rumors that the two had long been divorced in a low-key manner, but the pot of "cheating in marriage", Bai Lily was on his back, this impression was like pen water dripping on the white skirt, it was difficult to wash away.
In the entertainment industry, derailment is not uncommon, and the public seems to be very resistant to this matter, and once they find out who has cheated, they will scold. But oddly enough, women cheating at a significantly higher cost than men.
Men may bear a bout of infamy, and when the wind and waves are calm, they can still come back, such as Chen He and Wang Xun, and they can continue to be good men after the limelight has passed, but women may have to ruin their careers for this. Li Xiaolu, Dong Jie, and Ma Rong all seemed to have no chance to turn over.
Still, there are people who are willing to risk losing "money" to cheat.
What is the reason for this?
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As early as 70 years ago, the famous Japanese writer Yukio Mishima wrote a novel called "Hunger and Thirst for Love". The novel tells the story of a woman who has emotional entanglements with her husband, father-in-law, and gardener, but has been repeatedly frustrated and eventually goes crazy.
Etsuko Sugimoto and her husband Ryosuke seem to be right- and right-hand, but in fact, Ryosuke does not love Etsuko. The reason why he married Etsuko was because he saw her solid family situation.
When Etsuko's father dies and Etsuko does not inherit a high inheritance, Ryosuke loses the last bit of patience. He began to openly raise his mistress.
Not long after, Ryosuke died of an infectious disease, and Etsuko's emotions became complicated. She hated her husband, and she was mad with jealousy, but when he died, she didn't even have jealousy, only emptiness.
When her father-in-law Mikichi came to tease her, she was like grasping the straw of life- finally someone could bathe and sleep with her.
In the past, when Ryosuke was alive, there were always various high-sounding reasons for not going home at night, and now, she finally got the company of a man.
Although this unrequited love makes Yuezi ashamed and embarrassed, the physical pleasure makes Yuezi linger for her father-in-law.
Etsuko certainly doesn't love Miki. She hates his aging, so when she meets the young and healthy gardener Sanro, she falls in love.
Saburo is different from the men around Etsuko.
He was a poor hired man, with little culture, but strong and young, full of exuberant vitality, which fascinated Etsuko, who was obsessed with his flesh and his innocent and naïve mind.
In order to please Saburo, the arrogant Etsuko carefully combs various fragrant buns every day, but Saburō of Mune does not buy it at all, and occasionally looks at her bun twice, also out of curiosity.
In his heart, only a simple and clumsy woman like the maid Miyo is cute.
Etsuko is desperate, and she tortures Saburo who he loves, which makes Saburo very troubled, he really does not understand what love is.
This made Etsuko's heart full of torment, but at this time, the relationship between the two was discovered by her father-in-law. In a state of pain and fanaticism, she swung a shovel and killed Saburo.
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If Yukio Mishima wrote the story of eastern women cheating, then Maugham's "Veil" tells the story of Western women's infidelity.
The beautiful older, unmarried young woman Katie always fantasized about marrying a rich man.
When the mediocre sister found a good family to marry, the mother began to accuse Katie Lai of eating and drinking at home.
Katie agreed to the marriage proposal of Walter, an honest bacteriologist.
However, Katie did not love Walter at all. Although Walter was obedient to Katie, he still could not arouse Katie's interest.
Two people who look respectful to each other on the surface are actually like politeness between strangers, and married life is like a pool of stagnant water.
For Walter's work, the couple came to live in Hong Kong, and Katie met Charlie Tangsheng, assistant secretary of hong Kong.
Charlie is handsome and affectionate, and Katie falls in love with him at first sight, and the two hit it off and begin to steal love.
One day, Walter, who suddenly returns home, breaks the two's private affair, but instead of being afraid, Katie claims that she and Charlie are true love, and Charlie will definitely divorce and marry herself.
Walter was in great pain. He saw that Charlie was just playing with Katie, so after calm analysis, he gave Katie two choices: marry Charlie, or go with him to Mae Tam province to quell the cholera epidemic.
Unsurprisingly, Katie followed him to the cholera-stricken area. Walter punished his pampered wife with the fear of death, and took revenge on her without the slightest room for relief.
Death hangs over Mae Tam Province. Katie was so frightened that in order to dispel her fears, she came to the monastery to help, and she was ashamed of the nun's selfless help to the villagers and children, and she began to confess what she had done before, she even gradually forgot about Charlie, and her relationship with Walter seemed to have improved.
However, at this time, Katie found out that she was pregnant, and in the face of Walter's questioning, Katie confessed that she was not sure who the child was.
Walter left the house in anger. A few days later, Katie was informed that Walter had contracted cholera during the experiment and died not long after, without ever forgiving Katie.
Sad, Katie returned to Hong Kong and did not expect to meet Charlie again.
Charlie begs Katie to forgive himself and explains that he did not divorce her because he loved his wife very much, and if he had divorced Katie, he would have ruined his brilliant future.
Katie saw Charlie's face and was very disdainful, she saw through this is a scumbag who is a scumbag who loves vanity and selfishness.
But unable to resist Charlie's forced attack, kissing and hugging, Katie lost to lust again and relived the dream with Charlie.
Afterwards, Katie, who had calmed down, spit herself on herself for a long time, and she quickly packed her bags and left Hong Kong.
Katie returned to London and went home to meet her father, who was about to leave for the Bahamas as chief justice. Katie, who is relaxed, decides to go with her father to that remote and new place and start a new life.
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Comparing the story of two women cheating, we return to the question raised at the beginning: Why do women love cheating?
A survey report shows that in 2010, the cheating rate of married women in China was 40%; and in recent years, the cheating rate of married women has increased significantly and rapidly, netease women's channel launched an anonymous vote, 366 participants, 85.6% said they had cheated experience. Among them, 83.2% of women are physically infidel, while 16.8% of women choose spiritual infidelity.
What is the cause of women's infidelity?
From these two novels, it is not difficult to see that there are two reasons for women cheating in marriage.
On the one hand is the hunger and thirst for love, not getting enough love from the husband.
Sugimoto's derailment is due to sexual dissatisfaction and spiritual emptiness, and she expresses her own "hunger and thirst".
Etsuko loves her husband Ryosuke, but does not receive the same love from Ryosuke. Ryosuke even takes pleasure in provoking Etsuko. He showed off the tie his mistress had given him and placed the photograph of the mistress in the bedroom.
No matter what Etsuko does, she won't get the love she wants.
In a sexual relationship with three men, she simply could not experience her true self and felt the meaning of survival, which led to her mental breakdown and caused her tragedy.
Katie's cheating is because she has no interest in her husband.
Although Walter wanted to please Katie, he only stayed on "thinking" and never took the initiative to implement it.
After he discovered that Katie was cheating, he did not show the kind of anger that a normal couple should have, but said: "People often feel sad and disappointed when they fall in love with someone but do not get it in return, and then become angry and harsh." I'm not like that. ”
It is for this reason that the couple has only polite indifference.
So much so that when Walter died, Katie even felt that she was free from the death that threatened her all the time, and even more free from worthless love, from the obnoxious marriage contract that existed in name only, from the partnership that made people feel cold and depressed, from all spiritual shackles, and obtained spiritual liberation.
On the other hand, there is neglect and oppression from society and family.
Etsuko was born into a famous family, and in order to maintain the reputation of the family, although she suffered both physical and mental torture in her marriage life with Ryosuke, almost distorting her personality, she still had to continue to be patient.
In her secret life with Miji, she carries a moral burden and the gossip of others, which makes her even more disgusted with life.
In the love life with Saburo, she is just a poor unrequited lover, and her ten thousand styles are nothing more than playing the piano to the cow in front of this honest and honest rural teenager, and he simply cannot understand and does not want to understand her subtle, elegant and profound way of showing love.
It can only be said that she has encountered inhuman people in her life.
And Katie's native family contributed to her restless personality.
Her mother was extremely gold-loving and cared deeply about her social status, which established flashy and empty values for Katie.
Katie knows that a mother wants to use her daughters to get what she wants, so there is a gap between her and her mother. She and her sister compete with each other, seeing each other as imaginary enemies, and there is no affection between all the family members, only vanity and comparison.
All this forced her to eagerly enter a failed marriage.
It can be said that Yuezi and Katie represent the real thoughts of most cheating women.
On the one hand, in this era of advocating individual independence and liberation, many statements about morality and self-discipline are increasingly ignored, and people are more concerned about their own hearts. Although this reflects people's respect for the self, behind the flood of desire, there will inevitably be a series of chain reactions.
On the other hand, the shackles of society and family on women's necks make them dare not divorce when faced with boring marriages, and can only secretly look for excitement. However, this is tantamount to setting yourself on fire, and you can only let yourself sink deeper and deeper.
Marriage is not simply love, but the greatest degree of trust and cooperation. The family needs responsibility, and responsibility requires more sense of collaboration between husband and wife. Proceeding only from the happiness of the self, there can never be true emotional peace.