After getting married, Dong Xiaowan washed away the lead and carefully took care of the family's diet and living. When her husband rests at home, she often accompanies her around, accompanies her to talk about the philosophy of life from poetry and song to the outside world; when her husband is busy outside, she must do everything personally and respectfully serve her mother-in-law and mrs. Zhengfang.
Stills of the Boy Tianzi
Perhaps it is because of the kindness of the family and deep sympathy for Dong Xiaowan's origins; but I suspect that it is more because Dong Xiaowan is obedient after entering the door, and the wife and mother who are brave to open the border are very trusting of the gentle and lovely Dong Xiaowan. Trusted to give the stewardship exclusive to the hostess, Dong Xiaowan also gave it to Dong Xiaowan, and Dong Xiaowan did not live up to this trust. Every morning and dusk, I will go to the mother-in-law and the big lady's room to ask for ann service, and after taking care of the family affairs, I will also report one by one. The accounts of the property passed through Xiao Wan's hands were even clearer and more orderly. It can be said that Dong Xiaowan used his sacrifice and dedication in exchange for the recognition of everyone in the impostor family.
And Dong Xiaowan also gained great satisfaction in such recognition. The housekeeping thing is done even harder.
Serving his mother-in-law and wife so carefully, let alone his husband.
If the Ming Dynasty had not perished, Dong Xiaowan might have been able to use such a humble compromise to gain stability in the first life.
But reality often backfires.
At that time, the end of the Ming Dynasty declined, and the situation fell into chaos. He once again showed the idea of abandoning Dong Xiaowan, but the old mother of Mao Pujiang repeatedly insisted that Dong Xiaowan be able to stay. Only from the later encounters, if Dong Xiaowan had left alone, perhaps the final outcome would not have been so tragic.
During the exile, she fell ill three times, and each time she took care of him in vain and pulled him back from the hands of Yama. However, her husband recovered, but her body was hollowed out, and she ran out of oil at a young age, and when she died, she was only 28 years old.
When I saw this, I once had a feeling of hatred for iron and steel. How could Dong Xiaowan, who was born with a pure nature, make himself humble to such a point.
But then I figured it out, rather than saying that Dong Xiaowan was centered around the man who had ventured out of Xinjiang, it was better to say that she had woven a beautiful dream for herself by borrowing this man. The boudoir daughter who grew up in a good family, and in her old age, she was reduced to dust, and even if she made a living by selling laughter, she could not change her previous inherent concept of chastity. Therefore, after encountering the adventurous frontier, she quietly weaved a beautiful dream prototype for herself - she wanted to make up for the loopholes in her life that were "deep in the mud" with the choice of marrying someone; she wanted to realize the ideal of a good wife and mother for the rest of her life to wash away the dirt of her "falling into the wind and dust". This obsession made her indulge in the role of sacrifice and dedication, and each sacrifice was the redemption of the first half of her life, until she exhausted all her energy.
It turns out that the legendary love we thought was a tragic death.
When I understood this, I had some respect for Dong Xiaowan. Her seemingly self-defeating compromise is actually a firm execution after deciding the choice. In this regard, she gives today's women a point worth learning:
We often think that if we want to be married as a wife, we must know how to balance family harmony and workplace prominence in order to achieve happiness. But we often overlook the point that happiness is an inner feeling of a person, it lies only in whether he is happy or not, not in the profit and loss of external factors.
The one-way nature of life is doomed to the irreversibility of choice. And troubles are always born in greed, the workplace beauty has her independence and refinement, and the full-time housewife can also live a wonderful life. Instead of being in a dilemma and struggling, it is better to choose a path like Dong Xiaowan, and firmly go to the end without turning back. As long as you are sure in your heart, it is enough.
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