Lee Kuan Yew, the "Founding Father of Singapore", died five years ago at the age of 91. After half a century in Parliament and more than 30 years as Prime Minister, he led Singapore to become the "Light of Asia" and eventually a global reputation.
He has not only achieved great success in his career, but also has outstanding achievements in the education of his children.
Lee Kuan Yew and his wife Coolidge had three children, and the eldest son, Lee Hsien Loong, was the Cabinet Minister of Trade and Industry. The second son, Lee Hsien Yeung, received the rank of Brigadier General and is chairman of the board of directors of a well-known company in Singapore. Daughter Li Weiling is the director of the National College of Neuroscience and Neuroscience in Singapore.
The impact of homeschooling on everyone is profound. The achievements of Lee Kuan Yew's children also support the success of Lee Kuan Yew's education methods from the side.
As the saying goes: "Cultivate yourself, unite your family, and govern the country and the world."
When everyone pays attention to the success of the founding of the Founding father of Singapore, it is better to study the other side of Lee Kuan Yew's legendary life from how he "cultivated himself and his family".
Lee kuan yew
"Iron Prime Minister"
Lee Kuan Yew, the "Father of the Nation of Singapore", was born into a large family since childhood. He was well tutored and won the first place in the exams of his student days. Second place was the only girl in the boys' school, Coolidge. Lee Kuan Yew gradually developed a secret affection for this fierce academic rival.
Since then, both of them have been admitted to key middle schools with excellent results, and the two people have naturally attracted each other and gradually come together. After that, due to the impact of the war, Lee Kuan Yew was temporarily unable to go to school. He simply started a scalping business, and the money he earned not only subsidized the family, but also bought small gifts for Coolidge from time to time.
After the war, Lee Kuan Yew decided to go to England for further study, during which time he was exposed to many ideological forms and wandered the streets of Europe deeply into the city, allowing him to broaden his horizons with large and small experiences and experiences. Lee Kuan Yew then successfully qualified as a lawyer in Cambridge and found a job as a lawyer.
One day in 1952, Singapore postmen went on strike. Lee Kuan Yew, a lawyer, accepted the postman's commission to speak publicly for them and to have several well-known newspapers report on the oppression of the postmen. In the end, the contradiction between the government and the postman was skillfully resolved, which made Lee Kuan Yew suddenly famous.
It was also from this incident that people saw Lee Kuan Yew's ability, and Lee Kuan Yew also made up his mind to enter politics.
These tortuous experiences enriched Lee Kuan Yew's life experience and tempered his resolute and courageous personality. It laid a solid foundation for him to become an "iron-blooded prime minister" in the future.
It is precisely because of this experience that Lee Kuan Yew has outstanding insights and courage, not only in his own political career, but also in educating his children.
He taught his children never to "follow the rules" or be empirical. Instead, from their own personal experience, they look for ways to get along with their children and guide them.
Communicate with your child and be their mentor
In modern times, there have always been parents who pursue "filial piety under the stick" and regard "tiger father and wolf mother" as a successful education. Whether it is the "eagle dad" who lets his children run in the snow in winter at the age of 4, or the private institutions that discipline students with harsh corporal punishment are highly sought after.
Behind this frenzy is the laziness of parents and the natural desire to control their children, and they do not know that only equal communication with children is the fundamental way to solve the problem.
Lee Kuan Yew, known politically as the "Iron-Blooded Prime Minister," knows this well, and although he is strict with his children, he never fails to communicate with them. Lee Kuan Yew usually has a lot of work and can leave little time for his family. But even so, Lee Kuan Yew still spends time with his family and never neglects to accompany his children.
For example, I always have dinner with my family and often take my children to play golf with me. Especially on festivals such as the Spring Festival, Lee Kuan Yew values the reunion of the family. I believe that we should always give children education about "family affection" and "family". Let them grow up and always be able to help each other with Meimei and each other.
Not spoiled but respectful
Lee Kuan Yew treats children more strictly, and sometimes when a child makes a mistake, Lee Kuan Yew will call him into the house alone. While he was talking to the children, no one was allowed to enter the house and disturb them.
Lee Kuan Yew's daughters and sons have always had good grades, but Lee Kuan Yew doesn't spoil them too much because of their achievements. Instead, it will give them higher expectations and hope that they can continue to work hard to continue to improve. Therefore, Lee Kuan Yew's children are not only always at the top, but even get good grades in A in 10 subjects.
Parents are always prone to over-care for their own "only seedlings", sacrificing everything they have to "pick the moon and pick the stars" for them. Parents holding their children in the palm of their hands in such a way is actually very detrimental to their future development. Children are prone to form excessive dependence on the family and become delicate, which is not conducive to early independence.
Lee Kuan Yew always encouraged their own ideas when educating their children, and from a young age Lee Kuan Yew taught them not to rely too much on their parents in everything. To have your own ideas and opinions, you don't have to think that everything your parents say is right. Don't expect everything to be balanced by parents, telling them that sooner or later they need to deal with problems on their own, so they need to exercise their abilities from an early age.
It can be seen that although Lee Kuan Yew is very strict with his children, at the same time he will not let the children lack love and care. Telling children the truths of the world earlier can give them a clearer and more complete understanding of many things. This has great benefits for their earlier independence.
Mr. and Mrs. Lee Kuan Yew with their children
There is no Santa Claus in the world, only one thing for one thing
"There is no free lunch under the heavens", all young people who enter the society will understand this truth in practice. But Lee Kuan Yew would tell his children this when they were young, giving them the ability to fight for what they wanted early.
In today's materialistic era, parents are always eager to dedicate the best things to their "pearls in the palm of their hands". Even if you save money, you don't let your children lose at the starting line.
When Lee Kuan Yew's eldest son, Lee Hsien Loong, rose from cabinet minister to vice premier, everyone thought that Lee Kuan Yew would let his eldest son succeed him as prime minister. But Lee Kuan Yew flatly denied it, saying: "The job of prime minister is not a private property and cannot be passed on to his son."
As a result, it turned out that Wu Zuodong became the next prime minister.
Lee Kuan Yew's eldest son, Lee Hsien Loong
Lee Kuan Yew's second son, Lee Hsien Yeung
Lee Kuan Yew's daughter - Lee Wai Ling
Lee Kuan Yew always inspires his children to create, to fight, to fight. Instead of sitting back and enjoying the foundation laid by their parents.
Lee Kuan Yew refers to those who blindly "chew up food and send it to the mouths of children" as "Santa Claus". Children can be materially and spiritually satisfied without any labor, just as Santa Claus always selflessly fulfills the wishes of the world. Once a child gets used to it for nothing, he will lose his self-improvement spirit over time.
In an interview with Singapore's English-language Newspaper New Paper, Lee Kuan Yew frankly said:
"One day, children will enter society, whether they will be employed or not, then there will be no more Santa Claus. They have to rely on their labor in exchange for what they want. For their long-term interests, they must understand the principle of exchanging one thing for one thing from now on. ”
Lee Kuan Yew has three sons and daughters
Strict control is not as good as leading by example
Children naturally love to play with self-control is not as good as adults. It's easy to be curious about a lot of things and indulge in something. Many people are afraid that their children will be infected with bad habits, so they will establish many "family laws". They are strictly forbidden to do things that do not meet their expectations. But such "control" is often counterproductive and resistant by children.
The more adults forbid them, the more curious they became. In the end, both sides are often lost, and children are prone to rebellion because they are "grounded" too much. If your wishes are not met, you are prone to form a paranoid personality. Parents, on the other hand, are physically and mentally exhausted in these "guerrilla warfares", believing that it will be difficult for their children to achieve anything after they disobey.
Singapore is a place where the television industry is very developed. The wide variety and richness of TV shows that children can watch is undoubtedly a huge temptation for them.
Lee Kuan Yew was asked if he was worried that his grandchildren would indulge in watching TV. Lee Kuan Yew confessed that he was really worried that watching too much TV would have a bad impact on them, but preaching was better than leading by example. Improve your own quality first and then educate your children.
As a parent, it is best to quit the habit of sitting in front of the TV all day. Only then will they be convinced when they explain to their children the disadvantages of watching TV.
Usually read more books to broaden your horizons, you can also know more things. At the same time, don't forget the principles of communication, and tell them the truth about it so that they can distinguish between right and wrong. Instead of being one-size-fits-all and making decisions for them based on their own knowledge and preferences.
Lee Kuan Yew family photo
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The ancients said: "The family has a gold bucket, not as strong as the child's skill", and it is the ardent hope of every family that their children can have a great future. The family is the first educational place that every child contacts before going to school, and the impact of family education will also accompany the child's life.
As the "Father of Singapore", Lee Kuan Yew has not only made brilliant achievements in governing the country. They also have their own experience in educating their children.
He leads by example and is committed to being a mentor to his children. Communicate with them and lead them to cultivate their own ideas and exercise their abilities, rather than relying on "strike hard" to control their children. It is precisely because of this that Lee Kuan Yew's three children have achieved very high achievements.