Original: Liu Na
Source: Idle Blossoms
I once came to an arbitrary conclusion:
The sign of a boy's growth into a man is not that he has fallen in love with a woman, but that he has finally returned from empty and ethereal idealism to sober and courageous realism.
This conclusion, when I read the story of "Ji Da Pork Brother" Liao Lifeng, has a fuller and more vivid argument:
The sign of a boy's growth into a man is not only that he has transformed from idealism to realism, but also that after he has been slapped by life one by one, he finally covers his swollen and painful face and recognizes himself down-to-earth.
Who is Liao Lifeng?
A graduate of a prestigious university.
A former civil servant with a debt of 2 million.
A humble Takako who threw down his pen, picked up a slaughtering knife, and became a pig killer.
An ordinary man who lets many women see the shadow of her husband and many men see her shortcomings.
His story, you must read it -
Part.1
During this time, the price of pork has been falling, and many pork guys are not having a good time.
Liao Lifeng, 31, is one of them.
Even so, he still got up at two or three o'clock in the morning every day and went to the slaughterhouse to select pigs, kill pigs, and shave hair.
Then, the slaughtered pigs are pulled back to the "Liao Ji Butcher Shop" in a vegetable market in Liuzhou City, the bones are removed, the meat is divided, and the stalls are busy from 6 o'clock in the morning to 11 or 2 o'clock in the night.
If the business is good in the morning, the meat of a whole pig can be sold out smoothly, and Liao Lifeng will take advantage of the lack of customers at noon to run to a slaughterhouse of the guests, kill another pig, and strive to sell it out before closing the stall at night.
In this way, he not only ensures that the meat he stalls is fresher than others, but also doubles his daily income.
For 6 months, Liao Lifeng only slept four or five hours a day.
He didn't feel tired.
Every day, he opened his eyes and supported his belief in getting up, that is, "I hope that today's business is good, and I can quickly pay off the 2 million account."
Liao Lifeng and his pork stall
What you can't imagine is that this self-employed person standing in the wet market, shouting and selling pork, was not long ago a civil servant of the Industrial and Commercial Bureau who was in charge of self-employed households.
What you can't imagine is that his hands, which are now stained with lard and pig's blood, have also knocked on the doors of 985 schools, held a pen in his hand, and written a legal paper.
What is the inexhaustible story behind this?
Part.2
It is impossible to write a man's story without writing about his family of origin.
The original family does not bear all the fate of a person, but it can interpret some of the blessings and misfortunes of life from a perspective.
Liao Lifeng was born in rural Liuzhou.
He was the fifth child in the family – he had 4 older sisters on top of him, and his parents wanted a boy until he was born.
Because Liao Lifeng is an old man and a son, from elementary school to junior high school, he was fostered by his parents to the home of his uncles and aunts in Liuzhou City in order to receive a better education.
His uncle and aunt were very good to Liao Lifeng, but the experience of sending people under the fence still made him feel inferior.
"My family is poor, I don't have any friends, and I envy others to have parents to pick me up after school, and I can only carry my school bag to take the bus alone."
Because he was too homesick, in high school, Liao Lifeng resolutely returned to his hometown county.
When he took the college entrance examination in the first year, he did not do well.
After a year of re-study, he was admitted to the Law Department of Jilin University with very good results.
After receiving the acceptance letter, the parents closed their mouths with joy.
Liao Lifeng, the noble son of the Hanmen, became the "child of others" in the entire village.
Liao Lifeng's acceptance letter for that year
In 2015, after graduating from university, Liao Lifeng's classmates went to graduate school, became lawyers, and became judges.
Liao Lifeng has not been able to settle down.
He interned in a bank, started a business, and interviewed for a planning position in a well-known state-owned enterprise.
But when he heard that the other party wanted him to run sales, he refused on the spot: "Since you can't do planning, you just don't do it." Now that I think about it, I regret it. ”
After repeated setbacks in finding a job, Liao Lifeng returned to his hometown in Liuzhou and saw that his sister was preparing for the civil service examination.
As a result, he was admitted to the exam.
In this way, in 2016, he became a clerk in the Liuzhou Administration for Industry and Commerce.
In handling cases in the economic supervision detachment, it is mainly responsible for grasping industrial and commercial violations.
And his law major is also comparable.
Knowing that his son had become a person who "ate public food", Father Liao, who had searched all his life, was very happy, and he lit up the lights and feasted on the guests to inform the world.
If there is no such thing as what happened later, then Liao Lifeng's life will go on peacefully within the system, not necessarily rich and noble, but also a leader, guangzong yaozu.
The cruelty of reality is that:
When there is a fault in your status and cognition, and you do not know it, the fault will be widened day and night unconsciously, until it becomes a chasm, and when you fall into it—
Part.3
A man must fall into the pit at least 10 times in his life to see through the world and people's hearts.
Of these 10 times, 9 of them are related to too much face and too good friends.
Liao Lifeng is no exception.
He went to college, was admitted to the civil service, and became a "child of contention" in the mouths of the villagers, but looking back at his life for more than 20 years, it is not difficult for us to see such a truth:
He was born in the cold door and was a peasant child, but he was favored by his parents and sisters since childhood, and was the best protected child in the family.
He had a smooth life and did not suffer too many tribulations.
This left him with a lack of understanding of human nature and the world, and blindly confident that the world was working according to his will.
Not only him, but many boys who have grown up similarly to him, this is the case.
And sooner or later they have to accept the beatings of reality.
This beating is sometimes a physical pain, sometimes a loss of money, sometimes a reshaping of the soul.
After Liao Lifeng was admitted to the civil service, a friend of his who made second-hand cars said that he wanted to expand the scale of the store, asked him to borrow money to invest, and promised him attractive interest.
In the face of the righteousness of his friends and the temptation of money, this civil servant who studied, understood, and enforced the law was deeply deceived, believed it to be true, and regardless of the risk, lent out more than 800,000 yuan at once.
More than 800,000 ah.
Of these, more than 400,000 were borrowed by him from banks.
What's more, after the friend borrowed money from Liao Lifeng, he did not expand the physical storefront, but put it in the online loan company - in fact, the illegal investment company - to eat high interest.
Later, the state cracked down hard, investment companies across the country exploded one after another, friends absconded with money, and Liao Lifeng's money was adrift.
This slap of more than 800,000 hit Liao Lifeng's face, which should have been very painful.
But I analyze:
Liao Lifeng is the son of his parents and a civil servant in the system.
After his parents heard the news that he had been deceived, the first thing they thought of was not to teach him to reflect, but how to make up for this big hole and not let his son lose his public office.
So, his parents sold the house and gave it to him to pay off the bank's debts.
After Liao Lifeng repaid some of his debts, he wanted to take shortcuts to make more money, so he listened to the rhetoric of real estate sales and borrowed money to buy two apartments.
Property sales are crazy:
The apartment is of a lease nature, after buying it, you can rent it to the hotel immediately, you can collect the rent, the rent and the mortgage are the same, and there is no need to worry about the monthly payment.
When Liao Lifeng heard this, he felt that this was a good way to make money, so he bought two apartments at a price twice the market price.
As a result, until now, the hotel has not been opened, and his house has not been rented out.
Not only did he have to pay off more than 10,000 mortgages a month, but he also owed more than 1 million foreign debts.
In this way, Liao Lifeng, a civil servant, became a poor ghost carrying more than 2 million yuan of debts.
This time, his parents couldn't give him a bottom.
"The two thunderstorms have left me with more than 2 million debts and more than a dozen debt collection calls every day."
Liao Lifeng said that his salary as a civil servant for a month was 3,200 yuan, and there was a bonus of 18,000 yuan at the end of the year.
If you rely on wages to pay off debts, it will take more than 30 years to pay off without eating or drinking.
His parents are old, his sisters have become a family, and he is married and married, and he cannot and can no longer count on others.
The big boy who was forced into a desperate situation decided to quit his job and start a business after tossing and turning and sleeping all night.
In my personal analysis, the reason why Liao Lifeng resigned, on the one hand, is a huge debt hole, forcing him to find a way.
On the other hand, the inner war makes him faceless to continue to stay in the system, and he is afraid that the anger of the creditors will bring trouble to the unit.
To my surprise, when I decided to resign, Liao Lifeng made a very dangerous move -
Part.4
Harsh words are good to say, cruel people are not good.
It's easy to quit, but it's hard to find a way out.
As a person who also resigned from the system, when I saw Liao Lifeng resign from the Industrial and Commercial Bureau, but I didn't know what I was going to do next, I was really shocked:
The courage to break the boat is commendable, but the wisdom of finding a boat is king.
Resignation has never been a matter of patting your head, but a brave attempt to think of N kinds of life-saving solutions.
After resigning, Liao Lifeng, who did not know what to do, worked as a travel anchor, sold snail powder, and did live broadcasting, but as a result, he just started to start, he encountered the epidemic, and all plans were stranded.
He became the family's squat firewood, and he was also carrying more than 2 million debts.
At this time, his pregnant wife gave birth to a child waiting to be fed.
He became the head of a family of three.
In the face of debt and pressure, is it to continue to evade and cowardice, three days to fish and two days to dry the net?
Or do you let go of your dreams and delusions, put down your body and face, and make money down-to-earth?
After thinking about it, Liao Lifeng chose the latter.
This peasant boy, who has been too well protected since childhood, did not lose the true color of the low-level children to suffer after all:
"Man, always have to survive." How much is face worth? ”
In March this year, under the guidance of a friend who cooked fast food, Liao Lifeng decided to kill pigs and sell meat.
"Killing pigs, the cost is the smallest, the money is the fastest."
When it is good, you can earn a thousand and eight hundred a day, and when you are bad, you can earn hundreds. ”
In order to make money, Liao Lifeng, who was bleeding, overcame his psychological fear and went to the slaughterhouse.
"At the beginning, when I saw pigs slaughtered in the slaughterhouse, a knife down, the blood flowed, the rows of pigs were hanging, the blood was flowing all over the ground, I would have palpitations and my head would break out in a cold sweat."
But thinking about the debts of more than 2 million yuan on his body, and thinking about the wife and children who depend on him at home, Liao Lifeng decided to put on a waterproof jacket and become a pig killer.
In the beginning, shaving a pig, he took more than an hour, now, he only needs 15 minutes.
At first, he was afraid to say hello to customers, and he was more afraid of meeting former friends and acquaintances, but now, he lit up his voice to sell pork.
At first, he couldn't afford to spin more than 10 hours a day, but now, he gets up at two or three o'clock in the morning every day and closes the stall late every night.
After experiencing physical and psychological suffering, he began to accept his current situation and the industry he was engaged in.
He even released his classmates and friends in the circle of friends, who were originally shielded, from a small dark room, and shared with them some photos and videos of his pork sales.
He has engaged in self-media and made small videos, and now these skills help him make the pork beautiful, seductive and not bloody.
He finally understood:
There is no road in vain in life, and every step you take counts.
Of course, there are many people who can't understand him —
Part.5
The first to judge Liao Lifeng were the parents who gave him the most.
"I already know how to sell pork, what college I still want to go to, and I can finish junior high school." Father scolded him.
It is conceivable that a peasant father who regards the glory of his son as the greatest pride in his life is so lost and sad in his heart after hearing the news that his son resigned from the iron rice bowl to kill pigs.
Liao Lifeng could only comfort his father: "There is a way to sell meat in college when you go to college. ”
After hearing that he went to sell pork, the father and fellow villager who used to follow his example and educate his children accused him in confusion that he could not justify himself: "Quitting a civil servant and running to sell pork must be a brain failure." ”
What they don't know is that a peasant boy, from the countryside to the city, from the era of farming and rural China, to the era of change in which the Internet grows barbarically and capital is chaotic, is destined to suffer some ravages and hangings, in order to find a new self in the broken bones.
He either betrays the ideas of the past or betrays the goodness of his heart.
Liao Lifeng chose the former.
He lost his money and dignity, but he retained kindness and bravery.
He did not become an old man, did not abandon the law he had studied, did not abandon the morality he upheld.
Instead, it is to make money steadily, to pay off debts one by one.
He had been deceived, he had committed adultery, and he was still in debt.
But he didn't run, he didn't collapse, and he didn't get bad.
He grew from a boy to a man, from escapist idealism to solid realism, and in an awkward gesture that seemed to be extremely rapid decline, he completed a soft landing on the spiritual level of a man from the bottom.
As he himself said:
"I once dreamed of fighting a sword to go to the end of the world, but I never wanted to carry a pig-killing knife."
Carrying a pig-killing knife is also very good.
Because together, there is also a man's responsibility to return to the truth of life -
Part.6
Some people compare Liao Lifeng with Lu Buxuan, the "butcher of Peking University", but Liao Lifeng does not agree:
"We are different, Lu Buxuan is active to become a butcher, and I am passive. But I believe I can do it well. ”
Today, I write Liao Lifeng's story, of course, not to see his jokes.
As an author who has heard many life stories, I see the shadow of many male compatriots in him.
As human beings, we can't never step on the pits, but some pits could have been avoided.
The transformation from boy to man is to shed several layers of skin, but not every time, it hurts flesh and blood.
The unprincipled buddy righteousness is a precursor to self-destruction.
In the jianghu of men, there can be no women, but they cannot be friends.
It's just that how many men, in order to help so-called friends, end up putting their own half-lives.
To help friends, we must divide things, we must look at people, we must do what we can, we must ask for a clear way, we must put risks ahead, we must make a good plan, and we must leave a good retreat.
Liao Lifeng's tragedy gave a sobering dose to those men who didn't care whether their wives and children were alive or dead, but had to help their friends:
The righteousness of the jianghu without principles is actually stupid.
●Practical dedication and long-term love are a person's most valuable assets.
When I read Liao Lifeng's story, my deepest feeling was that before selling pork, he was actually a person who was afraid of hardship and always wanted to take shortcuts.
He graduated in all these years and did a lot of work, and none of them lasted long, including civil servants.
Although he is a child of a poor family, he is the son of a rich man, so he does not have super endurance and willpower.
Until more than 2 million debts fell from the sky, he was busy day and night, picking up a pig-killing knife, cutting not only the pork for a living on the board, but also the cowardice that always wanted others to give him a bottom.
When I watched Liao Lifeng's interview, he said something like this:
"I don't think there's anything humiliating about selling pork, what's really humiliating is that I gave up halfway through the process."
I think this sentence is his encouragement to himself:
Even more terrifying than being a butcher is a coward who has been a shrunken-headed turtle all his life.
● Impulsive idealism eventually returns to rational realism.
2021 is the year when everyone has to tighten their belts.
Don't do anything more to make a fortune dream, an entrepreneurial dream, an investment dream.
Don't let your family drink the northwest wind with you in the name of idealism for the so-called obsession in your heart.
When Luo Yonghao, the representative of the rationalists, goes to live broadcasts, goes on variety shows, advertises, and makes money to pay off debts, more male compatriots should put away their pretense and lies and become down-to-earth workers.
Idealism, first of all, to solve their own survival, to settle their loved ones and those who love themselves.
Otherwise, it's a crazy one.
Finally, with the help of a sentence in "Gone with the Wind", I would like to give it to all the male compatriots who always want to get rich:
Land is the only thing in the world worth working for, worth fighting for, worth dying for.
Because it’s the only thing that lasts.
The land is the only thing in the world worth your work, your fight, your sacrifice for, because it is the only eternal thing.
Land, allegorical to reality.
It means to be down-to-earth.
It symbolizes the reality and steaming happiness at your fingertips.
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Idle Blossom (ID: xsha369): The author Liu Na, an old girl after 80, a psychological counselor, an emotional columnist, an original explosive writer, can write family love stories, will write parent-child education hotspots, and is called by readers as "a middle-aged woman who can be literary and rational, and a stupid girl who dares to be tender and dies". The picture in this article comes from the network.