As the old saying goes: It's easier said to fall in love than to be hard at each other. Indeed, many couples have experienced twists and turns in their feelings and eventually returned to calm. The wind and waves did not separate them, but the real-life chai rice oil and salt smoothed out all the edges and corners.
Many people do not understand that love is perseverance, thinking that love is to be unforgettable, and life is to seek excitement.
But the feelings between people are not pure things, they are mixed with money, desire... When love fades, the cattiness in it will surface. Even if the love is full, it is necessary to take care of it carefully and operate it with heart.
Life can not always start over, whether it is a couple or a couple, if these three phenomena appear in the relationship, we must be careful!
Lose patience
No relationship disappears for no reason, and love has already had its signs before it dissipates.
Marriage is the bonding of two unrelated people in the name of love. When life wears away all love, are you still willing to accommodate your partner?
Life is not like a fairy tale ending, and finally the prince and princess live happily together. Most ordinary people's marriages are three meals a day, all seasons of the year, life, and work.
In real life, many couples have reached a bottleneck period. In the eyes of the other party, you, who were once lovely, became a yellow-faced woman; you, who were once handsome, became a greasy man.
God cannot create 100% the right partner for you. Feelings are never a tug-of-war between the two sides.
When you are no longer willing to compromise with each other, unwilling to endure each other any longer, it is the beginning of brokenness.
You always want him to listen to me, but he blames you for interfering in his life and no longer loving him as much as before.
You ask why you no longer respect my ideas.
When love turns to tearing, when all patience has been exhausted, the feelings gradually fade.
Over-reliance
Some people think that partners should be intimate with each other. Many women return to the family wholeheartedly after marriage, rely on their finances and ideas on their husbands, and gradually lose themselves.
Some time ago, the news of "full-time wife divorced and got 10,000 yuan of labor compensation" occupied the hot search page, after establishing a marriage relationship, one of them only relied on the other party's sentence "I raise you", willing to give up work for TA, wash and cook, and take care of children. You are financially timid, and when your marital relationship goes wrong, the promise of "I raise you" has become the accusation of "I raised you".
In today's society, there are far more full-time wives than full-time gentlemen. So I suggest that all women must have their own careers and realize how important it is to have their own businesses. We have seen couples break up, children are not filial, brothers look at each other, but rarely see work betrayal.
With your own career, you have work goals and economic resources. There is always a part of your life that lives for yourself, and you don't have to surround your children and partner with three meals a day. When we have independent economic resources and are wronged, money will always be our confidence.
In addition to being economically independent, we must also be independent in life.
No one but yourself can accompany you forever, your parents may leave one step ahead of you, your lover may be distracted, and your children will have their own families. Life always has to go on, and when everyone leaves you, you also have to have the ability to live alone.
Bottomless love
Bottomless indulgence of partners is also the reason for the weakening of feelings.
Love that cannot be retained is not the only fulcrum of happiness, and loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.
Eason Chan sang in the song: What is not obtained is always in turmoil, and those who are favored have no fear.
The more you favor them and make them the center of your world, the easier it is for you to lose them. Just like the sand in your hand, the tighter you hold, the faster it loses.
In addition to love, there are many things to cherish in life. When you love ta without a bottom line, your world is left with only ta. And ta's world has parents, friends, jobs, games, entertainment...
The balance of love tilts, can you still go to the end?
A bottomless love, a bottomless splurge. When one party takes the other party's efforts for granted, it will slowly extinguish the flame of love in his heart.
To explain love in economics, it is the process of mutual transactions between two parties, bottomless connivance is sunk costs, and your efforts are not helpful to you.
The greatest love is that I love you, but I love myself even more.
If no one loves you, you must love yourself
Whether a relationship is long-lasting and whether a marriage is stable is not something that can be solved by one person's efforts.
Everyone has edges and corners, and we are not naturally compatible lovers.
If you love spicy, you cater to ta who don't like to eat spicy, and you who are timid are willing to be a haven for TA. But a human pandering is always exhausting. They all want to shelter from the wind, who will be the port? Marriage is when two people respect each other and be considerate of each other.
Life is short, and every relationship must be cherished. But love is not everyone's pursuit, there is no feeling, we must also respect ourselves, do not casually enter the marriage. Marriage doesn't have to be the destination of love, but it must be a choice you're willing to make. Hopefully, when you make a choice, allow yourself to regret it and allow yourself one more chance. There is no shame in leaving, shame on not having the courage and ability to leave.
Remember that if no one comes to love you, you must love yourself better.