No worries, on the last Friday before the Spring Festival in 2022, China's most famous stars CP Huang Xiaoming and Yang Ying finally publicly announced their divorce, just seven years after their grand wedding of the century.
Because two or three years ago began to spread that they have divorced, the sweetest thing in this sweet and particularly short marriage is only the wedding on October 8, 2015, which is still fresh in people's minds, for no reason, because it is extremely grand, extremely prosperous, and a grand wedding is held at the Shanghai Exhibition Center, a landmark building in Shanghai, and almost the entire entertainment circle is present to congratulate, which is called the wedding of the century of internal entertainment.
▲ A wedding can also witness the ups and downs of several relationships in the entertainment industry, which should be recorded in the annals of entertainment history.
Seven years after the blossoming flowers and the fiery cooking oil, the story finally ended on January 28, 2022, and the two officially announced their divorce.
Having said the acquaintance and end of this pair, let's talk about another timeline.
A year before the marriage of the master and baby, on January 8, 2014, Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei got married in Bali.
▲ Xiao Glutinous Rice is Yang Mi's daughter, baby and the son of the Sect Leader is called Xiao Sponge, which is not only the melon eating masses, but even the acquaintances around the baby are often mistaken.
Rather, there is a certain commonality behind the marriage and divorce of the double Yang sisters.
2021 is known as the divorce year of the entertainment industry, and we have also written about the divorce of many celebrity couples. But there is no pair like the Yang sisters, and there is a hidden capital script behind the end of the marriage, which quickly loses the taste of the entire marriage under the wrapping of capital.
It can be said that the Double Yang Sisters Flower has created a new female star divorce template. It is also a question of how women after entering the world of capital re-examine intimate relationships.
Let's first briefly talk about several divorce patterns common to female celebrities at present.
Divorce model one: it is difficult to tolerate the old-fashioned big man.
In the general divorce template, the enterprising woman is not willing to endure the tedious life of a housewife, and we can understand the anger and separation from the traditional husband.
Divorce mode two: Personality incompatibility leads to appearance and separation.
Married life is also like a boiled frog in warm water. Many marriages do not happen big, and they die out in a bland way. Like last year's "Li Xiang" divorce, the Japanese media even emphasized in the headline that the reason for the divorce was "the end of parenting".
In real life, many seemingly inseparable couples are forced to live together because they want to raise children together, because they can't stand each other, and they will indeed agree to choose divorce when their children grow up.
Living with people you don't like is a kind of torture, in fact, if couples do not succeed in transforming their passionate relationship into mutually appreciative affection or friendship in the process of long-term relationships, they will slowly become strangers and even hate each other.
Divorce model three: strong women and weak men are full of disgust.
Or the pace between the two sides is too big, which is also a factor of instability.
Like Li Xiang and Wang Yuelun, the woman has been progressing, and the man has completely laid flat so that the marriage can no longer continue.
The most interesting detail was that when buying benefits for fans, Li Xiang would deliberately make Wang Yuelun ugly and let him swipe his card to pay money, but Wang Yuelun had money, his face was embarrassed, and he had to snort and say that my money was not all in your place.
But the divorce pattern of the double Yang sisters does not seem to be in the above common general divorce situations.
You said that the male protagonist outside the female protagonist, not willing to spend on childcare trivial matters, they have been fighting for careers. Baby even made a comeback three days after giving birth, creating a comeback miracle in the entertainment industry.
▲In comparison, Yang Mi, who appeared at Milan Fashion Week in the second half of the year after childbirth, is slightly normal, but he can also be called a desperate third wife. Source: Sina Entertainment
You said that the ordinary life of the boiled frog made them choose to end their married life, and their married life was not as good as the marriage of the old husband and wife to the "LiXiang" for more than twenty years.
If you want to be fresh, you can still have it with one effort.
And the most important thing is that the career development of the two sides is not synchronized, and the gap is not large enough to fall out of a class. Yang Ying and Huang Xiaoming's general careers are still synchronized, and the female strength and male weakness of Yang Mi and Liu Kaiwei in the later period are not the strong female and male weak of Li Xiang wang Yuelun.
If you want to talk about the details, as early as three years ago, Huang Xiaoming was involved in the crisis of stocks and Changsheng Pharmaceutical, when the news of the "fake divorce" came out, which also showed Huang Xiaoming's heart of loving his wife and protecting his children.
But after that, the state of the two people entered into uncertainty.
▲ Another signal is that on January 6, 2021, Yang Ying's sudden tough attitude made Huang Xiaoming respond to the rumor that she was "little three on the throne".
With the same is the same 85 flowers xiao Zhao divorce is also not the same, xiao Zhao and Feng Shaofeng marriage and divorce have not left any decent love evidence to the melon eating masses, that kind of spark of passion between men and women everyone did not appreciate, feel that Xiao Zhao and Feng Shaofeng are married at the age of marriage, handsome men and beautiful women, but after marriage found that there is a lack of common topics, not a type of people to break up peacefully. (We've written about this, which we'll review here.) ）
The Shuangyang sisters are much more unrestrained than Xiao Zhao, and their love has left many traces of love for the melon-eating masses. Outsiders look at the greasy crooked, and the parties are completely immersed in the love game between the two if there is no one around.
▲ Public eyebrows come and go
Yang Mi and her "Uncle Liu" also did not shy away from sprinkling sugar on Weibo.
In fact, Shuang Yang's marriage could have been very strong, when they got married, Liu Kai was 40 and Huang Xiaoming was 38, both of whom had reached the age when a man was extremely eager for family life, which was why they were anxious to have children as soon as they got married.
At that time, Yang Mi and Big Baby, who had 85 flowers, were still in the rising period of their careers, and they were still one breath away from becoming a first-line big flower Dan, and they were all at the most tired time of their careers. When people are tired, they often desperately crave a sweet and stable relationship to let themselves breathe.
▲ Go to search for Yang Mi's Weibo "tired", you can find that Yang Mi shouted tired most concentrated time is 10-11 years before the acquaintance with Liu Kaiwei. "Only when I am most tired will I think about the person who is most afraid to think" Can be seen that Yang Mi at this time is eager for a relationship to support her in the hard and busy work.
If nothing else, in the case that both parties want to settle down, such a combination can often manage a long-term marriage relationship in life. But there was this accident.
This accident is called the capital downfall.
When Shuang Yang got married, 14 or 15 years, just in time for the capital circle to pour into the entertainment market. In 2015, Yang Mi founded Jiaxing Media, accounting for 7.125% of the shares; it was also the same year that a private equity fund called AB Capital was established.
Do not underestimate this action, the emergence of Jiaxing Media and AB Capital marks the ambition of female stars from becoming an industry leader in the Four Dan Double Ice Period to becoming capital itself.
We all know that the head stars earn a lot, but there are not many people who really plan themselves to become capital behind their backs, one is because the artists themselves have a low level of culture, poor financial management ability, and are not good at the so-called capital vertical and horizontal, and the second is that the artists are also busy, no time, it is easy to be deceived, it is better to honestly earn some old money.
Therefore, most of the head artists and 85 flowers are still honestly signing the company, being a high-paid migrant worker, like Ren Dahua said, "We don't manage money and don't do business, we buy bricks (houses) as soon as we have money."
But the smartest girls in the new generation of artists, they have more vision, more pattern, more confident or more ambitious, Yang Mi and Yang Ying when the capital enters the entertainment circle is not to earn this salary, but to think about whether they can also be promoted to capital, boss, become the invisible force that truly controls their own destiny.
This is a hidden script that we often overlooked at the beginning of their marriage. And this hidden capital script has invisibly changed the original assumptions of female stars about marriage.
So let's talk about the magical 2015 that affected the marriage of Shuangyang. What happened that year.
In 2015, less than a year after Yang Mi got married, she and her original broker established Tibet Jiaxing Sifang Investment Management Partnership, and purchased shares of Xi'an Tongda for backdoor listing.
▲ Zeng Jia and Zhao Ruoyao are both Yang Mi's agents, in the original Tibet Jiaxing, Zeng Jia accounted for 56%, Zhao Ruoyao 25% and Yang Mi 19%.
Subsequently, Zeng Jia found his friend Li Juan to help Jia Hang operate capital. Juan Li has 10 years of experience at PwC. Jiaxing Media launched the first round of financing after the backdoor listing, and Shangshi Pictures signed a 310 million VAM agreement. In 2017, "Three Lives and Three Worlds and Ten Miles of Peach Blossoms" was broadcast and the bet was exceeded.
▲ Source; 21st Century Business Herald
In the past two years, the valuation of Jiaxing has gone from 25 million to 5 billion, which is exchanged for Yang Mi's high-intensity work and high-pressure environment. In 2015, 310 million bets were signed, and only 208 million were completed by 2016, which means that Yang Mi will complete the remaining 100 million target in the first few months of 2017. If there is no timely explosion drama "Three Lives AND THREE" in 2017, Yang Mi will basically fail to gamble and bear huge debts.
Thinking about Yang Mi's boldness is also quite big, because capital is so cruel, all people who approach it will realize that this is a dragon with huge energy, once you approach it, if you can't ride the dragon, you will be swallowed up by the dragon.
▲ Even if Yang Mi and Jia Xing desperately take over the endorsement and receive ancient puppet dramas, in 2018, with the cold winter of film and television and the ebb and flow of capital, Jia Xing had to face the situation of delisting from the New Third Board. The world of capital, from the cloud to the mud, is often a matter of moments. So the capital players in the capital crocodile pool have to run forward 24/7 without end. Once you enter the world of capital, it is difficult for capital players to really stop.
Yang Ying's capital road is very hidden.
In recent years, there has been a very famous private equity fund called AB Capital. The financial industry believes that AB Capital's investment in juice, racing, and beauty are relatively collapsed, but the more successful is that it has invested in Taiyang Chuanhe, which has an Internet celebrity business, and is also the old owner of AB.
▲Part of AB Capital's investment sector
Of course, whether Yang Ying holds AB Capital is also a question. More common perception is that Yang Ying holds the fund through an intermediary.
Also in 2015, AB Capital Private Equity Fund was established.
▲Baby and mother Dong Juying profile photo
According to the above information, if the baby and Dong Wenying have a shareholding relationship on behalf of each other, then the baby is likely to have been promoted to capital through ab capital, a private equity fund.
Why take the time to talk about the capital advancement of Shuangyang. We need to note two things:
First, the time when Yang Mi and Yang Ying entered marriage and the time when they embarked on the road of capital completely coincided, both from 2014 to 2015.
Second, on the way to becoming capital, the portrait is mounted on a rocket, chased by time, with huge pressure hanging over the head, and at the same time, when facing the huge myth of wealth creation, people's mentality will have a more extreme peak experience.
Miss Huang wrote about this state in her novel First Class:
The time of day is accurate to the minute.
"Xiaofeng, you must come out before three o'clock in this manuscript today, otherwise the customer will hunt me down..." Shanbao threatened Li Xiaofeng online.
"Lulu, get out of the line within ten minutes, or I'll jump off the building," Li Xiaofeng threatened Lulu Zhong.
Therefore, everyone is like tied to a chariot with a burning ass, and when the monster is killed, the Buddha is killed, the Buddha is violently moving forward, every day is like a long battle, and every day after the review, it is already one or two o'clock in the morning when the bed is over.
The next day it was the same again, fighting! fight! fight!
The peak experience is a term coined by psychologist Maslow:
It refers to the short, open-minded, and blissful experience that people feel when they reach self-realization in the process of pursuing self-realization, and it is a satisfaction and perfect experience that tends to the peak, transcends time and space, and transcends self.
Many peak moments are the infinite explosion of human potential under extreme stress, and the person in the peak experience usually feels that she is at the peak of her own strength, she will feel that she is smarter, more sharp, more witty, more strong, more personable than ever before, with a highest competitive state, she has become more relaxed and free, and she is more relaxed.
She will feel more truly that she is the first mover, that she decides everything for herself, and that she is no longer the weak who is led, decided, dominated, powerless, twilight, and able to wait for the rabbit. He feels that he is the master of himself, he is the master of his own destiny, he fully appreciates his "free will", he feels that he has a heavy responsibility on his shoulders, and he also feels that he is full of confidence and indestructible...
To take the most typical example, concerts often bring the biggest peak experience of stars, the cheers of fans, tens of thousands of people become one under the domination of your power, under the adrenaline rush, you feel that you can do everything, which is the peak experience of human beings that ordinary people cannot have, which is why celebrities are addicted to so-called concerts and acting.
Who can refuse the peak human experience?
The same capital market of the waves of a thousand gold, human start stress mechanism, adrenaline hormone surge, once successful there is also a feeling of fluttering, capital players and stars such as people with high life energy after feeling the peak experience, can no longer forget it, this we mentioned when writing Wang Feng and Zhang Ziyi.
When a person has both the identity of a capital player and a female star, her dependence on the "peak experience" will be higher than if she only became a female star.
Because the skyrocketing and plummeting of the huge wealth figure of capital is more adrenaline-pumping than any other way. Therefore, female stars who have experienced the capital game will hope to bring stronger stimulation to themselves in an intimate relationship in order to maintain normal hormone levels of capital, just like Zhang Ziyi chooses the prodigal son Wang Feng in everyone's eyes.
But unfortunately, male celebrities who have entered middle age often yearn for a stable wife and child hot life. Inability to cooperate with the partner to give a high emotional life of excitement and passion.
▲ A common phenomenon in the entertainment industry is that male celebrities enter middle age and marry young girls after they start a home life with a baby. In reality, men after the age of 40 often yearn for the warm life of small families more than women.
▲ Huang Xiaoming also likes to live a lively small family life, returning to his hometown for dinner, and the background wall of the home is full of wedding photos with baby and paintings of his son Sponge.
In fact, it only needs to be given appropriate cooperation by men during the sensitive time when women become capital players. After the "peak experience" of capital in those years, the demand for high-intensity body hormone levels by capital players will return to normal, and life will return to calm. But it is often such a run-in moment that it is difficult for both sides to cooperate well.
Because one party still holds the traditional "man needs to protect the woman" and other marriage ideas, it is difficult to give a wife who has experienced the game of capital the new intimate relationship experience that she wants.
Men are almost stereotyped, while women are still growing. So we can see in some clues that Yang Ying and Huang Xiaoming quietly changed in the mode of intimate relationship, this change, the audience can see, presumably Huang Xiaoming in it has a more personal experience. (We have written about Yang Ying and Huang Xiaoming's articles before: ripping off white ||.) Huang Xiaoming & Angelababy: How far can the bully and the little wife go in reality? ）
Yes, the early Yang Ying was weak, and Huang Xiaoming was dominant.
Huang's evaluation of Yang Ying was still in his ears: "When I met her, she was indeed beautiful, but I didn't like her because she was beautiful, because she was very simple and kind... I was at the top of everything and she was nothing. ”
"I don't like people who are better than me, I'm macho".
Yang Ying loves to bully, loves to be a fan, go swimming together, she follows step by step in the back, Huang Xiaoming sits down, she is responsible for helping him get a bath towel.
The paparazzi took this picture, which showed that she was suspected of being reprimanded by Huang Xiaoming at the airport:
As well as some media reports, he was trained by Huang Dad to almost burst into tears at the party:
In the first film "A Matter of Wind and Snow" in which the two people cooperated, Huang Xiaoming, as an old predecessor of the film and television industry, seemed to open up the perspective of God and became Yang Ying's life mentor and acting mentor.
Yang Ying obediently listened to the side, saying that Huang Xiaoming was her role model.
Interestingly, only three or four years later, her evaluation of Huang Xiaoming's acting skills in the interview became "I don't watch his plays much", yes, a new idol who already has hundreds of millions of fans on variety shows obviously has no possibility of looking up to middle-aged men.
And Huang Xiaoming's self under the personality of an old and good man was also slowly revealed, and in the Chinese restaurant without Zhao Wei's pressure, Huang Xiaoming said his famous sentence: I want to feel, don't you feel. Netizens have commented on this suffocating hegemonic painting style.
In the interview, Xiaoming desperately emphasized that he hopes to be a person who can protect others and give people a sense of security. This certainly fits the definition of a good man by secular standards. But baby desperately stressed that if everyone only remembers that my husband is good to me, of course, I will not be willing.
So when Xiaoming continues to play a good husband who meets the standards in her own ideas, the more baby wants to run far, because now she has already seen through this so-called protection and hegemony has no practical significance, and even a little ridiculous, the marriage system provided by Huang Xiaoming is no longer suitable for her needs now.
So sometimes marriage is cruel, it requires you to give the other person what they really need at the moment, more important than just giving the other person the best thing, and it is also an extra place for us to learn in intimate relationships.
▲ Xiaoming hopes that he is the stronger one, the girl can rely on her more, and the baby said in an interview that he is actually not very good at spoiling.
▲ Baby hopes that when two people have a problem, Xiaoming can really know where the problem is, instead of pretending to be soft with her according to the "man must let the woman" set.
How do female celebrities re-examine intimate relationships after entering the world of capital?
They may be more inclined to use the way of capital to see the problem, when an intimate relationship can allow both parties to form a new format more closely, creating new interest growth points, they will passionately invest in unlimited, successful listing (marriage). When an intimate relationship no longer nourishes itself, it can be very straightforward to abandon it, like stripping off a bad asset.
Of course, there will be a lot of negotiations and a lot of calculations, but most of the time it is extremely rational, will not have to die to live, nor will it want to put the other party to death, because even if it is a non-performing asset, try to revitalize it, after all, it is the father of the child, the mountains do not turn, maybe in the future in the world of capital consolidation, there is room for maneuver.
▲ Just before the official divorce was announced, the two also created a lot of fog, such as taking a child baby together to wear Huang Xiaoming's common cotton jacket. Let everyone think that the two of them have been reconciled.
Under the blessing of capital, the pattern of female stars suddenly opened, they are no longer stuck to that side of the small children's love, the mountains are high and the sea is wide, there are too many things they want to do, they no longer put all their life stories and fantasies on men, some obscure wives may not be anything after losing their celebrity husbands, and after Yang Ying loses Huang Xiaoming, it may be a lighter, more determined, more complex and more mysterious existence.
The capital behind him is expanding, and at any time people need to grasp it wholeheartedly, it is a game, it is a win or lose, it is a success that will be a thousand bones, and it is also a step into the abyss.
Under the indoctrination of the capital winning and losing consciousness of "one thought of heaven, one thought of hell", the taste and demand for happiness are different from the original.
Originally, I only wanted to be a small woman behind a man, when I experienced the taste of capital, women also tasted the peak experience of success like men, and the mentality of people to things was completely different.
The philosopher said that if you can't solve the current dilemma, then cultivate yourself, when you enter another dimension, things will become solved, the original problem is no longer a problem, of course, the problem you face is more difficult to solve.
This is also the new situation of female stars who enter the capital game, when marriage is no longer a dilemma, how to find a new peak experience, achieve a new self, and establish a new intimate relationship becomes a new subject.
The only thing worth noting is that capital has made the world more complex and more postmodern, and all the people in it are facing new tests, and their taste of life has changed completely.
So this is destined to be a game for the brave, and it is also a big gamble. When Yang Ying and Huang Xiaoming's marriage comes to an end, it also means the opening of another reality show.
The woman hopes to ride the wind and waves in the world of capital, but where is the end? The man hopes to enjoy the joy of machismo in a small and beautiful family life, but who is willing to cooperate, and is he really happy? These are all questions that have no answers, and perhaps only time will be available to answer them.
What is the road to people's happiness, philosophers do not dare to jump to conclusions, can only say that everyone is on the road, difficult to ask...