Female stars in the entertainment industry seem to have few careers and families that are both successful.
Either the career is successful or the family fails.
Either the family is perfect and the career collapses.
Finding one that takes care of everything is even harder.
But the difficulty does not prove that there is none.
Actor Pan Yuchen is a special case.
Although, in a general sense, her family is not perfect.
But if you want to elaborate, it seems that it is not much worse.
After all, the family of two, which she and her daughter formed, is already much happier than most ordinary families.
So, after divorcing the old drama bone Hou Yong.
Is Pan Yuchen a radical Tailai, directly transitioning from pre-divorce pain to post-divorce happiness?
One
In 1978, Pan Yuchen was born into an ordinary family in Dandong, Liaoning Province.
Her father works at an unknown local company and her mother is a full-time cook.
If you only have one child, it is obvious that such family conditions are enough.
But what makes people sigh is that the Pan family did not only raise one child.
In addition to Pan Yuchen herself, there was a younger brother who was a few years younger than her.
Because there are many children and the labor force is only one person.
Pan Yuchen's family did not live very exquisitely.
In fact, not to mention the exquisite, even the subsistence is very difficult.
From a very young age, Pan Yuchen always kept in mind:
"Be sure to save money and share the pressure for your parents."
Overly harsh living conditions shaped Pan Yuchen's precocious puberty.
But no matter how precocious it is, it is because of age.
Sometimes, Pan Yuchen also has the childishness of a child.
Like most young children, Pan Yuchen likes to cling to her parents.
But because of her work, the only person who accompanies her is always her mother.
Of course, if only there is no ample companionship for the daughter of the foot.
Although Pan Yuchen was uncomfortable, he would not hate his father so much.
What really made her disappointed and sad about her father was that.
Her father, who had not been with her for a long time, not only apologized for his absence, but also often treated her "coldly".
Originally, Pan Yuchen was very uncomfortable because of her father's absence in her life.
Seeing her father treat her harshly again.
Xiao Pan Yuchen couldn't bear it at all, and on a monthly star-studded night, she ran away from home.
He said: "I have to go to find her biological father who often accompanies her and pampers her." ”
Still stopped by Pan's father, who was worried about his daughter's loss, this time the "running away from home" collapsed in the middle.
However, although he stopped his daughter, Pan's father, who treated his daughter super harshly, was confused.
Without him, wouldn't he be the daughter's biological father?
So why run away from home to find the biological father who doesn't exist?
Father Pan was confused for a while, but it didn't last long.
Soon, under the child's complaining, he understood.
It turned out that it was his usual indifference that made her daughter mistakenly think that she was not biological.
After figuring out such a big oolong, for the first time, Father Pan questioned his own way of education.
He began to realize that he should educate and nurture his daughter in a gentle, fatherly way.
Just because you want to develop your daughter's independence, you can't educate her in the way you think it is appropriate.
After the "run away from home" incident, Pan Yuchen grew a lot.
She saw the care beneath her father's serious countenance.
I also realized that the reason why my father treated himself so harshly was for what.
Therefore, in order not to disappoint the parents, and become a qualified eldest daughter.
Pan Yuchen began to intentionally cultivate his own character.
With her efforts, very quickly.
An independent personality with an opinion and can stick to his own ideas is thus cultivated.
Because of his interest in acting, he graduated from junior high school in 1995.
Without much hesitation, Pan Yuchen applied for the Liaoning Provincial Art School.
After a fierce "fight".
Fortunately, she walked into the classroom of the college as she wished, and studied the major of her choice.
Two
In the years of high school, Pan Yuchen worked hard and was very frugal.
Work hard, learn your homework seriously, and never be lazy.
Savings are in order to reduce the burden on the family.
Never eat out, never buy clothes and jewelry.
Except for not eating together and not buying clothes.
Pan Yuchen is also particularly economical in terms of tickets.
In order to save enough money, she does not go home almost every week on vacation.
Only during the winter and summer holidays, she was willing to spend money on tickets.
And every time I buy a ticket, I buy the cheapest green-skinned train, and I sit for more than 10 hours, and people do convulsions.
After seeing his daughter so thrifty, Pan's father was also distressed.
Repeatedly persuaded the child:
"Don't be so frugal, you should still spend it."
But even if he was persuaded, Pan Yuchen still insisted on going his own way.
In your own way, share the pressure for your family.
In general, there are two ways to reduce stress for a family.
One is open source, the other is throttling.
In order to better fulfill the responsibilities of the eldest daughter, Pan Yuchen has made efforts in both aspects.
When she was in high school, she never asked her family for a penny.
Every time it was time to pay the tuition, she would fill it with the film remuneration she earned from filming.
Sometimes there was extra remuneration, and she saved it.
After saving a certain amount, send it all to the family.
Undoubtedly, Pan Yuchen is very sensible and precocious.
But also because she was too sensible and too precocious, she took on too much burden on herself.
So much so that when choosing the direction of the future, it is very hesitant.
In 1998, he graduated from art school.
Pan Yuchen is ready to enter work early to reduce the pressure on the family.
But who knows, the teacher suggested that she go to college for further study.
At this time, there was already a literary troupe that took a fancy to her.
If you want to make money early to support your family, there is no doubt that the literary troupe is a good choice.
But if you want to go very far down the road of art, obviously, it is better to go to college.
Faced with two good options, Pan Yuchen tangled.
She didn't know whether to work early to earn money to support her family, or whether to continue to study and improve herself.
In desperation, he had to go home and ask his parents for help.
Parents who have been in their hometown since they were young and have not been to big cities but have rich experience have listened to them and are not as entangled as their daughters.
Almost immediately, they made the decision to continue their studies.
Therefore, with the full support of his parents, Pan Yuchen gave up the work of the literary troupe and chose to go to Nortel to continue his studies.
Three
During the time when Pan Yuchen went to Nortel for further study, her future husband Hou Yongzheng and his first love girlfriend Shen Rong were in love.
At that time, Hou Yongcai and Shen Rong had just entered the palace of marriage.
Between the two of them, they are sticking and getting strong.
Although the career is still not good, the sweet love is still like a pink bubble, romantically surrounding the two people.
At this time, Hou Yong, who had nothing to do with Pan Yuchen, was not yet aware.
After 12 years, he will divorce his wife, and then fall in love with Pan Yuchen, who is 11 years younger than himself, through the drama.
And 31-year-old Pan Yuchen did not expect it.
The 20-year-old self will be many years away. With this older man who is already married, a lingering love affair has a lingering love.
Pan Yuchen, who went to college, was very hardworking, just like high school.
Not to mention the practice of the basic skills, just the unintentional words casually mentioned by the teacher will be remembered by her repeatedly.
With such efforts, there is no surprise.
Before graduating from Nortel, Pan Yuchen caught fire.
However, the scope of this fire is not very large.
Only Nortel students know that there is such a good and hard-working student on campus.
But this small-scale fire didn't last long.
Over time, the environment changes.
Slowly, Pan Yuchen, who graduated from a professional college, also accumulated some fame in the entertainment industry.
Although these fames, not much.
But good villains, in the entertainment industry is not to find this person.
Four
At the time when Pan Yuchen's acting career is steadily advancing, Hou Yong, whose career has plummeted since his marriage, has also ushered in a turnaround in his fate.
In 2000, Bayi Film Studio cooperated with a film and television company in Shanghai to prepare for the film "Rushing Out of the Amazon".
For this big-budget movie, there are many actors who want to participate.
However, due to the limitation of acting skills and capital, not all actors can participate.
Only actors with hard backstage, superb acting skills and great fame can participate in the shooting.
But who knows, it is such an all-star lineup of big-budget movies, it is hard to let people talk softly Hou Yong mixed in?
In fact, the reason why Hou Yong was able to blend in was also to benefit from the help of his wife Shen Rong.
In order for this marriage between strong women and weak men to continue.
Shen Rong not only quit the entertainment circle herself, but also taught her husband and children at home.
He also used his connections to send his husband into this movie crew that just looked at it and knew that it would catch fire.
It is reasonable to say that Shen Rong has paid so much.
If Hou Yong still dumped her, he would be too unconscionable!
Obviously, Hou Yong was not such a conscienceless person.
Not to mention anything else, at least he could not do it by abandoning the matter of a sentient wife.
But even if you have a conscience, you love your wife.
Forced to have no children, the two divorced.
After the divorce, Hou Yong did not chase after the beautiful Pan Yuchen.
Although in 2005, the two met because of the TV series "Can't Live Without You".
But because there was not much contact outside the play, the two did not immediately fall in love.
At that time, Hou Yong was indulging in a passionate love affair with young actress Xing Yufei.
Here, Hou Yongzheng is in love with his daughter in the play.
Over there, Pan Yuchen has graduated from Nortel and began filming in the entertainment industry.
Five
Generally speaking, as long as it is an actress who enters the entertainment industry.
More or less, there will always be a little gossip on the body.
But Pan Yuchen is an exception.
After graduating from Nortel, she began her own life as an "ascetic".
Not to mention the scandal, even a period of ambiguity, she has never carried out.
Almost all of her mental strength was used by her to work.
And the money earned from the work is not spent indiscriminately. Whenever there is any surplus, it will be sent home.
After seeing his daughter take such care of the family, Pan's father was both touched and sad.
Touched, the daughter was really sweet.
The money earned from work is not spent indiscriminately, nor is it used indiscriminately, and all is used to subsidize the family.
Heartbroken, his own baby good daughter.
I have never bought luxury goods, I have not dressed myself, and I have been working for my family for more than 20 years.
Because of his heartache for his daughter, Pan's father still desperately hoped.
There is a man who can accompany the child instead of him.
For Pan's father's desire, Pan Yuchen turned a blind eye.
Without him, Pan Yuchen wants to rely on himself more than relying on men.
However, although he does not like to rely on men, pan Yuchen does not resist to fall in love with men.
It's just that due to work and career factors, she rarely has any contact with men.
And even if there is contact, there is rarely a feeling of heartbeat.
Of course, if it is only "few heartbeats", it is not without heartbeats.
In the long filming career, Pan Yuchen still met such a two-hearted guest.
For example, Hou Yong is the No. 1 male guest in her heart.
However, although Pan Yuchen was moved by Hou Yong, Hou Yong did not have a heart for Pan Yuchen.
When Pan Yuchen silently paid attention to Hou Yong, the veteran actor was indulging in a passionate love affair with the post-80s actress.
Or wait until this "father-daughter love in the play" is over, Pan Yuchen and Hou Yong have contact.
Six
In 2011, Hou Yong and Xing Yufei returned to their apartments and were photographed.
As soon as the photo was exposed, it immediately caused a heated discussion among the whole people.
Although as early as 2010, Hou Yong divorced his original wife.
But the single has not lasted for a year, and it is also very uncomfortable to find another girlfriend.
Of course, this is not the most uncomfortable thing about Hou Yong.
The most embarrassing thing for netizens is that his girlfriend Xing Yufei was interviewed.
He also said: "I have been in love with Hou Yong for 3 years."
To tell the truth, as soon as these words came out, Hou Yong's wind evaluation was completely ruined.
Although he has broken up with Xing Yufei, the matter of infidelity in marriage is already a foregone conclusion.
But just when the whole network was mocking Hou Yong's contemporary Chen Shimei, Pan Yuchen, who was in love with the brain, bravely stood up.
Not only to justify Hou Yong's name, but also to boldly confess his love.
Many people who did not know Pan Yuchen saw this and must have thought that this girl was crazy.
But in fact, Pan Yuchen has his own opinion.
She has always believed that Hou Yong's marital infidelity is false.
Moreover, through friends, he learned that during Shen Rong's illness, Hou Yong had not abandoned him.
Pan Yuchen was even more dead set on this man.
So, even if the parents firmly resist this older son-in-law.
Netizens are crazy against this relationship.
Pan Yuchen still did not pay attention to it, and was destined to fall in love with this man.
There is no denying that feelings should be rational.
But just as it has a fanatical, impulsive side.
Therefore, for Pan Yuchen, who has only been in love with Hou Yong for a year, he is ready to enter the marriage hall.
Nor does it seem to be difficult to understand.
But understanding is understanding, for this relationship, netizens have not supported.
It's just that the support of netizens does not affect Pan Yuchen's decision.
In 2011, Hou Yong and Pan Yuchen held a wedding ceremony at a five-star hotel in Dandong City.
In the end, the elderly Pan father Pan Mu still did not bypass his daughter and chose to support.
Seven
After marrying Hou Yong, Pan Yuchen lived a happy life.
It's just that this happy period is not very long.
It didn't last until a year, and there was a rift.
Generally speaking, if a marriage breaks down, both parties are responsible.
But Pan Yuchen's marriage is different.
Its rupture has nothing to do with Pan Yuchen himself.
If I had to say it in detail, it would all be Hou Yong's fault.
After all, since he got married, Hou Yong had not treated his wife well.
As long as he is angry in the crew, he will vent in the family.
At first, Pan Yuchen still thought that her husband was under pressure, and he thought that he would endure it.
But as Hou Yong's pressure time increased, Pan Yuchen could not hold on.
She began to fight with Hou Yong.
Slowly, the originally harmonious family began to crack.
If it is just a quarrel, obviously, Pan Yuchen will not be angry enough to divorce.
What really made her decide to separate completely was.
During pregnancy, her husband treated her with indifference.
Not to mention that I didn't take much care of her, just let her when I quarreled, I couldn't do it.
It was also because of this that Pan Yuchen realized that her husband might not love her.
Douzu was angry, and Pan Yuchen could bear it.
But if the lover does not love her, this is intolerable.
So not long after giving birth to the child, Pan Yuchen divorced Hou Yong.
This marriage, which was not supported by the public, lasted only for a short period of 2 years.
After the divorce, Pan Yuchen took her daughter to live alone.
Although the pressure is very high, she is willing to eat.
After all, a family of two with love is far better than a home of three without love.
Eight
For this failed marriage, Pan Yuchen was upset in his heart.
She regretted why she didn't listen to her parents.
I also regret that Jean's daughter, who is still a child, lived a life without father's love at a very young age.
Therefore, when facing parents and children, Pan Yuchen is guilty.
Because of this failed marriage, Pan Yuchen doubted his own judgment.
She began to distrust herself and not trust love.
Although many times, her parents persuaded her to fall in love.
But all along, she didn't want to start a new relationship anymore.
Unlike Pan Yuchen's fear of marriage, Hou Yong, who became a late bloomer, was very obsessed with love.
No, I just divorced my second wife, and I confessed to being a returnee fan on Weibo.
Because the time of confessing to The New Joy and the time of divorce are too close, many reporters think that he is confessing to Pan Yuchen.
In 2013, Pan Yuchen was a new platform.
In an interview, some media quipped to her:
"Teacher Hou Yong often expresses his declaration of love on Weibo, and you will be moved when you read it."
Originally, the reporter wanted to see Pan Yuchen show a shy look.
But who knows, Pan Yuchen not only did not show shyness, but also said coldly and simply:
"I rarely read Weibo, I don't have Weibo, and I don't look at Weibo."
After the failure of the business, the reporter was not discouraged.
Probably wanting to make a big news out, she continued the interview:
"Is Teacher Hou Yong a romantic person in private?"
After hearing this, Pan Yuchen, who was already angry, couldn't help it.
He collapsed and said, "I don't want to mention him." ”
As soon as this statement comes out, don't talk about reporters.
Even passers-by know that there is something wrong with the relationship between these two people.
Perhaps afraid of being questioned by reporters, Pan Yuchen simply broke the jar and broke it.
A mouthful burst out a large melon:
"I've been living alone with my children for a long time, without Hou Yong's involvement."
Pan Yuchen burst melon very happy, and the reporter listened to the melon very coolly.
It's just that the male protagonist of the melon field incident is not very happy.
Faced with thousands of doubts, Hou Yong really had a headache.
But even if you are upset, you have to give the public an explanation.
Therefore, not long after Pan Yuchen revealed the "separation" situation.
Hou Yong admitted to the divorce, indicating that the reason was the arrival of menopause in menopause.
Nine
Until the daughter was 4 years old, she was fostered by Pan Yuchen at her parents' house.
After the age of 4, she brought Beijing to live with her.
Because of the lack of the role of father in life, Pan Yuchen has always been very "double-sided" in treating his daughter.
On the one hand, she is a loving mother.
Will sew clothes for her daughter, will accompany her to events, and listen to her whispers.
On the one hand, she is a "strict father".
Strictly control her daughter's learning and teach her to behave as a person.
In order to give her children a good living environment, Pan Yuchen earned money and worked hard.
In addition to providing ample material conditions to her daughter, she also pays great attention to the spiritual world of her children.
Worried about the child's thoughts, she did not take the initiative to find a boyfriend.
I have always regarded my daughter as my own world.
Under such parenting, the daughter grew up very healthy.
Better than some children raised in happy families.
Yes, although the marriage was not very successful.
But from a certain point of view, Pan Yuchen's family is also very happy.
After all, the daughter and her family of two are already very sweet compared to most unfinished families.