#这才是家庭教育 #
I am a distantly married daughter. When I was young, I always felt that my father was overly harsh on us (and a sister). I never remember a time when I could be willfully coddled with my parents. After school or during the winter and summer vacations, in addition to completing homework, doing housework is a necessary task, and it must be done in place. For example, sweeping the floor, you have to sweep every corner. Every time he just picked up the broomstick, his father would tirelessly explain how to clean it to be qualified, so that he listened to it too much, and complained in his heart that he was too wordy. Other things, such as washing and cooking, what standards to meet, he will always explain while we are working, if we are a little bored, he will immediately have more big reasons waiting for you to teach. And my father's temper is very bad, maybe he didn't expect my mother to have a son, so he was often dissatisfied with me and my sister, and my mother could only stop him a little when he was too much, and she couldn't manage too much. In childhood memories, if you return home from outside, you must quietly observe before entering the door, your mother is not at home, if you are not there, you must first find out where your mother is, and then go home with your mother.
Because of this growth experience, when I first entered society and met my current husband, I only felt that it was good to be away from home (away from my father). Hastily privately decided for life, and parents could not help it, but had to agree.
The new life at the beginning is like the feeling of release after completing your sentence, free. Because in the in-laws' house, even if the two sleep until three o'clock in the day, they will not be scolded. It makes me feel very happy. But as the days went on, when I began to think about planning for the future of the family, I found that my husband was still like an unanheated child. He will neither help with the housework nor take the initiative to take on the responsibility of caring for his parents and children. So my complaints followed. However, I can only face these pressures alone, without alliances. Because the mother-in-law was a very capable rural woman, tall and tall, she used to do almost all the work in the family's field. And because she lost her mother at a young age, she raised her children almost like pets, never taught them to work, and even sometimes the children wanted to take the initiative to help, but she would refuse. The most obvious example is that my child's aunt can't cook until now, but that doesn't stop her from being the best daughter in my mother-in-law's eyes.
Maybe this is nothing to discuss, man, there are undesirable points and there must be desirable points, how to get along with people happily actually depends on their own wisdom and heart. However, from decades of married life, I have gradually felt that family education plays a decisive role in the development of a person's character. As the saying goes, character determines fate, so how a person's fate is, looking at the living environment from childhood can basically be observed, this is what the old ancestors said, one year old to see the big, three years old to see the old, it is indeed reasonable.
No matter in what era, there are people who are confused, although they have been parents for a lifetime, but they are raised and uneducated, and their descendants naturally have the hope of becoming talents, and the generations are mediocre. Only when the ancestors accumulate virtue, marry a virtuous wife, and know the book and dali, can they pass on the fortunes of the hereafter. And those so-called big families, all attach great importance to educating future generations, which is the inheritance of the so-called family rules and family style.
Now the pressure of social competition is great, people put all their minds on the outside, build connections, dig channels, cut short roads, for the name of profit all day long busy, thinking that laying a piece of the country can sit back and relax. In fact, the real crisis of life is not outside, but the heart can never get a moment of peace, and I have long forgotten how to live is the best choice. Watching dishes and eating, living within and out, ordinary and simple life does not need the brilliance of neon lights, and there is enough sunshine. This is the most rooted good tutor!
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