A person's cultivation and upbringing? What's included?
The first time I took my girlfriend home, she ate six plates of dumplings, a plate of braised pork icons, a big pig's trotter, and farted loudly. My mom told me to break up, and my dad said it wasn't that I couldn't afford it. My mom said we were sure...
I've been with my girlfriend for over a year and haven't taken her home once. I've been to her house twice. A few days ago, my parents bought me a 130 square meter wedding room and sent it over. I took her on a tour of the new house and I took the opportunity to officially meet my parents.
My girlfriend carefully selected gifts for my parents, and my parents also listed the menu a few days in advance and started shopping. My mom is good at making shrimp and three fresh dumplings. My dad's signature dishes are braised pork and braised pork trotters. They had a sumptuous dinner, a table of twelve courses. At first glance, every dish is bigger than what my family usually eats.
Because I told my parents in advance that my girlfriend is good everywhere, that is, she can eat a little. My parents disagreed. Don't eat well? Now is not the time to run out of food and clothing. They don't like girls now to cook more bowls of rice and fry two dishes. In order to pursue bone beauty, they feed on grain, and some even do not eat staple foods for several years. They were as thin as skeletons, and girlfriends could eat, but in their eyes it was an advantage. Then I will be relieved.
But when it came time to eat, my girlfriend's appetite still stunned my parents. In fact, I was worried that my girlfriend would not be able to put it down when she came to my house for the first time, afraid that she would not be able to eat enough. I'm still helping her prepare food. Unexpectedly, she walked to the dinner table and did not look up to eat, but was not welcome at all. Which dish is closed? I ate several chopsticks in a row. My mom wrapped six and a half plates of dumplings, and she ate six plates herself. A plate of braised pork with three layers of fat and thin skin was almost eaten by her. She also chewed a large piece of pig's trotter and said that breaking it into small pieces was not as difficult as a whole mouthful. My parents hardly ate, so they looked at each other and watched her eat. Maybe it would be more comfortable to eat something. She owes her ass and fart. Not only my parents, but I was also embarrassed...
I also wonder, usually we eat together, she eats boldly, this is the true temperament. After all, there is no need to pose in front of me. But this was the first time I met my parents. I have to exercise restraint. I didn't know she would. My parents' faces have changed, especially my mother, who doesn't smile at all. My heart is beating the drums.
Sure enough, that night, my mother spoke to me very seriously and told me to break up with my girlfriend, just because I was so delicious and bad ate? Or is it because of a fart? There are three kinds of emergencies that we can't control. Are you making a big deal out of it?
My dad is on my side, although he also thinks that my girlfriend has a lot of problems and is gentle and sweeping the floor, but no one is perfect, not to the point of breaking up, getting married at home, and slowly influencing her by words and deeds.
In my opinion, this is a small thing. The girlfriend is not fat, good looking, in good shape, cheerful, but a bit big grin, no heart and no lungs. Does she care about what she eats in her own home? It's just a place where you can't sit, eat or eat, burp and don't fart, take off your disguise, isn't it?
My mother said in a serious tone, "Son, my mother does not pick things, does not pick things." We can see big festivals in small things. "Mom thinks your girlfriend "won't eat"? Eating is a good thing, but what she lacks is table manners and courtesy. She was selfish when she ate, like she was the only one at the table, never taking care of other people's feelings. The dumplings were delicious, and she wiped them out almost without considering whether others wanted to eat them. This is self-centered selfishness. She may be spoiled by her parents at home, eating something delicious and not seeing anyone else in her eyes. Even if it is a true temperament, the first time you go to someone else's home decoration, you must pretend to be gentle. She didn't even pretend. Her pig's feet were full of oil, and she didn't pay attention to other people's feelings when she farted. I'm sorry! It can be seen that her habits have penetrated into her bones, and it will gradually affect her in the future as your father said, which is impossible. Such girls would be teased if they were taken out. She was both arrogant and inconsiderate at home. She was like a mother, and so was she. In the future, your child will eat like her, and your child's child will not be much better. Table manners are enough to show a person's self-cultivation, and your child's qualities may be defeated at the table! Mom just gives you a piece of advice. If you don't break up, I'll respect you. "
I listened to my mother's words and thought it made a lot of sense, and my father felt that it was really not so simple. However, after more than a year of feelings, I really didn't want to give up, and I was struggling. Is it really necessary to break up?
Bystanders say: A person's cultivation can be fully reflected at the dinner table. Different people at the same table have different cultivation.
Although the table is small, the cultivation is large. As the saying goes, "A glimpse of the whole leopard". From childhood to adulthood, personality, cultivation, and etiquette are all displayed between the dishes and chopsticks.
Eating can be seen in a person's cultivation, and the child's education starts from the table, which is not an exaggeration.
Therefore, men and mothers are right.