Dr. Lewis of Johnson Medical College in New Jersey once did a study in which he asked respondents to reflect on the number of times they lied every day, and according to statistics, these people each lied at least 25 times a day.
Of course, there are many reasons for lying, some are afraid that others will not be able to accept, some want to "euphemistically express", some are to suppress their true thoughts, some people want to maintain their own image, and some are to use lying to refuse.
We don't want to discuss the harms of lying from a moral point of view, but from a psychological point of view, we only talk about the impact of lying on people's physical health.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="5" > First, behind the insincere expression, there are repressed emotions. </h1>
Insincerity, whether it is fear of conflict, or other reasons dare not tell the truth, is a psychological defense strategy. But this kind of defense is mostly unhealthy mental defense, which is an attempt to cope with reality through psychological escape, which is easy to cause emotional problems.
In "Desperate Housewives", Bree can be described as the "perfect housewife", she is a dignified lady, her hairstyle is never messy, she has always been polite and courteous, and the dishes and chopsticks at home are polished and neatly arranged. The husband is a polite doctor, a pair of children are well-behaved and sensible, and the family is particularly polite to get along.
But in such a family, everyone is lying, everyone is hiding their true feelings, the couple has long been out of love, but they are ashamed to conduct marriage counseling; the daughter seems to be a well-behaved woman, but lives a very depressed life; the son is a typical adolescent rebel, and there is no sympathy and guilt after the trouble.
Everyone said good morning to each other in the morning, expressed their love to each other, and maintained the superficial brilliance, Bree would rather cry alone than tell her husband her true thoughts, because of face and pride, and because after getting used to disguise, she did not know how to express her true self.
However, lies cannot maintain the stability of the family, and the family's problems are eventually exposed, just like the original picture of the filter, which is completely impossible to see. If they could all speak their truth directly, the family might not break down.
People can't have too many repressed emotions, and if they are suppressed for a long time, they will have problems and their behavior will get out of control.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="28" > Second, lying can cause constant physical and mental stress. </h1>
Scientific research believes that lying makes people constantly stressed physically and mentally, which may cause digestive disorders, immune system disorders, and affect physical health.
People who lie, the cortisol in the body will also increase. Cortisol is the "stress hormone", and when it is more, it will increase the risk of inflammation, insomnia, anxiety and depression in the body. Long-term pressure increases, which can also cause problems such as decreased immunity, lower back pain, tension headaches, and menstrual disorders.
At the same time, lying makes people's stomach, chest and lungs, heart and liver need to bear additional endocrine toxin pressure, and people are under such pressure for a long time, and diseases arise.
Professor Anida Kelly, a professor of psychology at the University of Notre Dame in the United States, once conducted an experiment on "honest science" for herself, saying: "Since this fall, I have been following the principle of telling the truth. In the past, I usually slept 8 hours a day, and I would catch a cold 5 to 7 times a winter; now I only sleep for 3 hours and have never had a disease. ”
Honesty and openness reduce the worries and stress in the heart, and the body will be healthier.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="29" > third, the mouth deceives people, but the body does not lie, long-term lying is torturing the body. </h1>
Our mind deceives and deceives itself, but the body is honest, it does not lie, and the problems left by man lying are all borne by it.
I have a client who has thyroid nodules, breast nodules, and lung nodules, and she says she is sick because she is wrongly married.
She and her husband are young hair, to the age of marriage, the parents of both sides feel that they are quite suitable, they will shake them to get married, she does not know whether she loves her husband, and she is confused and married.
After marriage, she regretted it, the two people did not love each other at all, even held hands were rejected, and the husband later met someone he really loved, but for various reasons he did not divorce.
Almost every day, she is persuading herself that in addition to the bad feelings of the husband and wife, other aspects are very good, and then endure, the child is older. But she can deceive her own heart, but she can't deceive her body, and everything is a reminder to her: Your life is not as good as you think.
A large number of scientific studies have shown that people digest toxic emotions in a way that attacks the body, and eventually brews into unexpected serious diseases.
The body is the most honest, and lying and doing things that backfire will make the body reject it, which is actually torturing it.
Don't lie, be true to yourself, see your true feelings in your heart, pay attention to the signals sent by the body, and sincerely express yourself, in order to help the body "detoxify".