If middle-aged people have no money and no time, it will lead to anxiety;
Then if you have money and leisure and say that you are not happy, that is pretense.
"Little MinJia" has successfully achieved sentimentality.
The heroine, Liu Xiaomin, a 43-year-old divorced single woman, was asked by her mother to marry a man she did not like.
After the divorce, the son was sentenced to her ex-husband, and at the age of 30 she left nothing behind, and came to Beijing north drift alone, until now...
The front foot sounds painful, but on the back foot you will find:
Liu Xiaomin, the chief nurse of a large hospital, also got a Beijing hukou and owns a two-bedroom house in Beijing's fourth ring road.
She is intellectual, calm, elegant, and her life is moist. Her son's tuition fee of 120,000 yuan a year, she did not hesitate.
But one viewer was worried:
"Seeing the tuition fee of 120,000 yuan a year for the tutoring agency, I was still wondering if they would be embarrassed or a little hesitant when they paid for it, and the next line came out, I was worried about it off-screen." 」
"Little Joy", the main focus of the anxiety of the chicken baby, but the protagonist has four sets of school district houses in Beijing, and the rent alone is a considerable amount;
"Little Shed", the protagonist's two families also have a house in Shanghai, and there are millions of rewards for having a second child;
What is anxiety under these conditions? A bowl of chicken soup boiled by middle-aged people in "Xiao Min Jia" eventually becomes difficult to swallow.
Domestic dramas give up the anxiety of the poor, and the anxiety of the poor in reality is not known.
Kate Allen, a super popular illustrator and designer from Washington State, argues in her book Miss Koala's Psychotherapy Class that we can only have true happiness if we let go of the past, reconcile with ourselves, and accept our true selves.
1⃣ Reconcile with your past self
Liu Xiaomin in the play can't forget the past. She is always deliberately avoiding the past, not wanting to have any intersection with the people of the past. So when facing Chen Zhuo, she hesitated and did not dare to enter the next marriage.
Author Kate Allen argues in this book that when we can't change what has happened in the past, we should try to cultivate compassion for our inner selves, rather than remorse and guilt.
The past has happened, there is no need for us to be ashamed of the past, we should accept our past selves with compassion and then strive to be what we want to be.
2⃣ Accept and love yourself in the moment
When looking back at the end of each year, Xiaoling always has a lot of dissatisfaction with herself. Because every time she summarizes, she will feel that there are too many imperfections in life.
In fact, in the eyes of the people around her, Xiaoling is already a very good girl. But she always looked unhappy and anxious.
In fact, the beginning of self-love should be to accept the present self, not because they do not have a perfect body and inferiority; nor because they do not feel bad because they do not have a prominent family lineage; and do not worry about inferiority because their current ability is inferior to others.
In this world, everyone is unique, so it doesn't matter what our situation is or what the people around us think of us. What matters is how we see ourselves and how we turn the tables against the wind.
She combines self-affirmation, positive psychological cues, painting and other healing methods, and there are many hand-painted places, giving warm suggestions, full of healing, and slowly will find the true self in the depths of the heart, to understand themselves, to affirm themselves.
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