["Eating", "Drinking water", "Pulling stink" Do you say this to your baby? [Breeze] First, what is "mother's language"? In the 1970s, Catherine Snow spoke her mind

["Eating", "Drinking water", "Pulling stink" Do you say this to your baby? 】

[Breeze] First, what is "mother's language"?

In the 1970s, Catherine Snow spoke about experiments in psychology. All the mothers and children of the subjects were recorded playing games together. It is then analyzed.

Moms who participated in the study generally used mom language to get their children's attention, especially when they were under them, or to quiet them down when they were too excited or anxious. Moms will think of babies making distinctly meaningless sounds, no hiccup sounds and giggles, in some particular sense.

These fun interactions are not only essential for early childhood language development, but also for early childhood mental health development.

This indicates the existence of a special language or style of speech that is specifically used when speaking to infants and young children. This language is well known for its "mother's language".

Many mothers face their babies, although their hearts are loving, but words such as "eating" and "pulling stink" tell their children that he will not learn to speak as an adult.

In "Key Help in the Critical Period", Li Yue'er said, "The mother tongue is a symbol that helps children form their own spiritual connotations. Before the age of 2, the mother tongue is mainly used to practice expressing itself, pairing things with things, and communicating with the people around them, thus building human confidence in the use of language. ”

[Breeze] Second, should I use "mother language"

When a child fills the shelves with books,

A: Pat him on the head and say, "Oh, how did the book fall to the ground, come pick them up and put them away."

B: Oh how the book fell to the ground, you have to feel sorry for your mother, your mother is so busy, and you have to cook for you and clean up the house, pick it up!

Do you think it's good to use A or B?

I am afraid that two-year-olds will not understand the harsh preaching method. Using a child will pick up books with the mother, while using B will make the baby confused.

[Breeze] Third, how to use "mother language"

[Moon] (1) Do not refrain

I became a pit that I stepped on, when the child was young, I had a grandmother with me, I told my grandmother not to "eat dinner" like this, to say "eat" like ordinary people, but after my grandmother said it, there was no laughter, eating was like an adult busy going to work and pulling two mouthfuls.

I began to think that my grandmother did it on purpose, but when I fed the child, I didn't have to say "eat dinner" spontaneously. Therefore, the mother's language is endowed with emotion, and the adult's language is more rational. For very young children, a harbor of love should be created.

[Moon] (2) Simplify the locale as much as possible

I have a colleague who said one day with a sad face, "Our child should go to elementary school, but she rarely talks."

Her family's language is more complex. Her children were raised by nannies and grandmas, who basically spoke Mandarin, but grandma couldn't understand Mandarin and spoke Hokkien. But his mother can't understand Minnan dialect, and his father's skills speak Minnan dialect and understand Mandarin, but he and the nanny are both Hunan people, and this nanny also took care of him when he was a child. Mom went to work on the nanny and grandma to talk to her, on the Hokkien language, mom came back to communicate with her in Mandarin, dad came back is not two Sentences of Hubei dialect.

Causes the baby to not understand. Mom, a Beijinger, especially wanted her to speak Mandarin, but the more she taught her, the less she spoke.

Later, when the grandmother came home, the child not only spoke Mandarin, but also played with the children and did not laugh at her again.

The child must use the same dialect when she is young, the child can hear the mother's language in the mother's body, and after birth, it is still the mother's words, which allows her to quickly reduce her fear of the outside world and "eat and drink water" such a slow, emotional, pointing word, can make the child quickly link to external things.

[Moon] (3) Step by step

After the child is two years old, the frequency of "mother language" should be reduced. It can be said that "eat, let's eat" is not all of a sudden.

Just as the child grows up little by little, the way we talk to her is also the increasingly adult #parent-child relationship # #语言使用 #