Love quotient | good to say who moved our happiness - three contrasts make happiness reveal its original form

Happiness, happiness, happiness, joy, fulfillment... How familiar and untraceable these words are, waiting for me to save enough for a down payment, waiting for marriage, waiting for children to have children, waiting for children to go to college, waiting for time, we seem to be the father who chases the light of happiness. Until you close your eyes, leaving endless regrets and regrets, hey, if...

Where does happiness go? Happy away for a long time?

In fact, the source of happiness and happiness comes from the contrast of our feelings, what is feeling, what is contrast.

And listen to me, and lo and behold, when you are in a hurry, happiness is gone from you again.

Love is a beautiful feeling, she comes from the flow of energy, sensual love, rational thoughts, but also need to use the action happiness plan to land.

How do feelings arise? Sensations arise during the flow of energy, are perceived by our minds, and are products of the spiritual world. The heart, which represents the sensual part of the brain.

The production of sensations is influenced by the following factors:

First, sensations are influenced by material energy.

The intrinsic qualities of matter affect sensations. For example, if you give a girl a diamond ring and a Swarovski, the girl receives a contrast. Diamonds represent not only indestructible love, but the price tag in the girl's psychology has thrown out your love for him.

The temporal space in which matter is located affects sensation. Valentine's Day received a bouquet of fiery red roses, especially can be sent to the company unit, so that the little sisters are envious, and the feeling of good love brought by red roses is particularly strong. Hey, Mufa, girls are so vulgar.

Second, the feeling is affected by the factors of the receiver.

The story continues, if the girl's preference is white roses, you listen to the words of the flower shop owner, red represents warm love, holding a bouquet of fiery red roses, watching her and the little sister striding out from a distance, you laugh, hold the flowers in both hands, a little embarrassed, so dry silly Hehe did not even have a good word.

Oh, this flower, the recipient has grievances in his heart, and the person who sends it cannot guess the clouds and clouds.

Hey, love is really like fog like rain and like wind.

Our feelings are also influenced by the emotional state of the recipient.

It turned out that the beloved girl was criticized by her boss at the end of work, and the copy that should have been handed over last week was not only postponed but also written very perfunctorily, and even a few low-level errors occurred. Who's in the mood to smile at you? Therefore, the girl's mood is not good, you originally expected the red rose gift to be exchanged for the sweet smile and love of the beloved girl, and the soup.

Third, the sensory influencing factors come from three contrasts: the contrast of results, the contrast of habits, and the contrast of expectations. Contrast is relatively positive and negative, what is in line with our instinct is the positive contrast (instinct is the three levels of survival, life, and life), and what is achieved against instinct is the negative contrast.

Let's take a look at the first trickster who left us happy: the contrast between the results.

Result contrast refers to the contrast between two real energy bodies or between two things, generally a comparison of different things at the same time. For example, after the exam that everyone is familiar with, the annoying Xiaoming classmate who scored 100 points next door, the same teacher and the same test paper, ah, how did Xiaoming take the 100 points?

How did the contrast come about? than out.

Horizontal than, how gentle other people's wives are, the old kings next door, other people's classmates are more than 30 and everything...

Such a comparison. It will only make yourself feel depressed, dissatisfied, frustrated, depressed, etc., so happiness and happiness quietly slip away, and you two continue to compare.

Portrait ratio.

This is the wise, growth mindset of the buddy who walks the course of life. I think that back then, from the northeast of the small mountain village close to the famous school in Beijing, starting from the underground garage drifting north, while nibbling on the steamed bun while flipping over the tome, winter practice three nine summer practice three volts, and finally step by step for the camp Qingyun straight up to become a formal citizen at the foot of Tianzi, buy a house and buy a car to establish a family. This dude, who uses progress to motivate him to move forward every day, finally lived the ideal way he was when he was a child.

Often we compare the results from three angles: the contrast of different things at the same time, the comparison of the same thing at different times, and the comparison of the same thing at different angles. Smart you, you know how to catch your happiness with the contrast of results, right?

I looked again from the habit of seeing how bliss was cunning guerrilla evasion.

Each of us has two worlds, one is the spiritual world and the other is the physical world. In the physical world, there is a habit of behavior that follows us all our lives, and the one that lives in the spiritual world is called the habit of thinking. When we compare different habits, there will be contrasts that affect our happiness and happiness.

I remember traveling for many years, there was an official wife, when she entered the hotel, she looked disdainful and dissatisfied, took the key and complained to the front desk, "Hurry up and change my room, so small, so old, far worse than our home..." You see, when we have a contrast between our habits such as eating, hygiene, reading, going to bed early and getting up early, there will be discomfort, and then emotions will arise, and then emotions will come, and happiness will go away.

There are also invisible contrasts in habits of thought that affect our happiness and happiness. I went to Singapore to study, with curiosity to go shopping in Little India, so I and my friends together to find a restaurant that looks very Indian, brought rice and curry and do not know the green vegetables chicken a large plate, I waited for her to send chopsticks, half a day did not react, look at the neighboring table, hand grasp. I still called the waiter, thank you for a spoon for me. Strange and sticky, hand grasping? I can't get my hands on it, and the concubines can't do it! Scoop a spoonful and taste it, Mom, it's hard to eat, this lunch is not good at all.

Okay, let's finally talk about the expectation contrast.

Cough, the expected value is the contrast between the virtual result and the real result. Tell you a story.

There is a public meadow in front of the door of the old man' house, and the old man enjoys the quiet and enjoys the sun on the grass. But one day, a group of children began to play on the grass, very noisy. The old man wanted to drive the children away, but this meadow was a public facility after all. The old man knows that the more he drives these children away, the happier they will come to play. What to do? The old man thought of a way. He said to the children, "Little friends, you can continue to play tomorrow, as long as you come, I will give you each $1!" The children were overjoyed, so they came again the next day. After a few days like this, the old man said, "Kids, I can't give you another $1. I can only give you $0.50 each. "The children were a little displeased, but they accepted it. After a few more days, the old man said, "From tomorrow onwards, I will only be able to give you 5 cents each." The kids said, "5 cents is too little, and we'll never come again!" ”

This old man is so powerful. He successfully lowered expectations, changed the reason for children to play from "like" to "money", and then took away "money", and the contrast of expectations eliminated their interest in playing.

Back to our work and life, in fact, there is no necessary connection between your expectations and specific and actual results, it is not that you expect to become a millionaire to become a reality, nor because you expect children to be in the dragon and phoenix, he will be Tsinghua Peking University. So we can set high goals for doing things, after all, it depends on it, but at the same time, we must make the most precise plans, do the hardest actions, and make the worst plans in our hearts. I tried my best, just fine.

In fact, life is like a wave on the sea, rising and falling in happiness and pain and disappointment. Pain and pleasure are twin brothers, inseparable. As the wisdom of Ai Shang tells everyone, this is a complete world, and everything, from the universe to the dust, is a yin and yang interchangeable Tai Chi.

Dear ones, life is short and bears the weight forward, if you are trapped by the epidemic at the moment career hindered development, in the face of mortgage car loan overwhelmed pressure and pain, please hug yourself, do not be sad and do not be depressed because standing next to happy, dry tears, tell yourself, any problem has more than three solutions, the way is always more than difficult, pull the long axis after five years and look back after ten years, this ugly is nothing; if you are lucky, is the mask company is the owner of the disinfectant water business, When we see happiness, don't be overly happy, because there is pain standing next to us, because people have no near worries and must have far-sighted worries.

Life is nothing more than living in three realms, living out of height, living a balance, or living a transparent unity of heaven and man.

Well, take it easy, people live for 80 years in a lifetime, but three realms, one breath and one inhalation, one open and one close.

The Buddha said: Clench your fists, your hands are empty / Stretch out your palms, you have the whole world.

The Buddha said: Everything flows, and nothing stays forever.

The Buddha said, "Let me purify all sentient beings."

God said, "Let me open the gates of heaven."

Rich said: Let us stay away from poverty.

Mercy says: Let the world be full of love.

Finally, use today's circle of friends to make an ending, insist on the day more original, Li Hao ai shang's book plan thanks for your companion blessing. If you like to interpret life from the perspective of love business, pay attention to me, the world is so big, don't lose me!