What is the meaning of the proverb "three thousand miles of cousins, five hundred years of cousins" left by the old ancestors?

Cousin, the appearance of the foreign meaning, generally means the uncle, aunt, aunt three kinds of close relatives of the descendants, the reason why it is said to be a cousin, because it is not the same family name, and generally do not live in the same place, but scattered in various places.

Cousins, tang refers to the main room in the family, generally used to indicate the kinship relationship with the grandfather, is the descendant of the father's brother or brother, is the same surname, has a common grandfather, although not a concubine, but not far, and all live together in one place.

From ancient times, there is such a proverb that "cousins are three thousand miles, cousins are five hundred years"; what does this sentence mean, and what kind of deep meaning does it have, Song Anzhi said today.

For such a sentence, some people understand it in this way, thinking that it means the kinship relationship between relatives, even if there is a distance of three thousand miles, even if it has been five hundred years, it is unbreakable and will not change with distance and time.

In fact, this explanation is not reasonable, first look at the first half of the sentence "cousin three thousand miles", in fact, the meaning is that the cousin is very far away, this three thousand miles means that the distance is far, and in life most of the cousins do not live in the same place, with the death of the previous generation of relatives, the following represents the brothers and cousins may still walk around, but what about the next generation?

With the problem of distance and time, there will be less and less movement, and even the next generation will not know each other, the relationship will become more and more distant, and gradually contact will be broken.

Otherwise, how can there be a saying that "one generation of relatives, two representatives, and three generations are all unknown", otherwise why not say "second generation hall"?

Of course, the reason why cousins are three thousand miles away is not because there is any difference in blood, seriously speaking, cousins and cousins are actually the same blood relations, but there are two biggest differences between cousins and cousins, one, not living in the same place: second, not the same surname, so with the passage of time will become more and more distant.

Let's talk about the second half of the sentence "five hundred years of cousins", which should mean that the relationship between cousins will last for a long time, so it is described as five hundred years.

As for why this is so, because it is the same ethnic group, there is a common ancestor, usually living in a place, with this layer of blood relations will naturally help each other, like my hometown, there are two big surnames in the village, out of the five services, although it is not how close the relationship is, but after all, it is the same clan, compared to people who are not of the same clan, the natural relationship is better, and within the five services, it may not usually seem to be close, but there are things that will help each other in the past, and some grandfathers are cousins, and they are still close and united.

Some people may not know much about the word "five clothes", here to say: the meaning of five clothes refers to the ancient mourning clothes according to the relationship with the deceased divided into five kinds, referring to the grandfather, great-grandfather, grandfather, father, their own five generations, and later with the passage of time, mainly with the use of five clothes to indicate the distance of family relations.

Although now with the development of society, the improvement of living standards, many people move to the city to live, but still with the same ethnic brothers continue to contact, because the hometown is his root, every year will go back, maybe later to go back to the pension, even if not often go back, because there is a common ancestor, every year the Qingming Festival will also go to the grave together to worship the ancestors, so the close relationship between the cousins, will continue for a long time, even the next generation, the next generation, will still contact and move, will help each other, even out of the five clothes, there will be contact, there will be contact, After all, the same race, after all, live in the same place.

In fact, the most critical place is that the cousins are all with the same surname, have common ancestors, and live in the same village, they will definitely support each other, push forward for decades, before the villages in Rural Areas of China, mostly concentrated with one surname, or one or two or even several large clans live together, and even large clans have formed villages or townships.

Like my hometown, there are about twenty surnames in the village, but most of the surnames are from the desert in the 1940s and 1950s, in the 800-year history of the village, there were mainly two big surnames living before, it can be said that the ancient countryside, that is, the world of the clan, most of the rural areas are mainly inhabited by one or two or three surnames, in this environment, the cousins of this close relationship, because there is a common ancestor, and in the same place, naturally closely united, after a few generations, let alone within the scope of the five services, Even if there are five costumes, they are still the same clan and surname, and they are still within the scope of their own people, so the natural hall has been relative for five hundred years.

So to put it simply, the deep meaning of the proverb "cousin three thousand miles, cousin five hundred years" left by the ancestor is that the cousin will become more and more distant, and the cousin with the same surname, with a common ancestor, lives in the same place, and the relationship will last for a long time.

Finally, objectively speaking, there is no absolute, although it is reasonable to say that the cousins have the same ancestor and live in the same place, they will definitely be closely related, and the cousins are not in the same place, and it is good to maintain a generation as the elders pass away one after another.

But in specific life, there are different personal circumstances, not necessarily because the cousins are in the same place, there will be a common ancestor will be more intimate, like some people are getting along well with cousins, naturally closer, and in general, parents and uncles, aunts, aunts and relatives such as these relatives have no conflict of interest, the relationship is better and longer maintained, the next generation of cousins are naturally easy to get along with.

And between brothers and sisters, because of interests, because of the different opinions of each other's wives, there are still fewer cases of getting along intimately, more is there is awkwardness in the heart, and even turn against each other, just like the enemy, then the next generation of cousins, influenced by the previous generation, this relationship is harmonious, do you get along well, it is often difficult.

So everything is not absolute, the specific or depends on the personal situation, or depends on how to get along with each other, whether it is a cousin or a cousin, get along well, that is, relatives, do not get along well, just relatives, even blood relations of the bland friendship.

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