Little Pan Emotional Beauty Series
Xiao Pan talks about love and signs the author original
01
Workplace rookies, I believe this is the most unwilling evaluation of every workplace person, after all, entering the workplace, who does not want to show their ambitions?
However, some people, despite their empty ambitions, have not improved in their careers for a long time, but have become more and more confused and have become the most marginalized person.
You know, the taste of being excluded in the workplace is not good, not only will you encounter trouble with your colleagues, but you may even be maliciously destroyed by your colleagues, obviously have the ability to work, but in the end you can't work smoothly because you are excluded, and your mood is also depressed.
In fact, those who are excluded in the workplace are more or less related to their own personality, because the workplace is a small river, ability is only a part, when working is inevitable to deal with people, so the attitude and way of dealing with the world also determines whether they can adapt to the workplace environment.
And if you don't want to be excluded in the workplace, you must make yourself a powerful "marginal person".
02
Don't blindly "take sides"
Maybe when it comes to marginalized people in the workplace, many people will have a feeling, as a workplace person, who does not want to be the focus? Only when it becomes the focus, can it have the opportunity to be valued by the leadership and will be promoted.
But truly intelligent people will choose Mingzhe to protect themselves and put themselves in a reasonable "marginal range", so that they will not cause trouble in their work because of complex interpersonal relationships, and at the same time, they can protect themselves.
People who are familiar with the workplace know that many times, it is not important to want to carry out their work smoothly, it is important to choose the right "team", because where there is a workplace, there is a competition for interests, and there is a differentiation of people's hearts.
Colleague Xiao Wu was very clever when he first entered the company, and anyone who had gotten along with him thought he was a smart person, but Xiao Wu failed to use his wisdom where he should use it.
Soon, he saw that there were several major factions in the company, and he looked at the director of the sales department, so he deliberately tried to please him, hoping to get promoted.
What Xiao Wu did not expect was that not long after, the director was fired from the company because of mistakes in his work, and this time, because of the mistake of standing in line, Xiao Wu, who had offended many colleagues, also suffered, suffered exhaustion at work, and finally had to propose his resignation.
On the other hand, her colleague Lingling, a seemingly weak girl, is very firm in her heart, no matter who wins her over, she never chooses to deliberately maintain an overly intimate relationship with anyone.
In Lingling's heart, doing her own work is the most important thing, which also allows her to promote her from a small clerk to the director of the design department, and truly realize her work ambitions.
Many people want to find shortcuts in the workplace to get a faster promotion speed, so they will choose to "take sides", hoping to borrow the strength of others and get the results they want.
However, such an approach can easily involve oneself in the vortex of unnecessary interests, which is not conducive to proving oneself at work.
At this time, being a "marginal person" who protects himself is not the best way, not only to avoid violating the interests of others and being excluded, but also not to let yourself make choices against your heart.
03
Don't be a "good old man"
Remember that in a series, a girl known as "Post-it Notes" became the epitome of many people in the workplace, the reason why it was called "Post-it Notes" was because she was a good old person in the workplace, no matter where she was needed, she was as convenient as a Post-it note to be called.
At first glance, it seems that such a person will definitely have a good relationship in the workplace, but in fact, such a person will only be less and less valued, and even ostracized by colleagues.
Good old people mean that the requirements of colleagues are "not rejected", whether it is their own job, they will try their best to meet the requirements of their colleagues, and they will invisibly affect their own work.
As a leader, he will not care whether you have helped your colleagues, he only cares about whether your own work has been completed and how it has been completed.
Therefore, those who choose to be good old people in the workplace are actually spending their own time and cost to achieve others, and it is precisely because of this lack of principle, do not know how to refuse, but will make colleagues do not cherish your help at all, and finally you have become a dispensable person in the workplace, colleagues casually call you, the leader does not pay attention to you, and your meaning in the workplace is lost.
Friend Xiaoya is a very gentle girl, when she first entered the workplace, her heart was full of anxiety, afraid that making mistakes would drag down colleagues, so no matter what others needed to do, she rushed to help.
After a long time, colleagues know that there is something to find Xiaoya, and she herself is very happy, thinking that this is a mingling with colleagues.
However, Xiao Ya slowly found herself being excluded by her colleagues, knowing that she was trying so hard to help, why would she still be excluded? Xiao Ya felt very aggrieved.
Once in the bathroom cubicle, Xiao Ya heard the small talk of colleagues, and only then did she know that she was a miscellaneous person in their eyes, doing all kinds of chores, but her work performance was not outstanding, which made them feel that Xiao Ya was a person who did not need to be respected, and she did not need to thank her when she helped.
From that day on, Xiaoya learned to refuse, and although she became a "marginal person", she had more time and energy to do her job well.
At the beginning of the transformation, colleagues were very surprised, and even quite critical, but seeing Xiaoya's rapid work achievements, everyone did not dare to despise her anymore.
04
It can be seen that being a person who knows how to refuse may offend some people, and may make others feel that they are not easy to get along with, and they are invisibly on the edge of the workplace, but in reality? It is actually yourself who benefits.
Because you reject the unreasonable requirements of others, you will make others dare not despise yourself, because you save time, so you can do your work better, which is paving the way for your own career promotion.
A person's personality determines fate, but also determines interpersonal relationships in the workplace, people who have experienced it know that if you want to live comfortably in the workplace, you actually have to keep a distance from others, and the real people who can make friends are friends, not colleagues.
If you master this scale and understand that there is only cooperation and cooperation between colleagues, then you will be able to work more smoothly and your mentality will be calm.
However, if the scale is not mastered well and the focus of the work is wrong, in the end, you can only become the object of exclusion.
Therefore, instead of trying to find various shortcuts and finally being ostracized, it is better to let yourself become a powerful "marginal person" first.
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