Brushing the news this morning I saw an old topic: Why do you feel that Liu Xing in "Family with Children" is always excluded?
This topic will be on the front page every once in a variety of forms. To be honest, when I was a child, I still liked this drama, thought it was funny, and watched it as a comedy. Of course, he is indeed a sitcom.
But now if you want me to look at it again, I can't watch it at all, only complain. As for the reason for the complaint, it is because of the topic at the beginning.
When I was a child, I couldn't understand it, I only knew that the family was lively and happy, and now all I saw was Liu Xing's weak and helpless appearance. Although he is very naughty and his grades are not good, these should not be the reasons why he is not trusted and excluded.
Liu Xing in the TV series has a big grin, no heart and no lungs, no matter how his parents and siblings mock and wrongly accuse him, he still grows up healthy and happy. But what if Liu Xing is a child in real life? The situation may not be so optimistic.
Therefore, this classic "Family with Children" is actually only suitable for children to watch, they can learn Liu Xing's mentality, not to be scolded by their parents for two sentences on the emotional collapse, and then learn Xiaoxue's efforts to learn, good grades. As for the parents, don't look at it, because I am afraid that when you see their family enjoying themselves, you will think that "it is okay for the child to be honest, and it is okay to be scolded and wronged", "You are a brother, you want to let your brother"...
Actually, you know what? "Family with Children" is a remake of a very classic American drama "Growing Pains".
In order to make the family contradictions more prominent, "Family with Children" sets the plot as a reorganized family of stepmothers and stepmothers. Maybe you want to make something different from the original, or you want to make the plot local, but you still draw a tiger not an anti-dog. The comedic effect of "Family with Children" is there, but these comedic effects are placed on the sad Liu Xing, and after the audience "hahaha" reads it, they can neither get the actual empathy nor the educational significance.
On the other hand, "Growing Pains", this American drama has really affected the Chinese generation, especially the post-80s generation. Every summer vacation when I was a child, my favorite thing to do was to stay by the TV and watch "Growing Pains".
I said that "Growing Pains" has influenced a generation of Chinese people, not only because it accompanied our childhood, but also because it guided us in the direction of life.
The Growing Pains family
The play tells the story of the Silver family living in the suburbs of the United States.
The family's dad, Jason Seaver, is a psychiatrist who works from home.
Mom, a newspaper reporter who had been a housewife at home for 10 years, returned to work with the support of her husband.
There are also three children: Mike, Kellor, and Benn. Mike is mischievous and has poor grades; Kellor is sensible and has excellent grades; and his younger brother Ben is eccentric.
Mike, Kellor, Ben
That's how the story begins, with a home-working dad in charge of most of the three little ones. Children will encounter love, exams, skipping grades, choices, and various small troubles in the process of growing up, and parents can help children resolve them with wit. There is no rigid preaching, but let the child think for himself "why not".
Once, Mike tried to cheat his younger siblings of money, and in order to make Mike feel cheated, the family teamed up to do a big thing.
First, his younger brother Benn said he had bought a magic stone for $5 to help you fulfill your wishes. No one believed such a fake routine, and his mother and brothers and sisters laughed at him for being deceived. However, Magic Stone helped her mother find the insurance policy and cured her mother's toothache, and everyone else said "coincidence".
At night, Dad asks Mike to tidy up his room, and Mike tries to make a perfunctory remark, but dad finds out. At this time, Benn came with the magic stone, and he drew two circles on the door with the magic stone, saying "Clean the room quickly" while comparing. Mike, of course, didn't believe it, and as he opened the door and was about to laugh at the magic stone, he was stunned by the scene before him: the dirty clothes on the floor were gone, the garbage was all packed, and the bed was clean.
Mike didn't believe it, and he was troubled by his speech assignments, so he immediately paid for the magic stone and bought it back. At this point, the younger siblings' cheated money all came back. As for the Magic Stone really helping Mike's speech assignments? Of course not. What happened to the room, it turned out that the mother and sister hid in the closet in advance, taking advantage of the fact that the brother was casting magic outside the door, and took all the garbage from the room.
The reason why I was impressed by this story is because after watching this episode, I also ran outside the house to find a stone for a long time, hoping to find a magic stone. When I was a child, I thought it was funny, but now I look at it, and it is full of wisdom.
Dad and Mike
There was another episode that also impressed me, my sister Cairole preparing to skip the class, and my father worried that she would have no friends, no social life, and would be unhappy. Kailuoer said that I could succeed early by jumping one level, and I didn't have to regret it like my mother.
Mom was very sad to hear this, and she repeatedly explained to Cairo that she had never regretted it and was very happy to have three babies. Later, Mom and Dad also used a way to make Cairo believe that her mother chose to be a housewife, never regretted it, and never expected to open Luoer to achieve her ideals.
Cairole: Mom, I know, you want me to have a happy family
Mom: No, it's not
Cairo: Mom, you wish I could get into a good university
Mom: No, I want you to have your own choices and choose to do what you love
As for why you like this paragraph, needless to say, you must know that who doesn't want such parents. When I was a child, I looked at it as envy, and now I see it as a wake-up call.
The best dad and mom
When watching this play, I saw for the first time the life of the Middle Class in the United States, and it turned out that children did not have to be beaten when they did wrong; it turned out that communicating with their parents could be used in that way; it turned out that every child in the United States would have his own room; it turned out... Not hitting or scolding can really educate children well.
In the play, there are not only cars and bungalows, but also the enviable American parent-child model of getting along, they are self-reliant, equal, optimistic and independent. And most importantly, this drama gave me the right outlook on life.
I miss this family so much!
As you all know, there is a kind of parent called "Chinese parents", whose common denominator is "I am all for your own good", who are self-centered and used to doing everything and controlling everything in their children, or the other extreme: free-range. In short, Chinese parents, whether they are "everything-packed" or "free-range", have a tragic color.
They don't reason with you, they don't answer questions when you're confused, they don't communicate with you on an equal footing, they just say, "We do this all for your own good."
When I watched "Growing Pains" 20 years ago, it gave me a great impact and brought me endless yearning and envy. Unfortunately, parents don't have time to watch, even if they have time, they like to watch Jin Yong Gulong's martial arts dramas, this kind of noisy foreigners, how to get into their eyes.
Later, I talked about this topic with my husband, and it turned out that this drama was also his life mentor. His father was stern, slightly stubborn and old-fashioned, and his childhood was repressive.
When he was a child, the most he did every day was to sit in the doorway in a daze, and the rest of the time he would either play the Little Bully game console or watch TV series. Hanging out? Impossible, because his dad was worried that he was being bullied, worried that he was playing with dirty clothes, worried that the children outside would take him bad...
The thing my husband fears the most is when Dad is at home. Because the atmosphere is very depressing, and Dad is very strict, the meal must be eaten without a grain; no matter how much food is clipped to you, it must be eaten all; when the homework is not done, a slap is thrown over...
He said that he was fortunate to meet the play "Growing Pains" and took him out of the haze, and the words that the father in the play said to his son and daughter, he fantasized that they were said to himself. "Daddy" encouraged him, guided him, and then slowly found the meaning of life and the direction of life.
Dad in the play
But are you saying that my husband's dad doesn't love him? Definitely not, there are good food and good uses at home, he cares everywhere in life, and everything he does is "for your own good". But in the end, the child is miserable, which is probably the saddest place for "Chinese-style" parents.
The drama "Growing Pains" has been almost 20 years in the past, but in my opinion, it is still a classic within a classic. The mode of getting along, the concept of family education and the parenting method are always worth learning.
When I was a child, watching dramas was envy, and now watching it again is learning and understanding. I hope that through the efforts of our generation, our children can live the kind of family life that American children lived decades ago, not materially, but spiritually.
I hope that we can be the guide for our children, instead of 20 years later, they are still complaining about "Chinese parents", but proudly saying "my parents are too powerful, I love you".