At present, the number of depressed patients in China is increasing year by year, reaching tens of millions. Among these depressed people, some are willing to share their melancholy, pessimism and world-weariness with others. And more people wrap themselves up and are reluctant to dissect themselves to others, like a flat boat drifting on the ocean, lonely but unable to find a place to reach the shore.
In the process of talking with many depressed patients, they found that they would rather tell each other about the bitter water to netizens they have never met on the Internet, rather than confide in their feelings or inform their physical conditions to friends and family. To sum up, there are three reasons.
First, feel that others can't understand
Whether intentionally or unintentionally, most people still say they can't understand the three words of depression. In their view, depression is not a disease, but that those people are a little arrogant, or too glassy, like the flowers in the greenhouse can't withstand the beating of a little rain. Usually, you should go out and walk around more, and don't close yourself off all day.
Some depressed friends said that when they plucked up the courage to tell their best friends that they were suffering from depression, in exchange for not understanding and care, but incomprehensible eyes, the heart was like a balloon that was burst in an instant. Since then, he has never mentioned this to his friends, even his best friend can't understand, and how can others understand his feelings.
Second, fear of adding trouble to others
Friends with depression, if they are reluctant to talk to others, may also be because of fear of adding trouble to others. A 28-year-old depressed patient said that depression is a personal matter, you can take your own medicine for treatment or control yourself, there is no need to convey the negative emotions in your heart to your family or friends, in addition to adding annoyance to others, there is no sense of solution.
Third, fear of being discriminated against by others
I have to admit that in the eyes of some people, they see depressed patients as mentally abnormal people, and will stigmatize them with colored glasses. For people with depression, instead of being treated as mentally abnormal people by others, it is better to cover themselves up. In addition, with the popularization of stigma, the stigma of depressed patients will continue to increase, and they will refuse to open their hearts even more.
Feeling incomprehensible to others, fear of causing trouble to others, and fear of being discriminated against are the three main reasons why depressed people are reluctant to talk about themselves. If you are in this closed, non-talking space for a long time, when negative emotions or stressful times occur, depressed people may make some harmful moves.
If you suffer from depression and feel that you have lost the whole world, no one loves you, and no one wants to listen to your sadness and pain. Go back and think about whether you didn't want to communicate with friends and family or if the reality was really not going well. If you have family and friends who love you, please be bold and confident to open your heart to them, your health and safety is what they value most. If there are really no people who understand themselves in reality, there are many things like tree holes where they can seek to talk to them through the Internet.
If your friend or family suffers from depression, when they close themselves off, they should take the initiative to choose companionship, not necessarily to talk to them, but through a way to convey their love and understanding, perhaps when they feel a sense of trust in you, they will also open their hearts to tell you something buried deep in their hearts.
Exercise regularly, see the doctor regularly, and this beautiful accident may soon disappear!