Hello, welcome to "Life in Books".
Today, the book we read together is called "Fourteen Creative Lessons in Life", and I will explain the essence of this book to you in 5 issues, and this issue is the 3rd issue of co-reading.
For most people, accidental success is not difficult, the difficulty is to make success from accidental to inevitable.
Some people are satisfied with doing something fast and well, while people with large patterns pursue countless successes and progressive progress.
Pattern is your vision of the world. Only by standing tall can we see far, widely, and deeper.
Therefore, when you have mastered one or two skills through concentrated study, and feel that you have done a lot of work, what you need to do is to continue to improve your level, enlarge your vision, and expand your pattern.
So how do you do that? Let's continue to follow in the author's footsteps and listen to his advice.
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The author's advice is to read more novels, epics, and movies.
For example, the Polish director Krzystów Kzystów. Kislowski's "The Ten Commandments", "Two Flowers", "Blue", "White", "Red", British director Peter. Greenaway's "The Belly of the Architect", "The Death of the Composer", and the Danish director Russ. Feng. Trier's "Hospital Storm", "Breaking the Waves", "Dancer in the Dark", etc., these are all film masterpieces that show the world of life and care.
The directors integrate their worldviews, outlooks, and values into their own works, and in just two or three hours, they string together the lives of several key characters, and the opportunities and plot design are incomparable.
For example, in Dancers in the Dark, the director used 100 cameras just to show a simple story in all directions.
There is also "Death of a Composer", the director puts the various forms of theater, plot, and news documentary in the same timeline, like an encyclopedia to show a wealth of visuals and imagery.
It is the directors' different vision from ordinary people that can show unparalleled artistic beauty under the seemingly unrestrained scale of freedom.
In the films of these directors, it can be really felt that their vision is from the sky overlooking the rolling earth.
Most of the above film works are from male directors, and there are relatively few female directors.
And the author specifically proposes that women should not be entangled in their own gender and venture forward.
The proportion of female creators in history is relatively small, in large part because of the low status and education of women in the past.
In the current era when women are the most free, women's meticulous thoughts, carefulness and patience can fully show life works that are different from men's perspectives. And the work is more delicate and the perspective is more unique.
For example, Luo Zhuoyao, who has filmed "Floating Life" and "Meet the Goddess of 1967", and Mira, an Indian female director who has filmed "Desire and Wisdom" and "Monsoon Wedding Banquet". Ms.
Therefore, women must not be bound by their own gender, enlarge their own pattern, do not care what others think of you, do not cling to the appearance of women, give up the attachment to appearance, figure, face, can also create a unique charm of the big production.
The film work "Frida", which shows the vitality of women, tells such a woman.
With great courage, Frida, a Mexican female painter, overcame the pain of the car accident and used her paintings to present the tenacity unique to us women.
"Snow Cave" shows us the story of a female practitioner who is not bound by gender and is a celibacy ascetic, which also touches and admires us.
Whether it is a man or a woman, as long as you are born as a human being, you must have the strength to open up, to create, to enlarge your own vision, to expand your own pattern, you can create your own meaning of life.
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In the process of growing up, we will inevitably be compared with others and ourselves.
When I was a child, I would be compared with my grades and height by my parents and teachers; when I grew up, I would be compared with my friends and colleagues to compare my identity, status, and money. Life is in such a comparison, reduced to two outcomes of success and failure, and ignores the harvest in the long course of life.
There are many people around us who can read and have good grades, but poor interpersonal relationships, they do not know how to share, selfishly maintain their own knowledge, and even more become exquisite egoists, for their own selfish desires, hurt the people around them.
Comparing with others, taking others as imaginary enemies is actually a zero-sum game. Both sides of the game aim for their own best interests, and the victory of one side is at the expense of the defeat of the other.
That is to say, the result is not only that it is not beneficial to society, but also that personal interests cannot be maximized, which is a typical behavior that harms others and harms oneself.
Knowledge itself is progressive in the sharing and collision of each other, and the comparison with others is only the most boring and meaningless criticism.
I am my own biggest challenger, I have nothing to do with others, just finish myself.
Even if we have too many constraints in the system, we can use a small part of ourselves to meet the requirements, and other parts can grow according to their own rules and their own steps, and they can still go out of their own way.
The most important thing is not to be distracted, not to be swayed by the opinions and opinions of others, to make yourself a soldier, to shake left and right, and finally to lose yourself and be replaced by others.
So often jump out, from the perspective of the bystander to see if they are caught in the rules of the game set by others, correct themselves in time, adjust themselves, and return to their ideals and tracks.
In the process of achieving your goals, you will definitely encounter such and such people to set obstacles for you.
At this time, try once or twice, if you still can't get by, don't work hard, don't think about defeating and believing in the other party, it will only hurt both sides, and consume your own energy in vain.
To believe that there are more than three solutions to everything in the world, there will not be only one way. Jump out, stand a little taller, and see if there's any other way. Choose a farther road, run faster, experience a different scenery in the middle of the road detours, and you can also reach your ideal city.
Moreover, if you encounter a form that is not favorable to you, you have to find a way to create your own rules of the game.
Sun Tzu said, "He who makes good use of soldiers is first invincible, so that the enemy can be victorious." ”
That is to say, those who are good at fighting must first not be defeated by the enemy, and then wait for the opportunity to defeat the enemy.
If you encounter a strong opponent, you quietly do what you should do, concentrate on learning your homework, concentrate on cultivating strength and physical strength, and then wait for the opportunity to move and break through the siege.
If you are more patient, then the self-explosion when waiting for the energy to gather will reach the highest state of victory without a fight.
If you play the rules of the game beautifully, everyone will naturally play with you.
In self-evaluation and self-improvement, the standard does not need to be too high, improve a little bit every day, accumulate less into more, and become a river.
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To expand the pattern, it is also necessary to cultivate a variety of skills from multiple angles, grow more tentacles, and connect with the world.
In our era of rapid development and change, many industries will disappear overnight, like today's offline physical stores, who could have imagined such a decadent decadence more than 10 years ago?
So just one or two professional skills are definitely not enough.
The author's advice is to practice these two skills to the extreme, to the point where you can navigate even when you are in danger; practice until you are in the top 5 when someone else mentions the field. Then, all that needs to be done is to broaden the scope and develop the adjacent professions around it.
For example, you'll design graphics, then you'll animate, you'll make websites, and then someone will come to you for a movie. At the same time, you can also cooperate with literature, music, theater and other fields.
Here, the author gives the example of the Danes. Denmark is a very small country because it is very small. Cooperation is essential. They can do business with any country in the world, speak two or three languages per person on average, have strong communication and coordination skills, and take care of each other and help each other. It is their diversified, global and international attitude to survival that makes them the most recognized country in the world as the best at marketing themselves.
The author likens a person with multiple skills to a porous, multi-style socket with an autologous power. He believes that in addition to our own strong professional ability. It is also necessary to have strong foreign language skills so that it can be in line with the world and have the opportunity to have the capital to absorb fresh nutrients.
Similarly, he encourages young people to succeed early.
He said 30 years old is key in this day and age. If you have not made a little achievement in your 30s, your chances will be less and less in the future.
BusinessWeek once published a sentence like this:
Life can be golden more than once, but if you don't bloom for the first time at the age of 35, you will never blossom in this life.
This sentence seems cruel and inhuman, but it tells a truth about life.
The age of recruitment for large companies is the primary condition, and once people after the age of 35 are unemployed, it is difficult to find a job.
So the author advises his students to be as prepared as much as possible during college. Learn knowledge through reading; learn wisdom through interactions with friends, classmates, family, and teachers.
Participate in more competition activities, let yourself show your face, practice your hands, and concentrate on practicing on weekdays to accumulate experience. At the beginning, don't worry too much about money and honor, when you have sufficient strength and ready combat effectiveness, you will naturally seize the sudden opportunity to show your skills.
The movie "Genius Network Dream" tells about such a group of young people. They just got out of school. Brave and determined. In order to seek investment, boldly and fearlessly propose to high-level authorities. There are places that I don't understand, and I make up for it all night. They never timidly or withdraw because they are novices, but cultivate their career and wisdom equal to their peers through contact with customers.
Because of their hard work and dedication, they grew much faster than their peers, making them go from obscurity to Internet upstart, and even invited to the White House.
Therefore, what you do has to look like what you do, and the nuances of attitude are the determinants of the gap between you and your peers.
While their company eventually went out of business because of the dot-com bubble, they've already fought a beautiful battle. The experience of success has also penetrated deeply into their minds, and they have time to fight again.
So youth is capital, and even if it fails, there is a chance to start over. Stop using youth as an excuse, now is the time to start doing big things.
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Fourteen Life Creativity Lessons: All three volumes are available for ¥35
In this issue, we talked about how after practicing the basic skills, we should continue to improve our own level, learn from the big directors at the international level, enlarge our own horizons, and expand our own patterns; don't care about the evaluation of others, grow in your own way; cultivate your own many peripheral skills from multiple angles to make yourself better connected with the world.
In the next issue, we will follow in the footsteps of the author, face the setbacks, and start a wise life.
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