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Original Xie Yuexian Yuxin
I overheard a friend talk about the situation that the child brought with him when he was a child: his own recovery was not very good, and the child was always crying at night... Finally she said, "I really want to throw it away!" ”
Too often, we give beautiful words to our mothers because we know that every weak life that comes into the world is inseparable from the mother's careful care and hard work.
But don't forget that every weak woman is still a weak woman in the moment she becomes a mother. Especially after giving birth, the body and mind have a series of changes, and it is also a person who needs to be extremely cared for. But in real life, except for a few new mothers with more harmonious family relations who can be well cared for, many new mothers who have not yet recovered physically and mentally cover almost all the tasks of caring for their children.
Being a mother should be a natural sublimation within the mother, not a moral slogan that is used to ask the mother. Every young mother who can truly be a mother must have a full of love to fill her heart, and without the filling of necessary love, it is really difficult to naturally produce a tenacious maternal love for motherhood. For example, those young daughters-in-law who have a general relationship between the two mother-in-laws and a tense relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Unfortunately, this kind of life situation of family tension abounds in real life.
Originally weak, sensitive, and kind women have fantasized about having a responsible and courageous Prince Charming to save themselves when they grow up. It was not until after marrying into the strange mother-in-law's family that the so-called Prince Charming only existed in fairy tales, and the person next to him in the secular marriage not only could not protect himself in time, but also often added to the chaos. The more difficult mother-in-law relationship, the concubine relationship, etc. test themselves day and night. Then a new life is born...
At this moment, the women who were originally trapped in the "embattled" had to use all their strength to protect the new life. The kind of suffering that is cold all over the world but has to work hard to grow the light is incomprehensible to any man, because they do not need to marry, they do not need to integrate into the life of a new family. Sometimes it's too cold and you have the idea of giving up, just like the friend who said earlier.
Women themselves are weak, but any weak can accumulate huge energy, take good care of the weak and urinate to take care of every present and future. Weakness is for pampering, not harshness. After taking good care of the weak, warm and beautiful emotions can appear. "Soft and weak is strong" Every weak contains full of strength, and only the weak and small can be cared for by the family can grow the strength of love and the tenacity to work hard.
Mother is the birthplace of the emotional and ideological values of family life, and more care and cultivation can grow a good family style and form a good fashion. Otherwise, the weak and small forces cannot be cultivated and developed, and family life will lose the warmth, romance, poetry and distance of "living water from the source".
When the family lacks the necessary love, life falls into the wilderness of indifference. In such a situation, blindly demanding the behavior of young mothers to be mothers is tantamount to using moral ropes to tighten mothers who are already breathless. Think of how frightening, this beautiful lie of "motherhood is just"!